What would you do if you found out your auntie was on OF?

You are not 'in this modern world', yet you're young enough to have an aunt on OF. Sure. People aren't fooled, mate.

What's a KC?

You haven’t done anything wrong. The consequence of her family not being happy with her is very natural and follows from her choices. Which are wrong choices, btw. It’s wrong to have an OF account and wrong to promote on TikTok with explicit photos. Whatever happened to society that we can’t say this is wrong and pussyfoot around the issue and reframe as being free/ grown up/ not my business, etc. It’s immoral. I don’t like your aunt and wouldnt want to have anything to do with her.

I think you got all the sarcastic, doubting replies because of the time you posted. People need to remember not to post a reply if they think it’s not genuine and to simply report.

"Like I said, she's a grown adult not my business" - then proceeds to immediately tell her mother.

I'd file this away in my brain as "never saw it".

Kings counsal?

😂 King Charles? (Would defo break Only Fans' servers, mind you!)

No a Kings Counsel
A top Barrister
They were QCs when the Queen was alive
Now they are KCs

🤣 of course ..I read it a few times and stupidly didnt get that. Thank you.

Wow your aunty is behaving unbelievably.

Mine are in their 60s. One has just turned 60. Actually I've got one who is in her early 50s.

I think you were right to alert the rest of the family. If it was a relative of mine doing this I would much rather be told by another family member than to be completely blindsided by a neighbour or someone coming up to me and saying I see your aunt/sister/ cousin is getting her tits out for the lads. Forewarned is forearmed.

A bit sad really. Just another example of Performative Britain.
Celebrity at last.
Big it up!!!

Is this your business if you can’t improve the situation Live and let live maybe the lesson you need to learn is when to be discrete

I don't understand. Did you go onto her OnlyFans account? Or is she putting up TikTok videos as a way to funnel business to her OF account? Plus she found your (unused) TikTok account and started following you? And that's how you found them? Regardless, sounds like she's trying to make some money.
She's allowed to post whatever she wants; she's an adult. She may not fully understand how it all works, as in privacy settings etc but that's her problem.
I understand your concern is that your children may come across these. Is your concern that it's a family member or is it the sexual nature? While you think they've not seen anything like this, chances are they've already seen far worse via their friends.
And agreed, you should have gone directly to your aunt.
In addition, sounds like you had some discomfort / ick factor with her body size and doing this? Trust me, there are a lot of men who pay good money for that.

If you were worried about her and such things as privacy settings why didn’t you approach her directly rather than outing her to the entire family ?

It would have been much better to talk about the situation with a work colleague or friend who doesn't know your aunt so couldn't have broken your confidence in the way your mum did. You can anonymise in conversation too.

What you say to your kids is some variation of:
*OnlyFans isn't for under 18s
*Some family members may not accept your friend / follower requests because they use social media for sexual content - doesn't mean you've done anything wrong. Sometimes people don't have child relatives as contacts and they'll add you when you're an adult. Sometimes people exclude birth family members of any age from some of all of their content.
*If family members are posting stuff you don't like seeing you can mute them like anyone else.
*Great Aunt X is known to use OF and you'll probably find her tiktok cringey or worse.

You should have spoken to your auntie first instead of blabbing to all the family!

She is on a public forum so there is absolutely no need for you to feel bad. Personally if I had found a curva ceous aunt displaying her wares on social media I would still be laughing

Basically, you have interfered in something that has got sweet FA to do with you, caused a load of problems by being totally judgmental and now you’re on here so we can all make you feel much better about the fact you caused a load of trouble because we should all follow your beliefs and be disgusted about it. Does that capture it? I would suggest you mind your own business.

Very judgemental from post/troublesome from someone who can’t even spell. Perhaps less tik tok and more time with books for you and your children OP!

I’d be more concerned if my kids were looking at OF, no matter who was on it. I’d be very surprised to see my aunt there, but it’s not my business. I certainly wouldn’t go around telling everyone and then be ridiculously naively assume it wouldn’t cause trouble. Yes, OP, the fallout IS your fault.

Well, if your children weren’t aware of this before, I bet they sure as hell are now. And chances are, they’ll try to check it out. Good job protecting your kids, nimrod.

Then talk to her privately, directly. You blew it.

I’d have kept quiet and had a private word at an opportune moment to suggest she ups her privacy settings.

Consider respecting a family member’s privacy and speaking only to them if you have a concern about their choices.