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What would you do if you found out your auntie was on OF?

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CCb85 · 20/09/2026 04:04

Am I being unreasonable?

My eldest has asked for access to Tik Tok recently, I dont particularly use this platform myself so we agreed that until mum scopes it out and takes a look we'll hang fire, im not sure. Im very cautious with settings and so far its only WhatsApp my child uses. Snapchat was a definite no!

Anyway, whilst checking it and looking at my own (blank) account that I dont use i saw i had followers, all new to me..... I click the link to see my Auntie on there with a very suggestive username. I click on it and was surprised at the content! No nudes images, but very suggestive, boob's galore 🫣 lets say shes a large blessed lady. But I certainly didn't expect to see my auntie in a school uniform on all fours 🤦‍♀️ or wobbling her assets.

My first thought was.... oh my gosh what if my kids saw this or there friends. Shes also invited and telling ppl in the videos to check her only fans.

I happened to message my mother to see if she knew anything about this, she too was alarmed, she then told my dad (her brother) who wasn't particularly happy. Anyway its now caused a big family drama, causing her and my dad to fall out. Not what I intended. Now im left feeling like its my fault. I do feel bad, shes a grown woman, I just think personality she could have had the decency to have been more private about all this. The comments from total strangers were alarming alone. No consideration for the teens in our family trying to navigate this crazy world, I think of the backlash it could cause and humiliation. I don't want them seeing there great aunt suckling on her finger or wearing pvc lingerie.
My cousin (her daughter) got in touch to say she was disappointed and disgusted in her uncles attitude towards her mum. When I asked if she'd seen or knew about her OF and tik tok she said no, ive always told her im not interested in her content but shes assured me that its all about positive body image for larger ladies. 🤦‍♀️ But my take is if you're staying in the dark you wont see the concern others have. Its a tricky one.

Like I said, shes a grown adult not my business, but as a mum I feel very protective about the lads/teens in our family and if they or there mates came across all this. Its all been blown up 😫 and that wasn't my intention. It was just a bit of a shock, shes my auntie too, my dad did jump and i felt i didn't have time to approach it myself and maybe ask her to adjust her settings. He flew in because he wasn't happy about it. 🤦‍♀️

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tinyme77 · 20/09/2026 07:52

I read that as your mother is married to her brother!

Mumtotornadoes · 20/09/2026 07:55

I'd have probably blocked her off my kids accounts so they couldn't see and then minded my own business.

I definitely wouldn't have gossipped about her. I really don't like gossips.

TY78910 · 20/09/2026 07:56

I mean each to their own but I would block that account on your kids Tik Tok if there’s any possibility they could stumble upon it like you did.

andthat · 20/09/2026 07:57

CCb85 · 20/09/2026 05:08

Yes. 100% i went to mum for advice, we discussed everything and shes generally mellow. I called this one wrong and I hold my hand up like i said shes from a different time and she was concerned, as my dad was 🤦‍♀️ and very embarrassed. I intended and wanted to contact her myself, delicately, I guess I just need to see and have some clarity if I was over reacting and how to go about it. I kind of didn't want to admit to seeing it, out of concern because I wondered if she knew it wasn't set to private 🙈
Her daughter is town council too so, yeh I just wanted to approach it delicately but hey ho. As I said its blow up 😫

I don’t think it’s for anything to do with being from a different time’ @CCb85 I absolutely would not want my kids seeing this content related to their family member.
the over sexualisation of the world is bad enough without my kids seeing their relative on there.

So… no, I wouldn’t apologise for my view. She’s put the content up so needs to expect not everyone will love it. Speak to her about changing her privacy settings so the kids are less likely to come across it. I mean.. if she is happy for her teen nephews to see her on all fours in a school uniform then that in of itself is worrying.

MyLifeHasChanged · 20/09/2026 08:03

Zfactorstar · 20/09/2026 05:25

This reads as a fetish post.

Agree. I dont believe a word of it.

TheKindnessProject · 20/09/2026 08:05

Zfactorstar · 20/09/2026 05:25

This reads as a fetish post.

I agree. There was something about the prose that made me prick my ears up. This felt almost salacious.

Pineneedlesincarpet · 20/09/2026 08:07

This is Chat GPT isnt it 🤣

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The way it's written is clearly Ai.

Zfactorstar · 20/09/2026 08:09

Pineneedlesincarpet · 20/09/2026 08:08

The way it's written is clearly Ai.

Definitely a strong possibility. All of the posts read as almost human.

LydiaJayne · 20/09/2026 08:11

Pineneedlesincarpet · 20/09/2026 08:08

The way it's written is clearly Ai.

I don't know what kind of AI you've come across but I'd be amazed if this isn't being written by a person

Which hallmarks of AI is it giving you?

bananaobama · 20/09/2026 08:13

Why a school uniform?

urgh

she sounds a bit nutty to be honest. Distance yourself

Zfactorstar · 20/09/2026 08:13

LydiaJayne · 20/09/2026 08:11

I don't know what kind of AI you've come across but I'd be amazed if this isn't being written by a person

Which hallmarks of AI is it giving you?

Unnecessary descriptions. Pretty big giveaway of AI. AI will try to explain something in twenty words when five will do.

bananaobama · 20/09/2026 08:14

Definitely not AI!!! AI can spell

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Pineneedlesincarpet · 20/09/2026 08:21

LydiaJayne · 20/09/2026 08:11

I don't know what kind of AI you've come across but I'd be amazed if this isn't being written by a person

Which hallmarks of AI is it giving you?

Yes cors it could be and probably is Ai. Chat gpt can do anything...here's the Ops post written in the style of a geordie

Me eldest has recently asked if she can have TikTok, and I divvent really use the platform mesel, so we agreed that until Mam’s had a proper scope out of it and had a look, we’d just hang fire. I’m still not sure, to be honest. I’m dead cautious with me settings and what the bairns have access to, and at the minute WhatsApp’s the only thing me child uses. Snapchat was a definite NO! 😂

Anyway, whilst I was having a look at it and checking me own account — which is literally blank and I never use — I noticed I had followers. All people I’d never seen before, completely new to me.

So obviously, being the nosy cow that I am, I click on the link to see who they are and there’s me Auntie on there with this very suggestive username. 😳

I click on her profile and I’m absolutely gobsmacked at what I’m seeing. There’s no actual nudes or owt like that, but it’s VERY suggestive. Boobs galore 🫣 Let’s just say she’s a very well-blessed woman, like! 😂

But I certainly did NOT expect to see me Auntie dressed in a school uniform on all fours 🤦‍♀️ or wobbling her assets about for the camera.

Me first thought was, “Oh my God, what if me kids see this? Or one of their mates?!” Because she’s also telling people in the videos to go and check out her OnlyFans.

So I happened to message me Mam just to see if she knew owt about it, and she was just as alarmed as I was. She then tells me Dad — obviously her brother — and he wasn’t particularly happy about it, to say the least.

And now it’s turned into a right family drama, and her and me Dad have fallen out over it. Which honestly was never what I intended at all.

Now I’m sat here thinking it’s somehow all me fault. 😫

I do feel bad, because at the end of the day she’s a grown woman and she can do what she wants. That’s her business. I just think, personally, she could’ve had the decency to be a bit more private about the whole thing.

Some of the comments from complete strangers were alarming enough on their own, never mind the actual videos.

And I keep thinking about the teenagers in our family who are already trying to navigate this mad world. What if one of them comes across it? What if one of me kids is with their mates and me Auntie suddenly pops up on their TikTok dressed in PVC lingerie? 🤦‍♀️

I absolutely divvent want them seeing their great-auntie sucking her finger or wobbling her tits about all over TikTok. Like, come on man. 😭

Me cousin — her daughter — then got in touch saying she was disappointed and disgusted at her uncle’s attitude towards her mam.

So I asked her, “Have you actually seen her TikTok or her OnlyFans? Did you know about any of this?”

And she said no.

She told me she’s always said to her mam that she’s not interested in seeing her content, but she’s assured me that it’s all about positive body image for larger ladies.

And I’m thinking, aye, but if you’re choosing to stay in the dark and not look at it, then you’re never really gonna see why other people might have concerns about it, are ye?

It’s a tricky one, like.

Because, as I’ve said, she’s a grown adult and it’s nowt to do with me what she chooses to do. I’m not trying to tell her how to live her life.

But I’m a Mam, and I feel dead protective over the lads and teenagers in our family. I just keep thinking, what if they or their mates came across all this? I can’t help but think about the backlash, the embarrassment and the potential hassle it could cause them.

It’s all been blown completely out of proportion now 😫 and that honestly wasn’t me intention.

It was just a shock, man. She’s me Auntie as well, and I didn’t really know what to do. I felt like I should’ve had the chance to approach her mesel and maybe just say, “Look, you do what you want, but you might wanna have a look at your settings because this is public and kids could come across it.”

But me Dad jumped straight in because he wasn’t happy about it, and before I knew what was happening he’d flown in and now they’ve fallen out.

Honestly, howay man. I only went on TikTok to see what it was like for me bairn. 😂🤦‍♀️

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BabblingBiddy · 20/09/2026 08:24

tinyme77 · 20/09/2026 07:52

I read that as your mother is married to her brother!

Me too!

MyLimeGuide · 20/09/2026 08:25

Haha this is hilarious!! I hope its true!!

LydiaJayne · 20/09/2026 08:25

Pineneedlesincarpet · 20/09/2026 08:21

Yes cors it could be and probably is Ai. Chat gpt can do anything...here's the Ops post written in the style of a geordie

Me eldest has recently asked if she can have TikTok, and I divvent really use the platform mesel, so we agreed that until Mam’s had a proper scope out of it and had a look, we’d just hang fire. I’m still not sure, to be honest. I’m dead cautious with me settings and what the bairns have access to, and at the minute WhatsApp’s the only thing me child uses. Snapchat was a definite NO! 😂

Anyway, whilst I was having a look at it and checking me own account — which is literally blank and I never use — I noticed I had followers. All people I’d never seen before, completely new to me.

So obviously, being the nosy cow that I am, I click on the link to see who they are and there’s me Auntie on there with this very suggestive username. 😳

I click on her profile and I’m absolutely gobsmacked at what I’m seeing. There’s no actual nudes or owt like that, but it’s VERY suggestive. Boobs galore 🫣 Let’s just say she’s a very well-blessed woman, like! 😂

But I certainly did NOT expect to see me Auntie dressed in a school uniform on all fours 🤦‍♀️ or wobbling her assets about for the camera.

Me first thought was, “Oh my God, what if me kids see this? Or one of their mates?!” Because she’s also telling people in the videos to go and check out her OnlyFans.

So I happened to message me Mam just to see if she knew owt about it, and she was just as alarmed as I was. She then tells me Dad — obviously her brother — and he wasn’t particularly happy about it, to say the least.

And now it’s turned into a right family drama, and her and me Dad have fallen out over it. Which honestly was never what I intended at all.

Now I’m sat here thinking it’s somehow all me fault. 😫

I do feel bad, because at the end of the day she’s a grown woman and she can do what she wants. That’s her business. I just think, personally, she could’ve had the decency to be a bit more private about the whole thing.

Some of the comments from complete strangers were alarming enough on their own, never mind the actual videos.

And I keep thinking about the teenagers in our family who are already trying to navigate this mad world. What if one of them comes across it? What if one of me kids is with their mates and me Auntie suddenly pops up on their TikTok dressed in PVC lingerie? 🤦‍♀️

I absolutely divvent want them seeing their great-auntie sucking her finger or wobbling her tits about all over TikTok. Like, come on man. 😭

Me cousin — her daughter — then got in touch saying she was disappointed and disgusted at her uncle’s attitude towards her mam.

So I asked her, “Have you actually seen her TikTok or her OnlyFans? Did you know about any of this?”

And she said no.

She told me she’s always said to her mam that she’s not interested in seeing her content, but she’s assured me that it’s all about positive body image for larger ladies.

And I’m thinking, aye, but if you’re choosing to stay in the dark and not look at it, then you’re never really gonna see why other people might have concerns about it, are ye?

It’s a tricky one, like.

Because, as I’ve said, she’s a grown adult and it’s nowt to do with me what she chooses to do. I’m not trying to tell her how to live her life.

But I’m a Mam, and I feel dead protective over the lads and teenagers in our family. I just keep thinking, what if they or their mates came across all this? I can’t help but think about the backlash, the embarrassment and the potential hassle it could cause them.

It’s all been blown completely out of proportion now 😫 and that honestly wasn’t me intention.

It was just a shock, man. She’s me Auntie as well, and I didn’t really know what to do. I felt like I should’ve had the chance to approach her mesel and maybe just say, “Look, you do what you want, but you might wanna have a look at your settings because this is public and kids could come across it.”

But me Dad jumped straight in because he wasn’t happy about it, and before I knew what was happening he’d flown in and now they’ve fallen out.

Honestly, howay man. I only went on TikTok to see what it was like for me bairn. 😂🤦‍♀️

So someone wrote the OP out in perfect English and then asked the AI to turn it into not very literate?

Vitrolinsanity · 20/09/2026 08:27

CrazyMidget · 20/09/2026 04:09

I would forget I ever saw it.

I think there isn’t enough brain bleach in world that would make that happen.

Magicpaintbrush · 20/09/2026 08:27

After my DH's rather proper aunt and uncle passed away they were clearing their house out and some really really unpalatable discoveries were made amongst their possessions (sex stuff) - never would have believed it beforehand. Stuff goes on behind closed doors, and if you are unlucky enough to find out about it it does change how you view those people unfortunately. It's very disconcerting.

Pineneedlesincarpet · 20/09/2026 08:29

LydiaJayne · 20/09/2026 08:25

So someone wrote the OP out in perfect English and then asked the AI to turn it into not very literate?

A couple of tweaks here and there...

I promise you. That's AI. Classic GPT. Exactly what it would come up with if you asked it do a MN post about my aunt on OF or whatever parameters the OP put in.

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Yes that could also be true although I still think its Ai.

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