What would you do if you found out your auntie was on OF?

Probably because it most likely is.

Strange how these kinds of posts always pop up at a random early morning hour too.

Not your business? What your aunt does in her spare time (so long as it is legal) is no concern of yours. If your kids can see only fans you need to change their settings.

I would either a) tell no one and try and forget I ever saw anything. Or b) talk to my aunt if I was truly concerned about her. You weren’t though. You “happened to” gossip to your mother instead of reaching out to your aunt. Honestly, if I was in your wider family I would be giving you a swerve from now on as you’re clearly all about the drama.

It obviously isn't AI, and OP has posts going back years.

The troll-hunting is incresibly boring, and likely wrong.

I’d let her crack on

Your auntie shared her OF account publically so she should have expected that her family would find out. You did nothing wrong.

I think we might be at cross purposes, I assumed that the post I first commented on was saying that an AI bot wrote the post rather than a person and I was saying I'm sure it's a person

Using AI to write it for you is so routine now that it's not something usually worth pointing out.

Find a hobby and stop being such a busybody.

Its not troll hunting. Its just pointing out the post reads like it was written by Chatgpt. Ai is used by lots of people on MN. There's nothing wrong with that particularly. Or if it isnt Ai the OP might be interested to know he writes like Ai.

Not sure there's any dignity to preserve is there? Too late for that.

It doesn't read like AI, and based on their posting history, I doubt OP is a "he" either.

Bore off.

Yes sorry..typo there. She.

Same my sunts are all 80+

Oh yes I didn't think it was a bot. I just thought it sounded like someone who typed into Chatgpt write a MN post based on the following. Very easy to find out if one was bothered to as there's lots of apps that recognise the signs.

What's done is done. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, after the event. Yes, you should have approached your Aunt directly, and advised her to change her phone number and settings. I understand why you went to your Mum, she's your Mum and you're close. Equally, you should have realised your Mum would tell your Dad, after all it's his sister!!

Of course you don't want your own children or other young family members to see your Aunt in this way. I can understand your concern.

You've not handled the situation great but that's because you were shocked. It may have been better to have sat on the information for several days, and thought about it, rather than made an impulsive decision.

Unfortunately, although you may not have meant to cause a problem, you inadvertently have. All you can do is apologise to your Aunt if you feel you should. Your cousin, if she's on the Town Council, needs to be more concerned the information isn't discovered by her constituents!!!!

Your aunt uploaded images of herself to the internet for the world to see. I don’t understand the criticism you are getting for taking about it with your mum. It was public content. I also find your aunt’s and cousin’s reactions a bit disingenuous. Did they really think their family wouldn’t criticise? As soon as you post anything publicly online you leave yourself wide open to criticism. Perhaps this is another example of people believing they can do whatever they please but then want to restrict others doing likewise such as criticising.

And, if you try a few of those apps, they will tell you that this was extremely likely to be human-authored.

Can you stop derailing the thread with posts that, by your own admission, would be pointless if they were accurate, particularly when they're not?

I don't know this stuff so I can't comprehend how you have accessed it and how your daughter might have ?

I personally think you’ve done nothing wrong. If I had seen it was a family member I’d be telling my family too! Who keeps something like that to themselves??! She wants to be on social media half naked so she shouldn’t mind everyone including family seeing her, right?! It’s not a secret she’s keeping! It’s public knowledge now it’s on social media. If she’s happy doing that and everyone knowing it then what can you do. I’ve a feeling after a while of no nice men wanting to date her and friends and neighbours not talking to her like they used to, she may think it’s no longer a good idea.

I've found out things about relatives whilst handling their estate both older generation close family. I've just buried it deep and not said anything.

But a vulnerable living person I might have gone to them and said look you need to alter your privacy settings for your own personal safety.

Why are you acting the innocent, when you full well know you started all this by telling people?

My aunties are between 59-76 so I’d be a bit shocked, and I might be a bit concerned that they were struggling financially or had been pushed to do it by someone else (as it would be very out of character for any of them, as they’re all conservative catholics).

What I wouldn’t do is go gossiping with my other family members about it. If I had legitimate and genuine concerns I would speak to them directly because they’re grown woman who can make their own decisions, and regardless they of my opinions they can do what they like.

To be fair, I am only ten years older than my niece. I had a friend who was only 18 months older than his aunt.

Enough with your fantasies!

If she’s redirecting to OF tiktok Will ban her so no worries he will see her. I’m very surprised it’s not removed her account anyway if it’s suggestive like that as because it’s Chinese owned they’re super strict on sexualised content.