Drug taking in daughter's student house

@GreenFries The costs aren't relevant, the students are the tenants and they're dealing with the situation (and did need to involve the landlord), which is great.

Noone said he wouldn't take action if there was actual damage to the property! Although whether he evicts the student will depend on the cost.

I agree with you but chumdren made me laugh haha!

She needs to move out find a nicer pad.

Are these tenants too? If not Id be telling Landlord definately and maybe police.

Not difficult to understand your worry but your daughter needs to deal with this herself with your support of course. Let her grow up

Oh very 🤣 but not smoking weed 🤔

@ElizaToolittle Three of the four tenants are fine, it's just the new one who's causing the issues. He needs to sort himself out.

Anyway, students can't necessarily afford a nicer pad, the rent for my DD's (21) place is quite high enough for the luxury of early 1980's kitchen cabinets and an avocado green bathroom suite. The appliances are more modern, of course, the owner just hasn't updated the fixtures...and that's why he rents it to students.😂

By doing that, not only would you be treating your DD like a child but you would be increasing her chances of being thrown out herself for some (probably made up) breach. Daily harassment of the landlord, reporting to the authorities etc is utterly disproportionate. It would also teach your DD nothing

This is a situation that is fairly common. Your reaction is very extreme.

@Therunecaster I'm sorry you have had some hortible replies from uncaring posters whose children have never needed help in situations like this.

Your daughter asked for your help and your instinct is to help her. Hopefully things will improve now that the lndlord is involved.

Another avenue for your daughter, if there are further issues, could be via student services or the student union. I know the housing is private, however most universities will have standards of behaviour they expect so they may have some influence if the new tenant becomes an issue again.

Nobody is suggesting she doesn’t help her DD. She can advise and suggest a solution.

However, going directly to the landlord is ridiculous when the DD is a grown adult and just needs to step up for herself

Hopefully this will get sorted OP, although I suspect not. To those saying that the OPs DD should sort it out herself, there is nothing wrong with a YP seeking advice or guidance in a situation like this. Also to add that landlords and letting agents are not the most helpful especially with student housing. DDs house was in a terrible condition when she moved in this year and I had to get involved as the agents were so difficult and dismissive. As parents are the guarantors and the ones paying the rent in most cases so we have a vested interest.

Her DD didn't need her help though! It doesn't sound like she asked for it either, given OP only discovered the situation because she visited.

The contract is with the student not the parent though so the fact that you are giving the student the money for rent is irrelevant.

Your DD and other 2 tenants need to sit together and ring the landlord.

When I was a student the known dealer in our accommodation block was sent down from university. A few of my flatmates were outraged but others were relieved. I wasn't wholly innocent but it got to a point where the non prolific drug takers in my flat were told to go out for the evening so we didn't give those that were high on LSD paranoia! It was a miserable experience at some points especially as one of my friends, who didn't do drugs, had experience of a heroin addicted brother at the time and just found it all too stressful. By my final year I shared a flat with just one other friend and it was so much easier, if a little more expensive.

I'm all for students navigating their own problems but some of the responses on here saying it's 'normal' student behaviour I think minimise the effect it can have on those sharing the space. Also those looking at employment in areas with enhanced DBS checks would be well and truly shafted by any record of misconduct.

OP I hope your daughter gets through this quickly and that the 'tosser' either mends his ways or clears off.

Same here. I only ever tried it once or twice but a lad in our halls of residence constantly had folk in his flat smoking weed. None of us thought anything of it whatsoever, we barely discussed it,it was just 'Oh Bjorn in flat 9 has his friends over again tonight so we won't invite him out'.

I'd be annoyed about random folk meaning I didn't have access to the sitting room/kitchen but as a one off I'd just think it was part of student life. It wouldn't affect me in any other way or for very long, at all.

I wouldn't have contacted the landlord, just advised her what to say.

So it was one night and a friend of a tenant/basically a party?

Decades ago this was frequent in many student lodgings, before the days of no smoking and when it was more private renting, but now will be taken more seriously. Being much a way of life and part of the student experience it was something we expected, accepted and didn't think of telling our parents about.

I do think your DD will be embarrassed at you stepping in because she and the other lodgers all have the ability and power to complain themselves. A simple e mail to the LL from them, so easy now, rather than having to write a letter and wait.

Living away means becoming more independent and dealing with stuff yourself. Basically someone had a party and it ended up as a late one and friends crashed, has your DD really never experienced this?

They all live in the same house and need a whattsapp group?? Whatever happened to just talking ro each other?

Indeed, we even used to sign up to share rooms with complete strangers in our first year because it was cheaper! Pf course you're not going to know who you're living with.