Drug taking in daughter's student house

This is extremely common at uni.

The phrase 'wet' is unnecessary. They are inexperienced.

Yes they need to learn - this is an opportunity to do that.

People with supportive parents learn really effectively by talking things through with them. It actually isn't better to go to the school of hard knocks, people don't necessarily end up more competent.

Sorry but to me that sounds mild for student houses.
If your daughter and the others don't like the other guy or he breaches tenancy they need to club together and get evidence of breach and contact landlord themselves.

You need to let her navigate this. With support from afar obviously.

Also, none of my student landlords would have cared at all about this. They would have just used it as an excuse to keep everyone's deposit as a cleaning fee.

You need to let your daughter sort it out
One of the main benefits of going to uni is to learn how to navigate situations such as living with other people and dealing with landlords/utilities etc

So you don't have adult children. I do and I very much doubt the average 19 year old who had at least a year of experience of living away from home would want their parent interfering in something like this. Obviously they don't suddenly know everything but they probably know more about renting privately than a lot of posters on here seem to. What exactly do you think a landlord would do?

They learn by talking to the housemates and coming to an agreement on what is reasonable. Their parents phoning the landlord will just teach them that their parents are interfering and clueless.

Completely understand why you’re worried about this. Encourage your daughter to phone the landlord and perhaps she can practice what she’s going to say with you.

What do you think the landlord will do??

Does the uni have a,student support centre? Housing support? Your dd could speak to them.

Aged 19 its not easy to deal with these sorts of issues. My dd was in a flatshare at that age and none of the 5 of them were keen to speak to the LL about household items that needed replacing.

By the time she was 21 she was much more able to speak up.

But there must be lot of students who end up in this sort of situation and feel unable to sort it out.

Get him removed and the tenant who let him in if necessary. Happened in my son's student house.

Perhaps it’s not the landlord, perhaps it’s student welfare or someone else who can provide advice. In any case, the point I’m making is that this needn’t be a black and white case of daughter just needs to get on with it by herself, as some are suggesting. I wonder why the aggressive double question mark. Im
not under interrogation am I?

Do you seriously think a landlord would "get him removed" because a student's mum, or even the student phoned him and said their housemate smokes weed and had friends around last night?! I am not sure that they could evict for that reason even if they wanted to and why would they want an empty room in the house and presumably lose out on rent.

I am just amazed by what people think a landlord or even student welfare could do. They just need to talk to the student and come to an agreement. The daughter doesn't have to do it by herself because there are two other housemates who agree.

Don’t wait for it to happen again, it needs reported now if all in the house are unhappy. It’s inevitable it will happen again and smoking in the house, weed or not, impacts everyone.

I agree with others that say you should help your daughter and stay involved. They learn a lot during their first few years but don't automatically become equipped to deal with these issues the day they leave home. Also, it's typical for landlords/letting agencies to brush off young people and students but they tend to take more notice when parents get involved.

I'd assume smoking is a breach of the tenancy agreement - fire hazards etc... - and go with that. Are they disabling smoke alarms?

Are the rooms let individually?

Moving his girlfriend is highly likely to be breach of the tenancy agreement. As is illegal activity like drug use.

To honest if I my daughter. I would phone the landlord - and phone for an update every single day until it was sorted.

If no response I'd start reporting fire risk, smoke alarms not working etc to the local council, and reporting the student to police - Weed is still illegal in the UK - and your daughter is almost certainly going to be seeing large enough amounts to warrant a charge.

There is no way one drug using scum bag would be impacting my daughters university experience.

Of course landlords would rather deal with a inexperienced 19 year old than their battle axe of a mother. I'd buy that if the landlords didn't also want said mother be a guarantor for the rent!

But surely first step is just speak to the guy, presenting a united front. He might just say “oh sorry- yeah no worries” and then it’s solved. He might not in which case escalate but no need to make the first step “get him evicted”.

And your job now is to support her to take steps in life herself. You can advise her and guide her, but she needs to make the decisions and take the actions herself

You would seriously phone the landlord every day because your adult daughter had told you someone was smoking in her house and you wanted it to "be sorted".?😂 The landlord might tell him not to smoke in the house as a result but the daughter and her housemates could do that themselves. It sounds as if they have done suggesting they are not as clueless as some of the posters on here.

No you can’t phone the landlord. Your daughter is an adult. No wonder young people can’t do anything for themselves these days

They have a dope smoker in the house who has loads of people sleeping over and they don't like it. They need stand up for themselves or they will get taken advantage of. The landlord probably won't do anything except possibly remind them of the rules.

Suggesting someone is being a bit wet is hardly the school of hard knocks.

On the other hand, getting your mum to try and persuade the landlord to evict a housemate is like the school of hard knocks for the housemate. If it worked, he would be without housing. Being straightforward and tougher is much kinder to him.

Yeap I would. The people who shout the loudest get the results they are looking for.

Living with a drug user would be absolute misery. I would not accept my daughter being uncomfortable in their kitchen because random men were sleeping in it.

That is purely financial though and there is a contract. The guarantor has agreed to pay rent if the tennant defaults but it certainly doesn't give the guarantor any rights. The landlord can just tell the parent they only talk to tennants.