Drug taking in daughter's student house

Yeah, someone needs to inform the landlord because if the new guy has moved his girlfriend in and it’s gone from four to five occupants then the landlord needs a different agreement/licence from the LA - I imagine he’ll be VERY interested in that information.

OP I think help your daughter make the call but she needs to actually do it. Bullet point list from @GreenCaterpillarOnALeaf is a great idea so that she has a script. I had this at uni in an awful house share and it made me so miserable for quite some period of time.Supporting her efforts would be great for her. He’s a tosser and I suspect things won’t improve if he’s doing this early on. Rent free plus ones are also a red flag.

Hope it’s solved swiftly and let us know how she gets on.

He needs to find a "druggy" house where he will fit in.

@UnpopularOpinionsIWouldUsuallyKeepToMyself I'd missed the gf moving in. I hope they mentioned her in the WhatsApp discussion, although given that he's only been there four days, it's possible that she does have her own place too.

When I was in a student house, partners stayed over, not seven days a week but regularly. Plus a few ONS. It's the same in DD's flat.

I would only contact the landlord if this guy (or his girlfriend ) are not official residents- this is within the landlord's remit, the behaviour of people within the house is not really his problem unless the police are involved, even then it is not really the landlord's job to police relationships within the house- your daughter and the others need to confront the person who is being antisocial- it isn't anyone else's job.

I think if I was the landlord and a tenants mum phoned me to complain about drug use in the property when she visited, and the actual tenant (daughter) had not, I would assume the daughter was part of the usage, (party), but had told her mum a tall tale to make it look like it wasn't her. Otherwise why wouldn't she phone me herself?

Actually it also may be useful - if she gets some backlash for phoning the landlord, you can take the rap. May lend to a smoother period in the house for your daughter.

Not sure what the landlord will do though. The dope would have to be proved and parties are not illegal. I presume the landlord knows what he's letting himself in for, renting to students. The household need to get together and ask the dope smoker to find somewhere to live because it's not working.

This is so ageist. Also melodramatic.

Millions of people of every generation conduct their conversations on WhatsApp and FB. Look at all the neighbourhood groups full of comments. Before that people put notes through doors and under windscreen wipers.

She’s also a grown woman who needs to be able to handle her own stuff without calling her mummy to do it.

I phoned the vice chancellor when my daughter had a drug dealing housemate at uni in halls. they wouldn’t throw him out, but did do more security checks, and they security guys were visible.
However this didn’t stop a homeless guy breaking into one of the student rooms ( ground floor) and living there for a day or two !!!

I should add all of the other students in the flat had complained and nothing was done. I emailed the VC, not phoned, I should have said. they did reply.

I understand 😊

My daughter is 17 so not quite an adult but when she turns 18 next year I am not going to suddenly stop doing things for her. In this situation I would sit with her whilst she called the landlord but be there if needed. They don’t turn 18 and suddenly know everything! I can’t imagine she has had to deal with a landlord before and so this is all new to her. I am with you on this - there is independence and then there is guiding them towards it. Even as fully established adults we may still need some help from others doing things we haven’t done before.

I think whether you call or she calls they LL needs to be called sooner rather than later. Get this sorted before the year officially begins or it will hinder their studies.

Of course you're worried but the landlord is only going to want yo deal with his tenants, not their various relatives.

Most students renting properties have to have a guarantor - normally a parent. Landlords are only too eager to deal with relatives if anyone defaults on their rental payments, I can tell you!

I think your daughter and her housemates need to speak to him before getting the landlord involved. I'm not sure if the landlord can do anything anyway. What would you expect them to do?. If I was your daughter I would say he needs to confine smoking and his friends to his own room. They shouldn't be sleeping in communal areas.

That's because they want the money.

What are people expecting the landlord to do?

This is a house issue which is easily dealt with in house. They are students. They have plenty of houses. They just say no not in this house and then they go elsewhere.

I am imagine it’s not a particularly chill atmosphere to smoke in a house whilst the majority house mates stand in the middle of the room and tell everyone to fuck off.

University halls are very different to private student houses.

Why don’t the housemates just speak to the guy before dobbing him into the landlord?!

Smoking weed was v normal when I was a student. It’s not crack cocaine. Everyone needs to calm down and have a word with the smoker.

I agree with you!

Yes, i am not sure what people expect the landlord to do anyway.

Do you have adult children?

I agree!

What are people expecting the landlord to do?

OP says smoking and illegal substances are not allowed under the terms of the tenancy.
Moving the girlfriend in is probably also a breach of the tenancy.

Just because some students smoke weed doesn't make it acceptable in a shared residence where it's explicitly against the rules and the other residents aren't fully on-board. Having people who don't live there (and aren't friends of everyone who does) crashing in the communal spaces is a big problem, too.

It's best to support your daughter to make the complaint herself, yes, but there's no problem with getting involved if she needs your help. (Most of the time people on here tend to infantilise people aged 18 to 25, but not this time, for whatever reason!)

That’s kind of my point! Landlords will deal with tenants’ relatives when it suits them, so they should be prepared for tenants’ relatives to get involved as and when they see fit. If the op and her dd think that the op ‘interfering’ will get a better result, then that’s what she should do.