To feel this mum should take her turn?

Could she catch the bus herself? My Year 6 DD does

Clearly they can leave alone if the other girl is, so I think you should get your daughter a phone (and fgs learn to drive!)

Then sort a permission slip? Permission for her to leave on her own and meet you at the park (or another specified location).

I’m such an idiot, I read this as 6yo, not yr 6 😂

At yr 6 I would sign the permission slip and allow your DD to go the park with her mate and meet them there to bring her home.

And what would you say, that you begrudge having to supervise your child so you’d like the mum to come out too?

Must cost you a bit to do 4 Journeys a day via bus

maybe time for dd to get a little independence and get bus to or from school by self

not every day but see how she goes and if ok then she can do this

I would get a phone so she can call you if need be

This isn’t an arrangement made between you both that requires to her take her turn. It really has nothing to do with her at all.

She’s happy for her daughter to walk home alone and play unsupervised at the park, so why would she go there solely to supervise your child?

Yeah sorry OP, I think you're being unreasonable. They live closer and the kid has a phone to communicate with her mother. They're just better set up for the park than you are and that really isn't the other mums problem.
I think you need to explain to your daughter why this current set up no longer works and that she needs to arrange her park dates in advance. If they want to play on a Friday, she needs to let you know on a Thursday for example.
Alternatively, would you consider getting her a very basic phone so that you can have a bit more flexibility in your communication with each other? Totally your call but it might help.

Op you are so entitled.
why do you think this mum has any reason to do this FOR YOU??
she has worked out a solution that benefits her child and herself.can’t imagine why on earth she would make her life difficult to please you.
say no to your dd. She’s the one creating this issue.

Take a book. Bliss!

I'm not sure what you are expecting the other mum to do if you are at the school gate every day anyway and these park trips aren't being arranged in advance. How would her being there help?

You have a few options:

1. Tell your daughter she can't go to the park.
2. Tell her she can only go to the park if it's arranged in advance (tricky as plans could change and she's got no way to let you know).
3. Give her a way to contact you (phone or smart watch) and allow her to make her own way home.
4. Carry on as you are and accept that parenting does involve a fair amount of standing around in parks.

Your problem makes no sense. Even if the mum wanted to help, she couldn't. If the girls only decide moments before going to the park, how could the other mum arrange with you that you can stay home and she will take a shift? You would already be there anyway. Equally the mum can't say "I'll watch them on Wednesday" because what if it starts to rain on Wednesday at 3.15 and nobody wants to go to the park? Should she ring you to say its cancelled and you charge across town while your daughter waits on the pavement for half an hour? Or are you also expecting the mum to host your daughter in the event of rain? That would mean she has to make sure the house is tidy and have snacks in. That's quite a lot to expect of someone who gets nothing from you except supervising her daughter at the park when she doesn't need or want it.

In fact, this issue has nothing to do with the other mum. Whether they go to the park or not, she would stay at home. The only reason she would have to leave her house is to collect your daughter from school, which really isn't her problem.

Can you get your daughter a permission slip to leave school without you and if you're there, good and if you're not, that's also fine.

You'll need to get her a phone sooner or later anyway, so you may as well get one now. The only problem is that she'll probably text you 2 minutes before she goes to the park, in which case, you'll be there anyway! But again, that's nothing to do with the other mum.

Is costing you a lot in time and money to pick her up. You make the journey to school 4 times a day. Maybe take her in the mornings but say to her that she can make her own way home. She'll know what to do as she's done it many times before. If she has a phone, she can update you on where she is and if you get something like Family Link, you can see where she is at all times anyway. She might really enjoy being 'grown up'.

Whatever you decide, none of this has anything to do with the other mum. It's unreasonable to expect her to stop whatever she's doing so she can watch your daughter in the park, and it is only your daughter, as her daughter doesn't need anything.

Would it be any use to sign the permission for her to leave alone then arrange to meet your daughter each day at the park? The 2 girls could walk there together then either stay for a play or go home straight away, depending on your plans/weather etc. When mine got to the age where they could leave school independently, I gave the permission but just met them round the corner at first to gradually get used to it.

you are being unreasonable. the other mum isn’t in anyway asking you to look after her daughter. she would be walking home and potentially going to the park alone regardless of you or your daughters presence. it’s up to you if you want your daughter to go to the park. you can always say no.

And in answer to your question, I don't think the mum has a turn to take, since she's happy for her daughter to be in the park and come home on her own anyway.

Hi Piper, you've accidentally replied to someone else's post instead of starting your own. People won't notice it here!

Can your daughter not get the bus home?

Sorry no, I don’t see why the mum should? If you lived nearer too presumably the girls would just go to the park together unsupervised. It’s not her fault you live further away?

This is a good idea. OP you cannot really blame the other girl's mum as she is allowed to be independent. You’re there supervising your child as she is not allowed to be independent yet.

Why do you need to get a bus to collect her, when she can get the bus herself ?

This doesn't make much sense .
You've said that the park days are last minute, not planned. So you are already at the school to collect your dd.
So even if friends mum did go to the park to supervise them both ( even though she's decided her dd doesn't need it) , how would this benefit you?
You've already made the bus journey. So what would you do, get the bus back home whilst dd is at the park and then get on the bus again to go and collect her? That would be six bus journeys and an enormous waste of time and money.

This is nothing to do with friends mum.

She is happy and able for her daughter to choosento go to the park after school

Sadly, circumstances mean that you can't agree the same with your daughter on a whim, but thats not friends mum

You either need to tell daughter she can't go to the park unless prearranged, change permissions with school and get your daughter a phone or just continue as you are.