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WIBU to give my daughter's friend a lift home in torrential rain?

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DinonneS · 08/09/2026 15:31

A bit of advice need to how to handle this situation. So dd is 15 and walks to and from school. It’s about a 10 min walk so not far and dd has a group of friends, including one of our neighbours dd, who all walk together. Today we have had torrential rain all day so I dropped her this morning and said I’d pick her up. Messaged my neighbour (who works until 7pm) and asked if she’d also like me to pick up her dd. She said yes please so I’ve rocked up outside school to pick the two of them up. While there I see dd’s friend who lives about. 20 min walk but only a 7 min drive away and offered her a lift too and it was genuinely pouring down. She was very grateful and I know her mum so I knew she’d have no problem with it. All in all the extra drop off took me an extra 15mins and we were home at 3.10pm instead of the usual 2.55pm. Neighbour has completely kicked off that I didn’t tell her I was picking up and dropping another child while her daughter was in the car. She said we’ll be chatting about it tonight when she’s back home. Not sure what I’ve done wrong tbh

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Pinkchickenwine · 13/09/2026 19:11

CatsnCoffee · 13/09/2026 14:19

YANBU unless:
She might have been worried when her daughter wasn’t home at the time she estimated?
Maybe she made plans in light of her daughter being home early. If she works full-time or has other commitments it may have been a chance to have a chat with her daughter.
Maybe she has snother child to consider and it affected her plans?
Or maybe she dislikes the other girl in the car?
Just prepare yourself for any of these or other possible scenarios. You were well-intentioned, just be honest with her.

Maybe read the updates and all will be revealed?

EverytimeItPours · 13/09/2026 19:11

Is this still going?!! Confused

Gossipisgood · 14/09/2026 15:33

Let her know that by agreeing for you to collect her Daughter she's trusting you to safely get her home, doesn't matter what time that is & that's exactly what you've done. It could just be she's been panicking with her DD not being home at the usual time & has been stressing about it & you've got the brunt of that worry. You've done nothing wrong so don't let her make you feel bad & tell her no more lifts for her DD if this is the thanks you get.

Topspur · 17/09/2026 12:56

Sometimes people are hard to fathom you did a good deed what's the problem.

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