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To feel relieved the school has now completely banned phones

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Eastie77Returns · 04/09/2026 14:15

DD’s school has completely banned phones for all incoming Y7 pupils and this will last for the entirety of their time at the school going toward. Existing pupils are still allowed to bring phones in but have to keep to the old rule (if they are seen or heard they are confiscated for 20 days).

DD is Y9 so she will be able to follow the old rule but DS, who starts secondary next year, will not be able to take one in. I honestly feel a massive sense of relief. He doesn’t have a phone at the moment and I was planning to get him an old style Nokia as he isn’t bothered about tech or latest phones. However I was a bit worried that he’d feel left if all his friends had iPhones etc. The school seems pretty serious about it all, all pupils and parents have to sign an agreement and any child caught with a phone will be excluded - no questions asked. The mother of DS’ best friend has now decided she will not send her DS to the school as originally planned as she thinks the ban is reckless and dangerous?! AIBU to think the ban is fine and makes complete sense plus millions of children managed to get to and from school safely without phones a generation ago!

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MargaretThursday · 04/09/2026 18:44

BrezhnevsLuxuriantEyebrows · 04/09/2026 14:46

I hate the ban. Our teenage DS doesn't use his phone that much - not interested in social media, unless you count fewer than a dozen contacts (mainly family) on WhatsApp.

He's now lost the ability to contact us before or after school, or at breaktimes, to let us know of any changes to plans/delays, things needed for school the next day etc. - as his punishment for being the same age as poorly-behaved teens who refuse to stay off their phones whilst at school and persist in using them inappropriately.

The 'best' bit is that the latter group still use them in lessons just like they did before, but are now just a lot more discreet about it - so only he and the other sensible, conscientious, rule-abiding young people have been punished for their actions and they've got away with it fine well.

He's now a very mature 14, but if he needs to get a brief message to us, he has to go to reception and ask them to call us - just like a little kiddie who needs their mummy or daddy. School: where teenagers are actively prevented from growing, developing and preparing for the adult world.

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That's how I feel about the ban.

I'm glad mine got through secondary school before it came in. You don't know how important it is to have one until that emergency comes where it is important.

And we have a secondary school walking route goes past work: there's a fair trade in old smart phones and swapping of SIM cards (to hide that they have a smart phone at home) goes on.

We should be teaching them (as parents) to be responsible when they first get them rather than handing them one at 16/18yo and expecting them suddenly to be responsible.

PinkyFlamingo · 04/09/2026 18:46

T3Tim3 · 04/09/2026 17:44

They can if they do not allow them in school at all and any parent of a child that has been bullied by phone or filmed should be pushing for schools to do this.

Do you honestly think some teenagers will adhere to this? I don't.

LlynTegid · 04/09/2026 18:48

Yellowsubmarine55 · 04/09/2026 18:23

I don't agree with a total ban but as soon as they enter gate in the morning any phone should be off with punishment if seen out. Once they leave at 3 or whatever, surely they can do what they want as it's their own free time.

Locked away not off. The point teachers have made is valid.

Where there has been bans of use during the school day, it has reduced bullying.

FirmSnake · 04/09/2026 18:56

PinkyFlamingo · 04/09/2026 18:46

Do you honestly think some teenagers will adhere to this? I don't.

Of course they won't. The root of the issue is ineffective parenting. Schools are damned if they do, damned if they don't.

ThreeWordUsername · 04/09/2026 19:14

Going to school without phones in the 90s is not relevant to today's kids. School in the 90s was preparing the kids to becoming adults in the 90s and early 00s. Life is different now and our kids' needs are subsequently different too.

My teens use their phones to access public transport passes, timetables, maps, info. They use them to keep track of homework, and in some cases to do it. They have banking online and via their phones.

I think social media is problematic and support age limits or bans there. I'm also totally supportive of a no phones in class or even during the whole school day but a total ban does them a disservice imo. It's 2026 now and many areas of life pretty much require a smartphone whether you like it or not. They aren't the devil. They're a powerful tool we should be teaching our kids to use responsibly.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 04/09/2026 19:30

concertinacornflake · 04/09/2026 16:49

Kids will just bring them anyway, why do you think a ban will end the problem?

I suppose the schools think/hope that it'll gradually change their culture and reduce the problem to just a few pupils who simply won't be told what to do - usually with parents who'll raise hell if someone so much as suggests they might

Newname26 · 04/09/2026 20:21

ThreeWordUsername · 04/09/2026 19:14

Going to school without phones in the 90s is not relevant to today's kids. School in the 90s was preparing the kids to becoming adults in the 90s and early 00s. Life is different now and our kids' needs are subsequently different too.

My teens use their phones to access public transport passes, timetables, maps, info. They use them to keep track of homework, and in some cases to do it. They have banking online and via their phones.

I think social media is problematic and support age limits or bans there. I'm also totally supportive of a no phones in class or even during the whole school day but a total ban does them a disservice imo. It's 2026 now and many areas of life pretty much require a smartphone whether you like it or not. They aren't the devil. They're a powerful tool we should be teaching our kids to use responsibly.

Well said.
There are tons of these schools and mobile phone threads.

As you say the issue is Social Media, getting rid of phones is like throwing the baby out with the bath water.

BaronessEllarawrosaurus · 04/09/2026 20:44

FirmSnake · 04/09/2026 16:46

Which bus companies are digital only? People say this frequently but I've never actually encountered it as an issue, and I dont drove so use a lot of public transport.

Add transdev to the list of only providing a paper ticket for a week maximum substantially adding to the cost of school travel compared to buying on the app (school uses lockers for those with permission - mine has permission due to bus pass)

OriginalUsername2 · 04/09/2026 20:47

My kids used their phones to let me know if they would be late home so I didn’t start thinking the worst. They used buses and trains to get to school and back so sometimes there would be a delay. Also when they wanted to go hang out with friends for an hour or so they could easily let me know that was happening.

That being said, I do think it’s a good idea overall, phone culture with teens is awful. But I imagine they’ll carry on owning them and using them outside of school hours, so I’m not sure how much it will help.

My daughter once had a horrific image shoved in her face on a phone screen by some idiot boy, so at least that won’t happen in school anymore.

dustabsorber · 04/09/2026 21:06

Darragon · 04/09/2026 14:23

Yes but in the 90s you just had to send your kid out with a 10p coin and they could call you from a phonebox. You could also shelter in a phone box from torrential rain and lock yourself in a public toilet if you were being harassed/followed. The public loos are now a coffee shop and no phone boxes in our town. The police made regular patrols and young people feared the consequences of anti social behaviour a lot more than now (because there were consequences back then). We still got egged/beaten up on the way to/from school sometimes. Social order has broken down and infrastructure is worse. I’d rather my kid had a phone or walked home with a parent. Surely if the school has banned phones your kid’s brick is useless too as it’s a phone?

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In the 70s, it was a 2P

Newname26 · 04/09/2026 21:25

dustabsorber · 04/09/2026 21:06

In the 70s, it was a 2P

If your old enough to recall 2p phone calls in the 70s.
When did house phones become the norm, for ordinary working classes I'm thinking the 60s?
I'm thinking the 50s would have been middle classes.

My secondary had a payphone in the office reception area in the 80s. I'm trying to figure out when that was probably installed, my guess is the 70s when enough kids had phones at home to phone home?

Jk987 · 04/09/2026 21:26

Isn’t the ban in place to protect children from Social Media? And inappropriate look ups? The pros outweigh the cons in my opinion.

RaininSummer · 04/09/2026 22:42

T3Tim3 · 04/09/2026 18:15

Children have been doing that for decades before mobile phones and survived.

But there were phone boxes then .

Kindnesscostsnothingtryit · 04/09/2026 22:53

We live very rural and my boys have long bus journeys to school. Often the bus breaks down but with a phone they can message and let me know. Its not as if I can walk the route to see where they are. School has banned phones but they can have them on thd journey. I'd be surprised if peer pressure doesn't mean they still want a phone for home use.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 05/09/2026 06:44

Just a thought, but from the schools' point of view, perhaps there's merit in at least keeping the phone bullying off the premises?

It's true that some kids will go right on doing it, but this way it would avoid having parents demanding they "do something" about what happened during the school day - unless they somehow think that even what happens outside school time is down to them?

Smokeywater · 05/09/2026 06:46

Dgs won’t go for a poo at school in case someone films under the partition

JustMarriedBecca · 05/09/2026 06:50

My daughter just started Y7. Her school has lockable pouches. I'm amazed at the culture. I can see how much she's using it and she's averaging 15 minutes a day on WhatsApp. People shouldn't assume that kids will be on them for hours.

I feel safer knowing she has one walking to and from school.

It's not the phone that needs to change it's the culture around use. That's on parents

lxn889121 · 05/09/2026 07:18

I never knew that so many children used payphones in the 90s-early 2000s...

As a school aged kid at that time, I don't remember ever seeing a person let alone another child use one.

Somehow I think this is just a quick easy line to discredit the idea that before every child had a connection their parents in their pocket, they actually managed fine on their own..

Puzzledandpissedoff · 05/09/2026 08:04

lxn889121 · 05/09/2026 07:18

I never knew that so many children used payphones in the 90s-early 2000s...

As a school aged kid at that time, I don't remember ever seeing a person let alone another child use one.

Somehow I think this is just a quick easy line to discredit the idea that before every child had a connection their parents in their pocket, they actually managed fine on their own..

Completely agree with this - also that not every child is glued to their phone 24/7 - but unfortunately there's a contingent of parents who can't be bothered with the hassle of telling their kids that actually no, they're not going to have access to them all the time, so some continue to be lobotomized by that glowing screen

Grumpyoldcat · 05/09/2026 08:10

All schools will be following suit so the parent who has decided to send child to another school because of this policy is being a dick.
Every parent, teacher and child should feel relieved.

Newname26 · 05/09/2026 08:16

lxn889121 · 05/09/2026 07:18

I never knew that so many children used payphones in the 90s-early 2000s...

As a school aged kid at that time, I don't remember ever seeing a person let alone another child use one.

Somehow I think this is just a quick easy line to discredit the idea that before every child had a connection their parents in their pocket, they actually managed fine on their own..

Did you never carry a phone card?

I was 16 and used to call home and tell my Dad what train I'd be on so he could meet me.
The coin phone at the city station used to have a massive queue but the card phone would be empty.

The card would also let you pay by the penny rather than the 10p, 20p, 50p

Bryonyberries · 05/09/2026 08:25

Depends on areas really. My children had a ten mile bus journey on an unreliable public bus. On one occasion the bus didn’t follow the correct route and dropped several children (including mine) three miles in the opposite direction to where I’d have expected her to be if I’d gone out searching. The walk home would have been along a busy A road with no foot path. Also, if they missed the bus there would be a walk from school to the bus station to catch the next which was over an hour later and the last one of the day.

Not so bad in the summer terms but a real worry once the dark nights kick in at 4pm. A phone means they can either be contacted or call for help. The life360 made me far less anxious while I was working as I could check they’d got the bus and got home after several worrying incidents like this.

The school has banned phones now so I’m very glad the youngest had left now.

planesick · 05/09/2026 08:35

My DD's school has told us to put an app on the phone that blocks it while on the premises.
I have refused. I have scheduled the downtime to coincide with the school day. (With a pin known only to me).
They have said this isn't good enough. My daughter's choices are; the app, a brick phone, hand it to reception every day or leave it at home.

When school had a webinar about the app with the company who market the app, they didn't answer any questions about data collection, privacy, the DBS status of those working on designing the app. They didn't answer questions about what commission the school were on for using this app (no other apps are allowed to block, just the schools one).

It's a blanket ban to cover the young people who don't follow the usual phone rules..and they are the ones who will find a way round these rules too. But then, that's exactly what is happening all through society these days 🤦🤬

IStillHearTheWaves · 05/09/2026 08:44

Aydel · 04/09/2026 17:22

I’m a governor at a private school that has always banned phones, inasmuch that phones have to be put in a locker at the start of the day, and they can only have access to their phone during the day if they need to call a parent (although the school admin staff will offer to do this). So phones to and from school, fine, but not during the school day. The school gets outstanding results and has practically zero bullying. It’s also a very happy school.

I don't think anyone would argue with that, really. Phones shouldn't be a distraction during school hours. People's concerns stem mainly from children travelling without a phone, which is completely different.

IStillHearTheWaves · 05/09/2026 08:53

lxn889121 · 05/09/2026 07:18

I never knew that so many children used payphones in the 90s-early 2000s...

As a school aged kid at that time, I don't remember ever seeing a person let alone another child use one.

Somehow I think this is just a quick easy line to discredit the idea that before every child had a connection their parents in their pocket, they actually managed fine on their own..

Really? I find this odd. I didn't have a phone card but always had loose change or reversed the charges haha.

What did you do if you decided to go to a friend's house after school or the library instead of coming straight home? Did you just go?! My mum always expected me to let her know if I was going to be home hours later than usual. I certainly wasn't unusual in my social circle. My school actually ended up getting a payphone in the mid 90s for pupils to use.