AIBU to say 6:30am isn’t the middle of the night?

@Pinkchickenwine you have no idea how I parent.
Sorry, I forgot to say this in my previous reply.
So no personal attacks, OK. They're not allowed.

I think if you come on a post where a new mum is struggling with a DH who is behaving badly and declare that she is the one who has a problem then it’s not unreasonable for a poster to point out that you’re position is unusual due to your own relationship issues.

The fact that you’re fixated on the OP being in the wrong and arguing with everyone who is giving sensible advice is odd

But it’s acceptable to tell your partner to fuck off in front of your child, because it’s all about tone! Your values are seriously skewed!

Yes. It's acceptable because nobody's a Saint 100% of the time. People are flawed.
If this was a pattern of behaviour it would be different but it is not.

What more do you want me to say?

Suddenly bow down to your greater wisdom?

I won't so for the love of whatever, please stop replying to me.

You know that is a fair comment.
Can't argue with that.

When someone posts something as concerning and denigrating as you… hell yes I’m going to look at the background

and sure enough in your case…

Earning money so the family can survive.

It's weird in my opinion to look at another poster's history.
Insulting too. Oh you can't have an opinion on anything because of X, y, z.

I don't even know what the heck's she's on about.

You know that is a fair comment.
Can't argue with that.

I can't imagine myself giving as much of a toss about other people's posts that I'd trawl their history, though

@Morethanalover

Because coming on the thread of a woman that was struggling, attacking her and making misogynistic comments about her role v her husbands was deeply unpleasant. Do you really not see that?

that is why you have been challenged. That is why people care.

Challenge away on what I say here on the thread - that's entirely valid.
Fair enough.
I'll defend my view.

Doesn't alter the fact that trawling through a poster's history is in my opinion a pathetic thing to do.

Yes yes I know it's within the rules.

Mumsnet has the right to shut me down but I won't be harangued or shamed into changing my view by other posters.

Challenge away on what I say here on the thread - that's entirely valid.
Fair enough.
I'll defend my view.

Doesn't alter the fact that trawling through a poster's history is in my opinion a pathetic thing to do.

Yes yes I know it's within the rules.

Mumsnet has the right to shut me down but I won't be harangued or shamed into changing my view by other posters.

Bit of an antiquated view isn’t it? I’m on maternity leave at the minute and have saved up so that I will continue to pay my half of the bills until I’m back at work early next year?

Yes. It's acceptable because nobody's a Saint 100% of the time. People are flawed.
If this was a pattern of behaviour it would be different but it is not.

What more do you want me to say?

Suddenly bow down to your greater wisdom?

I won't so for the love of whatever, please stop replying to me.

Little backstory:

We have two children (4 and 4 months), I breastfeed so wake up with the baby but he’s a good sleeper and usually wakes up once around 4/5am. At the weekend my husband and I take turns having a lie in and getting up with the kids - in my eyes a lie in should be an hour ish so that we can still spend time together and do the morning dog walk

Yesterday I woke up at 6 to feed the baby and then went downstairs with them both around 6:20. Baby’s routine is having first nap on the dog walk 2 (ish) hours after waking. Husband is still asleep at 8:20 so I’m trying to get dressed and get kids sorted without waking him, but am also a bit annoyed as he will be out from 10am all day, so kids won’t see him

He wakes up and quickly gets dressed to come on the dog walk and then is out at the football from 10:30 - 3:30, he then gets home and says he’s popping to the pub as it’s his friends dads birthday. He comes back at about 6 and we do bedtime together - not really relevant but just that he’s not seen the kids much today and he usually does either football or cricket one day a weekend so we only have one family day

My 4 year old hasn’t been very well, very lethargic and doesn’t want to eat. This morning he comes in at 6:20 saying he’s thirsty and wants milk. Husband says we don’t get drinks in the middle of the night and that he can only have water. 4YO is crying more and more as he wants milk (probably hungry after not eating much). The baby then wakes up happily babbling.

I say it’s probably best to just wake up now as it’s usual wake up time anyway and he’s poorly etc. husband is trying to get him back to sleep - he’s not going to go as it’s 6:30 and he’s just getting more upset, so I go into the room and husband starts shooing me away and saying I give in to every little whim (I don’t, I’m usually the one disciplining/carrying out consequences). I said I’ll just wake up with them then. He calls me a martyr and starts telling me to fuck off and that I’m being fucking ridiculous etc. I feel like he just doesn’t want to wake up early with them even after hardly seeing them yesterday

AIBU to say 6:30am isn’t the middle of the night and our ill child should be allowed to have a glass of milk!?

He told you to FO in front of your 4 yr old? -- nice, not!!

I wouldn't necessarily give an ill child milk because dairy can be tricky for upset digestive systems but would definitely try to feed someone who was now hungry - toast or something else plain to start with and then add more nutrients over the day.