AIBU to find my ex cancelling childcare for his wife’s travel strange

I think it's fine they clearly are doubling up on work and mini breaks

However I'd be recalculating any child maintenance as he is having them alot less than he normally should and that financial burden falls on to you now

If it didn't suit, you should have changed the agreement. Every weekend isn't reasonable, but nor is not fulfilling the agreement.

It’s not fine he’s cancelling his kids to do that? Decent parents wouldn’t.

They should be having their mini breaks on his off weekends anyway.

It's extremely weird to take a job that requires travel if you're scared to travel.
Surely this is going to cost them a lot of money in paying for his travel?
Very odd

HE needs to be the one sorting childcare out and you need to be firm about this! When it’s meant to be his time to have the kids ALL responsibility about childcare is his problem

I couldn’t agree more re her taking a job that involves travel- I’d like to hear her reasons why she took it. But your problem in the future is that this is only beginning- it’s ten days between now and Christmas but what about the rest of the year when the anxious traveller is having to travel? Sounds a nightmare for him actually as well as the children and you. Best of luck

Oh dear another man putting another woman over his own children, half term week they can take the kids with them whilst she is working and other than that I would say no sorry I have already made plans will be dropping them off as schedule - if she couldn’t travel without him she shouldn’t had taken the job without discussing the job acceptance meant he won’t be seeing his kids anymore and it isn’t fair on his kids - they will hate him in the long run….and he will end up an old lonely man

Strange it's the whole of half term she's suddenly travelling! I bet theyre going on holiday that week and she just does want the kids there.
I hope this wonderful travelling job pays well she must be making shortfall up the your husband loses while pandering after her.
He work must think it odd she turns up everywhere with husband in tow! Silly cow

Agree that if he’s taking time off to go with her, he can take the kids with too as he won’t be working.

Can you say that of course you can't fill in for him during his times with the children, but they are terrific little travellers and will absolutely love to see all these new places, plus keeping him company sightseeing while his wife is working? Remind him to make sure their passports are in order.

They’ve just used his Partners work as the excuse only. It isn’t true it’s just a convenient excuse. However his children are priority and should always be priority and this needs to be nipped in the bud before he gets used to the fact he can tell you what to do and pick and choose when he has custody. For whatever reason, he is choosing his partner over his kids or it’s something else entirely.

It’s time to get the custody arrangements cast in concrete if they are not already. If he is breaching something you need to take action. He’s raised the stakes. It’s your choice whether to re-raise or fold to him. If he’s serious about his kids then he will step up and be the father he needs to be. Hopefully he just needs to wake up Call and he isn’t pulling away. Best of luck.

I'm wondering the very same thing.