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Dh says the U.K is f***** and he never wants to go back

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Chippednailtoepolish · 26/08/2026 14:55

These were his words this morning.

We live abroad in a place where a lot of people are coming to live, escaping the uk and America.
He says with everything on the news, the way it's going and what the people coming to where we are tell him, that we'd be mad to return.
Is he being realistic? I want to return to be with family desperately and have a strange feeling that I need to do it soon

Would we be mad to return at this time? If yes, then when!

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justasking111 · 29/08/2026 20:45

Dersie · 29/08/2026 19:51

Unfortunately most of horrendous rapes and attacks are never made public knowledge.
Most of these monsters are never caught as they are unidentifiable or there is insufficient evidence for the CPS to prosecute.
And as for a PP who tried to convince all that this isnt actually happening, dont do that please.

We've family in a northern city, some in the NHS, some in the police. You're quite correct it's not public knowledge in the main. Sometimes for privacy reasons, sometimes sub judice. FB local pages are more revealing as are other social media outlets. But the press don't report it all.

Gurgletummy · 29/08/2026 21:23

Chippednailtoepolish · 28/08/2026 18:12

Wow, that's pretty unfair to all the hardworking, educated Portuguese.
I was focusing more of safety and standard of living/environment. It's a beautiful place and extremely safe for Dc.
However, I miss my family

Does your DH have family here @Chippednailtoepolish ?

How long ago did you emigrate?

Chippednailtoepolish · 29/08/2026 21:31

Gurgletummy · 29/08/2026 21:23

Does your DH have family here @Chippednailtoepolish ?

How long ago did you emigrate?

Yes two siblings

9 years ago

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Gurgletummy · 29/08/2026 21:35

Chippednailtoepolish · 29/08/2026 21:31

Yes two siblings

9 years ago

What propelled you to move then?

And his siblings also live in Cornwall?

Gurgletummy · 29/08/2026 21:37

Dersie · 29/08/2026 19:51

Unfortunately most of horrendous rapes and attacks are never made public knowledge.
Most of these monsters are never caught as they are unidentifiable or there is insufficient evidence for the CPS to prosecute.
And as for a PP who tried to convince all that this isnt actually happening, dont do that please.

How do you know then @Dersie ?

Gurgletummy · 29/08/2026 21:38

justasking111 · 29/08/2026 20:45

We've family in a northern city, some in the NHS, some in the police. You're quite correct it's not public knowledge in the main. Sometimes for privacy reasons, sometimes sub judice. FB local pages are more revealing as are other social media outlets. But the press don't report it all.

So your family in the emergency services breach their professional code and tell family members confidential information @justasking111 ?

Chippednailtoepolish · 29/08/2026 21:41

Gurgletummy · 29/08/2026 21:35

What propelled you to move then?

And his siblings also live in Cornwall?

No, not in Cornwall. It was for his job, was only meant to be for 2-3 years initially

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Gurgletummy · 29/08/2026 21:50

Chippednailtoepolish · 29/08/2026 21:41

No, not in Cornwall. It was for his job, was only meant to be for 2-3 years initially

A part of his lack of enthusiasm will be that it is your family that he will be moving to.

Can his job be picked up easily in Cornwall? Not exactly a high earning hotbed for recruitment

Dersie · 29/08/2026 21:53

Gurgletummy · 29/08/2026 21:37

How do you know then @Dersie ?

Let's just say im privy to the statistics and facts in matters such as these.
Lots of serious incidents are kept from the public so as to minimise public unrest and outrage, and thankfully so.
Please elaborate why your posts are quite negative in your responses to other posters voicing their concerns surrounding these issues about the UK.

Gurgletummy · 29/08/2026 22:00

Dersie · 29/08/2026 21:53

Let's just say im privy to the statistics and facts in matters such as these.
Lots of serious incidents are kept from the public so as to minimise public unrest and outrage, and thankfully so.
Please elaborate why your posts are quite negative in your responses to other posters voicing their concerns surrounding these issues about the UK.

Nonsense

Dersie · 29/08/2026 22:13

Gurgletummy · 29/08/2026 22:00

Nonsense

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Having read your previous negative quotes to other posters on this thread, I apologise but Im not interested in anything else you may or may not add.
Im also very sorry for you that you feel that my previous post was in your word 'nonsense'. Facts always have a way of prevailing. Maybe not for the greater good.

justasking111 · 29/08/2026 22:27

Dersie · 29/08/2026 21:53

Let's just say im privy to the statistics and facts in matters such as these.
Lots of serious incidents are kept from the public so as to minimise public unrest and outrage, and thankfully so.
Please elaborate why your posts are quite negative in your responses to other posters voicing their concerns surrounding these issues about the UK.

Exactly look what's happening in Middlesbrough

Gurgletummy · 30/08/2026 07:03

Dersie · 29/08/2026 22:13

Having read your previous negative quotes to other posters on this thread, I apologise but Im not interested in anything else you may or may not add.
Im also very sorry for you that you feel that my previous post was in your word 'nonsense'. Facts always have a way of prevailing. Maybe not for the greater good.

As I say… nonsense that you are privy to stats that reveals there are many serious incidences that are shushed away and not revealed to the public. If there is a a victim and there is a perpetrator and the latter is found guilty… there is NO way of stopping the existence of the incidence (not necessarily all the details) being released to the public.

So… nonsense

Whatafustercluck · 30/08/2026 08:35

Gurgletummy · 30/08/2026 07:03

As I say… nonsense that you are privy to stats that reveals there are many serious incidences that are shushed away and not revealed to the public. If there is a a victim and there is a perpetrator and the latter is found guilty… there is NO way of stopping the existence of the incidence (not necessarily all the details) being released to the public.

So… nonsense

I agree with this. There are plenty of media outlets that would be only too pleased to cover these stories, and our laws are firmly on the side of transparency so there is no legal reason for cover-ups to be common. Our free press simply does not work that way. The only thing that might be happening is that ahead of court hearings and prosecution, details are limited to ensure a fair trial. And that is so that criminals are not able to be released on a technicality, or re-tried costing thousands of pounds.

Incidentally, I've worked in policing for more than two decades, so have a pretty good idea about how the justice system works.

Missohnoyoubetterdont · 30/08/2026 08:41

Gurgletummy · 30/08/2026 07:03

As I say… nonsense that you are privy to stats that reveals there are many serious incidences that are shushed away and not revealed to the public. If there is a a victim and there is a perpetrator and the latter is found guilty… there is NO way of stopping the existence of the incidence (not necessarily all the details) being released to the public.

So… nonsense

Exactly people spout all sorts of nonsense about stuff on here.

Gurgletummy · 30/08/2026 09:18

Missohnoyoubetterdont · 30/08/2026 08:41

Exactly people spout all sorts of nonsense about stuff on here.

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Exactly
Pure fiction from @Dersie
the idea that @Dersie is involved with collating stats on serious crimes that are squirrelled away from the public eye… farcical.

GutsyBee · 30/08/2026 09:27

Completely agree. There are a lot of malovent groups seeking to cause division for their own gain. Farage would happily see his country burn to fund his pockets. I live in a lovely part of the SW where mostly multicultural groups get on well together. It sounds like you might want to check what your husbands been reading!

Dersie · 30/08/2026 09:29

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soddingspiderseason · 30/08/2026 09:32

Dersie · 29/08/2026 19:51

Unfortunately most of horrendous rapes and attacks are never made public knowledge.
Most of these monsters are never caught as they are unidentifiable or there is insufficient evidence for the CPS to prosecute.
And as for a PP who tried to convince all that this isnt actually happening, dont do that please.

So you ate using rape to stoke division? Please don’t.

Walkaround · 30/08/2026 09:42

With any growing underclass, there are growing issues, whether the underclass be illegal immigrants, refugees, or teenagers in Middlesborough. Stopping the boats will not stop the underclass from growing any more than Brexit did. Recognising we live in an interconnected world and are not an island fortress (unless we wish to collectively starve to death) would help. Pretending there are simple solutions to illegal immigration and that it’s just a few pointless, outdated, silly laws and conventions getting in the way of common sense, does not help. Everything we do and decide as a country has an impact elsewhere and therefore creates reactions elsewhere that are frequently not favourable to our interests, and actions by others elsewhere create issues that scupper our attempts to improve our lot here and force us to react to the external forces rather than be able to focus on our internal problems.

Focusing on a subsection of the symptoms of the problems we face is just looking for bogeyman to focus on, so we can ignore the complex reality of the situation we are actually in, and so the psychopaths who don’t care about anything but themselves, not even their own descendants, can profit from our idiocy. Absolutely nowhere in the world is a safe haven. As all countries come under growing pressure, for whom they feel they have any responsibility, and who they think is an expendable pain in the arse, will shift, and then you will have to think about whether being in a country that only cares about you for as long as you are economically useful to it, and which could one day view you as an enemy alien, is a safe place to be. Is it safe to be somewhere long term where you have not actively sought citizenship? Or somewhere you would not actually want to be a citizen? Is it reasonable to think it’s OK, because when you are no longer economically useful, you can go to your home country to be an economic drain there?

Gurgletummy · 30/08/2026 11:03

Dread to think what daft nonsense @Dersie posted that was deleted

Gurgletummy · 30/08/2026 11:04

soddingspiderseason · 30/08/2026 09:32

So you ate using rape to stoke division? Please don’t.

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@Dersie is talking out of her arse. Best ignored

strawberrybubblegum · 30/08/2026 11:08

soddingspiderseason · 30/08/2026 09:32

So you ate using rape to stoke division? Please don’t.

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Nope. Just expecting the government to make policy in the interests of the population, based on real evidence.

Not deliberately hide and obfuscate the evidence in order to get away with harmful, ideological policy.

Gurgletummy · 30/08/2026 11:12

strawberrybubblegum · 30/08/2026 11:08

Nope. Just expecting the government to make policy in the interests of the population, based on real evidence.

Not deliberately hide and obfuscate the evidence in order to get away with harmful, ideological policy.

Evidence?

sugarplumlily · 30/08/2026 11:19

I’ve lived and worked in many countries - America, Australia, Asia. I have friends still in all those countries and although I haven’t lived and worked in continental Europe I have many good friends who do now. They ALL have increasing problems with their economies, natural disasters, crime, youth mental health, health services. I remember being in a friend’s car and going opening the glove compartment to get a tissue, to be faced with a hand gun. Like it was an ordinary thing in that country. I’ve seen abject poverty in many countries. I just about survived with my life as a typhoon that took the roof off my house as I sat in it. Ever looked at the sky and thought you were about to die in that moment? I have. I now live back in the UK where I was born and raised and it’s wonderful. It’s safe from many things. It’s English speaking so good for work
globally. It’s green and lush. It has the most incredible old architecture. You can fly to many other countries for an alternative culture hit at the drop of a hat. The Lakes. My gosh the lakes are breath taking. It has its problems. But so does the rest of the world.

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