AIBU to want to sell the house rented to my son’s girlfriend?

I think you need to follow your gut feeling. It’s worrying you for whatever reason and you want to sell to free up money for retirement and to not have to manage this property. So I’d explain you need the money to your son and to her and serve notice. Their relationship is their business whether she’s married or not I wouldn’t question or make comments about that.

OP it’s your house, you can sell if you want - you’ve been more than generous keeping the rent low for a long time.

If your son has an issue he can buy a place for them to live together. It’s probably better in the long run to disentangle yourself from their relationship.

Could you put the house she's living in, onto the market to sell. As you've said it's the property that you want to sell first

And move her to another of your properties, with a higher rent and a year tenancy? Making it clear that at the end of the year the tenancy ends

Or if you don't have another property, help her find something she can afford to rent, with your son chipping in

It sounds like your relationship with your son isn't great. Let's be honest, whatever you do he's unlikely to be happy with you

I'd up the rent to close to market value and see what happens- what your son has done is hurtful but you shouldn't let that colour your judgement- if she wants to keep renting fine, but you need close to market rate. Your son might be angry but he is going to be angry unless you continue to rent to her very cheaply- so don't try to punish him by putting it on the market but make it clear you don't intend to subsidise his girlfriend.

@Einely
If you want to sell the house
Then sell it its yours after all
Just make sure you totally do your research first
And serve proper notice
She's literally landed on her feet with you renting it to her at a low rent for years and knows it so that should stop for a start
Another thing this business with her 3 children?
Although she's working, paying her way
Your son has taken them on?
Look,
I'm going to be unpopular here and say she's with your son BECAUSE of the way it is with the house, the children, if the scenario were different would she even have honestly looked at him twice?
But he's a grown man and has a brain in his head, made his own decision
So you either raise the rent to the current true-value rate and SHE PAYS
Or
As I'm assuming they're both working you put it to them to get a mortgage together
I reckon she's banking on your son to see that it all comes out to her advantage over you somehow.
Your son knows he's subconsciously being played but will dig his heels in
But if it implodes it implodes
You need that money for your future and
Could you honestly in the future rely on him to help you out?
Ask yourself,
What do you think she'd have done
Going by details you DO know so far???

Ridiculous and wrong

You are able to continue obtaining the money from the Ukrainian scheme when a person goes into a rental property you own.

@Monvelo
It may be hard for her true
So she may be prepared to do whatever she's got to do..........

The OP has explained that she stopped getting support when she let the house to her

Sell it - it’s so hard to get hold of plumbers etcetc - give yourselves a break tell them you want to sell it - she can look for someone else with DS

If you want to sell it you should.

ukranians are being given priority by the council and housing associations for properties through the charities set up and have more rights than HA and council tenants!! They can basically do anything that would have HA tenants kicked out and get away with it as the “resettlement “ people are on their side not the other tenants who have to put up with allsorts of shit!

Just sell it OP. Explain to the renter that this has always been the plan, give the appropriate amount of notice and ensure you follow all legal obligations. Do not get caught up in any guilt tripping from her or your son. It is your property and you are within your rights to sell, as long as you are above board and give them as much notice as at least needed (or as a courtesy more), then they really have nothing to complain about. Keep it pleasant and factual, it is a property you cannot afford to keep. They can rent elsewhere either together or separately. Their relationship is largely irrelevant.

I hope your son is prepared for parenthood because that could very well be the next step if the house is sold (which I absolutely think you should. You are not there to subsidize them).

I hope for your sakes you've a proper rental agreement. Just carry on as if you were renting to stranger. Tell yiyr son thus was always the plan for your retirement.

Not if you are charging them rent you're not.

You cannot charge them rent and have money from the Government for the scheme.
If someone goes into a rental you own you can still claim from the Government but not charge them rent.
You cannot claim from the scheme if the person is a close family member.

I expect the rent more than the £350 from the Government.

Ugh get rid of her. Give them notice that you’re selling the house and tell your son that this is a business matter, nothing to do with him.

Yes, but that isn't what was implied by your previous post.

My guests are in a separate property we own. We get the thank you payments. We cant charge them rent.

I think my posts have been very clear !

I think this is a great solution, and also gives them time to raise the deposit if they'd like to put in an offer to buy it.

It is possible she originally said she was married because she was concerned about being judged as a single parent?

I think you need to tread carefully or you could end up losing your son.

Why cannot this son, what with the significant financial cushion OP has mentioned, buy this house?
I can well understand the desire to sell up, but I am damned if her son’s attitude should prevent her from doing so.
He's an adult, and is owed nothing in terms of how his parents arrange their private business.

You owe this women nothing. You have been generous so far with a low rent. The put it on the market for sale.

Let her find somewhere else and pay the going rate. Maybe your son can move in with her at another house.And share the rent costs etc.