AIBU to want to sell the house rented to my son’s girlfriend?

Increase the rent, but you need to check all the rules for how much etc.
You could serve her with notice to quit a section 8 no fault evection as your wanting to sell, but i fear it may damage relationship with son.

This was my first thought.

There's also the fact that so many things go wrong in a country at war. For instance, around 70,000 Ukrainians are missing due to Russian forced relocations. Nobody hears from them after they've been taken, but Russia insists they're being treated respectfully. If your husband had disappeared, you'd have no idea where he was, dead or alive. No divorce or death certificate, no indication you'd ever see him again.

Anyway, OP, you should sell the house if this was your plan. But take the emotion out of it. Deal with it openly, like adults, and consider whether you want to offer her another property or leave the next move up to her & DS.

'One of our rental properties'. Yes you're being nasty..I see you as the Lady Of The Village endowing charity with a smug smile...until your son started seeing this lady.
You clearly dont need to sell, it just seems a spiteful way of showing your disapproval

sell or gift the house to your Son. problem solved

It’s your house, you can sell it anytime you want. You’re subsiding her as it is, she should be thankful for the time she’s had, not angry it’s ending. She’s had a good run, but if she wants to stay her permanently, she needs to support herself like the rest of us.

Talk to your son and his girlfriend about the possibility of selling, how you need the money and can’t afford the repairs. If you do the right way it should t blow up in your faces but if you go in say the house is being sold with no further conversation then yes it probably will blow up.
You can also raise the rent, but do it with a conversation she’s your son’s girlfriend as well as a tenant and you should treat her as such. Regardless of whether she’s married or what her situation this is who your son is going out with and I assume you have a relationship with her on that basis so any business issues will have to be addressed in a different manner.

I don't really understand how your wish/need to sell the house impacts on your son's relationship with her, especially since you say he is well off - nothing to stop them renting together somewhere else then? If it would "detonate your relationship" with him, then something is very wrong with the relationship, and that is the real issue.

Yes, if you want to sell the house that you own, then do so. Give her proper notice and list it. Start taking people through it so she understands it will be sold. Do not let your son move her into your home. Do let us know what happened!

Why did you fund your son through his previous split if he has his own income which you suspect might be attractive to this woman?

But regardless of that, it is perfectly legitimate for you to want to liquidise your assets for your retirement. Also perfectly reasonable to raise the rent in the meantime and to state you never envisaged the subsidised renting would go on so long. If your son objects you need to be assertive with him - she is not your responsibility. If he is thst bothered he can put his hand in his own pocket and help her out; he is the one with ties to her, not you.

You owe this women nothing. You have been generous so far with a low rent. The put it on the market for sale.

Let her find somewhere else and pay the going rate. Maybe your son can move in with her at another house.And share the rent costs etc.

Why cannot this son, what with the significant financial cushion OP has mentioned, buy this house?
I can well understand the desire to sell up, but I am damned if her son’s attitude should prevent her from doing so.
He's an adult, and is owed nothing in terms of how his parents arrange their private business.

I think you need to tread carefully or you could end up losing your son.

It is possible she originally said she was married because she was concerned about being judged as a single parent?

I think this is a great solution, and also gives them time to raise the deposit if they'd like to put in an offer to buy it.

I think my posts have been very clear !

Yes, but that isn't what was implied by your previous post.

My guests are in a separate property we own. We get the thank you payments. We cant charge them rent.

Ugh get rid of her. Give them notice that you’re selling the house and tell your son that this is a business matter, nothing to do with him.

You cannot charge them rent and have money from the Government for the scheme.
If someone goes into a rental you own you can still claim from the Government but not charge them rent.
You cannot claim from the scheme if the person is a close family member.

I expect the rent more than the £350 from the Government.

Not if you are charging them rent you're not.

I hope for your sakes you've a proper rental agreement. Just carry on as if you were renting to stranger. Tell yiyr son thus was always the plan for your retirement.

I hope your son is prepared for parenthood because that could very well be the next step if the house is sold (which I absolutely think you should. You are not there to subsidize them).

Just sell it OP. Explain to the renter that this has always been the plan, give the appropriate amount of notice and ensure you follow all legal obligations. Do not get caught up in any guilt tripping from her or your son. It is your property and you are within your rights to sell, as long as you are above board and give them as much notice as at least needed (or as a courtesy more), then they really have nothing to complain about. Keep it pleasant and factual, it is a property you cannot afford to keep. They can rent elsewhere either together or separately. Their relationship is largely irrelevant.

ukranians are being given priority by the council and housing associations for properties through the charities set up and have more rights than HA and council tenants!! They can basically do anything that would have HA tenants kicked out and get away with it as the “resettlement “ people are on their side not the other tenants who have to put up with allsorts of shit!

If you want to sell it you should.

Sell it - it’s so hard to get hold of plumbers etcetc - give yourselves a break tell them you want to sell it - she can look for someone else with DS