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To join a dating site just to chat?

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VeryBerryCute · 11/08/2026 23:16

I’m a single mum and, because of my circumstances, I’m pretty much stuck at home in the evenings. I get quite bored and lonely, and I’ve been thinking about joining a dating site simply to have people to chat to in the evenings.
I wouldn’t be pretending I was looking for a relationship or planning to meet up. I’d be upfront from the beginning that I’m only interested in chatting and getting to know people, with no intention of taking it offline.
I know dating apps are obviously designed for people who are looking to date, so I’m wondering whether it would be unfair or misleading to use one purely for conversation, even if I’m completely honest about my intentions.
Would you think this was unreasonable, or is there nothing wrong with it as long as I’m upfront?

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goldgoose84 · 11/08/2026 23:50

Probably wouldn’t join a dating site just to chat. Do you have any hobbies or interests and could join a group to do with that and chat

VeryBerryCute · 11/08/2026 23:46

Hi thanks I don’t mean friendships but thanks for the suggestions. I don’t mind someone I can chat to but just not meet. I don’t really like posting too much on mumsnet either as I find people tend to be looking for an argument on here a lot.

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whippersnapper55 · 11/08/2026 23:36

I think most people on dating sites are going to be looking for dates, not someone just to chat to.

What about joining an online community like Gingerbread for single parents?
https://www.gingerbread.org.uk/your-community/

Your community | Gingerbread

The Gingerbread community is open to single parents across England and Wales to provide friendship and support locally and online.

https://www.gingerbread.org.uk/your-community/