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Aibu whose in the wrong double parking

135 replies

AutisticMumOf2 · Yesterday 15:59

Just got a new car, bigger than my old car. I struggled to reverse off my drive in my old car as my neighbours park directly opposite my driveway (no dropped curb but it's obvious they are in the way.)
Decided last night while getting used to said car to park on the road outside my drive, all good neighbours weren't home and I assumed they would have common sense to not double park and just park along slightly.
No... they double parked directly opposite mine. Cars were still getting through okay.

Just had a very angry woman screaming at me saying I am blocking the road. I told her I parked there first and that it was the neighbours who have double parked and to knock on their door to move which she just screamed at me.

Am I wrong for parking outside my house when their car wasn't there? They also have a drive but don't use it!

OP posts:
Poppinpoppinpopcorn · Yesterday 18:42

kingarthurt · Yesterday 18:25

None of my neighbours know I’m disabled. None of my neighbours have ever seen my blue badge, unless of course they follow me about.

Exactly this, none of my neighbours know Im disabled, it's not something people usually advertise. OP you have zero idea if one of your neighbours is disabled.

AutisticMumOf2 · Yesterday 18:42

BerryTwister · Yesterday 18:09

I’m baffled at the lack of dropped kerb. How do you get on to your “drive” OP? Is it a very low kerb? I’d knacker my tyres if I regularly drove up a kerb.

Yeah it's a very low kerb.

OP posts:
BeeDavis · Yesterday 18:42

AutisticMumOf2 · Yesterday 16:06

All my neighbours park on the pavement slightly so I was no different to the other cars! Still left room for a wheelchair or buggy.

Oh so because everyone does it it’s ok? Pavement parking absolutely riles me up when I can’t get by with a pram.Your neighbors sound like a set of cranks, but you should have parked on the road.

AutisticMumOf2 · Yesterday 18:45

BeeDavis · Yesterday 18:42

Oh so because everyone does it it’s ok? Pavement parking absolutely riles me up when I can’t get by with a pram.Your neighbors sound like a set of cranks, but you should have parked on the road.

But you can get a pram through. I can get my wheelchair through so a pram will have no issue.

OP posts:
TunnocksOrDeath · Yesterday 18:50

AutisticMumOf2 · Yesterday 16:09

Yes, it's fine around here. I cannot reverse onto driveway as the neighbours park in such a way that I just can't get onto it backwards! They are literally making it impossible for me to use my drive right now but as it has no dropped curb I can't say anything.

You're not allowed to drive across the pavement to access a property if there's no dropped kerb (Highways Act 1980). So stop moaning and find some legal way of parking your car.

PrizedPickledPopcorn · Yesterday 18:54

Lougle · Yesterday 18:38

If it's a standard road, I'm finding it hard to imagine how someone parking across the road from your driveway would be blocking you from reversing onto it? I have a large vehicle (long wheelbase Rifter) and a steep driveway. I can still reverse on to it when neighbours park solidy along the pavement opposite. If it's a bit tight in one direction, it's usually fine if I turn around and approach from the other direction.

Some roads are just narrow. My road, can’t turn left without crossing the centre line. Have to wait for a pause in both directions to pull out. And if someone parks opposite my drive it’s a matter an inching forward and backward to get out. Brick walls on both sides of my drive, so no room for manoeuvre. It’s a standard residential estate.

Blushingm · Yesterday 19:05

TunnocksOrDeath · Yesterday 18:50

You're not allowed to drive across the pavement to access a property if there's no dropped kerb (Highways Act 1980). So stop moaning and find some legal way of parking your car.

Exactly this.

You can’t drive across the pavement - when they put in a dropped kerb the reinforce the pavement part to take the weight of the car.

You don’t have a drive OP. If you want one - pay for it. And get a car you can drive safely. Your neighbours park perfectly legally

You say there was space for traffic to get through - your neighbour is doing nothing wrong

Femalemachinest · Yesterday 19:15

timtamsarebetterthanpenguins · Yesterday 16:26

You shouldn't be blocking your drive or parking on the pavement. YABU.

Blocking of her drive doesnt matter as she doesnt have one. No drop curb means no drive to block. OP shouldn't be driving over the pavement to park on her front garden/yard.

AutisticMumOf2 · Yesterday 19:18

Blushingm · Yesterday 19:05

Exactly this.

You can’t drive across the pavement - when they put in a dropped kerb the reinforce the pavement part to take the weight of the car.

You don’t have a drive OP. If you want one - pay for it. And get a car you can drive safely. Your neighbours park perfectly legally

You say there was space for traffic to get through - your neighbour is doing nothing wrong

Did you miss the part where I said this was an adapted disabled car? I can drive safely I've just had it 24 hours and need time to get used to it.

OP posts:
Blushingm · Yesterday 19:26

AutisticMumOf2 · Yesterday 19:18

Did you miss the part where I said this was an adapted disabled car? I can drive safely I've just had it 24 hours and need time to get used to it.

If you can’t drive it safely you shouldn’t be driving it. It doesn’t matter if it an adapted vehicle or a clown car. If you can’t reverse it safely you shouldn’t be behind the wheel.

If you caused an accident or knocked someone over you can’t excuse it by saying ‘oh it’s new to me - it’s an adapted vehicle!’. It just dangerous!

KindlySurfiingPlatypus · Yesterday 19:31

Lougle · Yesterday 18:38

If it's a standard road, I'm finding it hard to imagine how someone parking across the road from your driveway would be blocking you from reversing onto it? I have a large vehicle (long wheelbase Rifter) and a steep driveway. I can still reverse on to it when neighbours park solidy along the pavement opposite. If it's a bit tight in one direction, it's usually fine if I turn around and approach from the other direction.

I do sort-of know what OP means because in my road, my driveway is directly opposite a neighbour's driveway, and if they park across their driveway I have to adjust my parking manoeuver to deal with the narrower width. I always reverse into my driveway and when the driveway across from me is clear it's easy to get to be at right-angles to the road and reverse in straight. When there's a car parked there I have to curve in from a 45 degree angle and it's a lot more nerve-wracking. I wouldn't dream of doing either manoeuver the way OP does because backing out of a driveway is dangerous even if the road around is clear, but it must be even more difficult when the road around is crowded. The tightest bits of getting on and off driveways are much much easier if you are reversing in and going forwards on the way out.

Aibu whose in the wrong double parking
kingarthurt · Yesterday 19:34

PrizedPickledPopcorn · Yesterday 18:54

Some roads are just narrow. My road, can’t turn left without crossing the centre line. Have to wait for a pause in both directions to pull out. And if someone parks opposite my drive it’s a matter an inching forward and backward to get out. Brick walls on both sides of my drive, so no room for manoeuvre. It’s a standard residential estate.

OP road cannot be like that though. Traffic can still pass between a parked car opposite and her car partly on parent which means there is far more than a cars width between the parked car opposite and the pavement. Enough room to manoeuvre

Soontobe60 · Yesterday 19:35

AutisticMumOf2 · Yesterday 16:19

Think I shall apply for a disabled parking bay outside mine that should solve the issue. Will annoy the neighbours but needs must.

Do you have a disabled drivers permit

Soontobe60 · Yesterday 19:53

KindlySurfiingPlatypus · Yesterday 19:31

I do sort-of know what OP means because in my road, my driveway is directly opposite a neighbour's driveway, and if they park across their driveway I have to adjust my parking manoeuver to deal with the narrower width. I always reverse into my driveway and when the driveway across from me is clear it's easy to get to be at right-angles to the road and reverse in straight. When there's a car parked there I have to curve in from a 45 degree angle and it's a lot more nerve-wracking. I wouldn't dream of doing either manoeuver the way OP does because backing out of a driveway is dangerous even if the road around is clear, but it must be even more difficult when the road around is crowded. The tightest bits of getting on and off driveways are much much easier if you are reversing in and going forwards on the way out.

What a great diagram!!

kingarthurt · Yesterday 20:02

Soontobe60 · Yesterday 19:35

Do you have a disabled drivers permit

What is a disabled drivers permit?

BeRoseSloth · Yesterday 20:06

Are you saying you don’t have a dropped curb for your driveway. You shouldn’t be using it then.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · Yesterday 20:15

What if I have off-street parking?
If you have off-street parking, your application likely won’t be considered. The council will only seriously consider applicants who find it very difficult to get a space outside or near their home and don’t have a specific place to park.

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From the link above .
They may come round to review and say your LL can have the kerb dropped .
It might work in your favour as a Disabled Parking Bay can take 9 months !

70isaLimitNotaTarget · Yesterday 20:16

kingarthurt · Yesterday 20:02

What is a disabled drivers permit?

Blue Badge

But you knew this already , yes ?

Bearbookagainandagain · Yesterday 20:20

AutisticMumOf2 · Yesterday 16:01

Just to add I was mainly parked on the pavement, they were parked fully on the road.

So you are blocking both the road and the pavement because you bought a car you can't drive?

You shouldn't be parked on the pavement blocking pedestrians way.
You shouldn't be parked on a dropped curb.

Lougle · Yesterday 20:23

KindlySurfiingPlatypus · Yesterday 19:31

I do sort-of know what OP means because in my road, my driveway is directly opposite a neighbour's driveway, and if they park across their driveway I have to adjust my parking manoeuver to deal with the narrower width. I always reverse into my driveway and when the driveway across from me is clear it's easy to get to be at right-angles to the road and reverse in straight. When there's a car parked there I have to curve in from a 45 degree angle and it's a lot more nerve-wracking. I wouldn't dream of doing either manoeuver the way OP does because backing out of a driveway is dangerous even if the road around is clear, but it must be even more difficult when the road around is crowded. The tightest bits of getting on and off driveways are much much easier if you are reversing in and going forwards on the way out.

My diagram isn't going to be anywhere near as nice as yours, but I still don't think it's a big deal. I have to do a 3 point manoeuvre to get onto my drive, but it's not a hardship.

Aibu whose in the wrong double parking
southofscotland · Yesterday 20:34

I mean. Why did you get a bigger car if you couldn’t manoeuvre your smaller one.

KindlySurfiingPlatypus · Yesterday 20:35

Lougle · Yesterday 20:23

My diagram isn't going to be anywhere near as nice as yours, but I still don't think it's a big deal. I have to do a 3 point manoeuvre to get onto my drive, but it's not a hardship.

Ah - but you have a turning spur! My driveway is bareley bigger than a supermarket parking space, no room for any off-road manoeuvering

KindlySurfiingPlatypus · Yesterday 20:37

70isaLimitNotaTarget · Yesterday 20:15

What if I have off-street parking?
If you have off-street parking, your application likely won’t be considered. The council will only seriously consider applicants who find it very difficult to get a space outside or near their home and don’t have a specific place to park.

...................................................

From the link above .
They may come round to review and say your LL can have the kerb dropped .
It might work in your favour as a Disabled Parking Bay can take 9 months !

OP does not have off-street parking. A tarmacked front garden with no dropped kerb is illegal to park on.

jmh740 · Yesterday 20:59

70isaLimitNotaTarget · Yesterday 20:16

Blue Badge

But you knew this already , yes ?

I have a blue badge, had no idea what you meant by disabled permit.

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