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Aibu whose in the wrong double parking

135 replies

AutisticMumOf2 · Yesterday 15:59

Just got a new car, bigger than my old car. I struggled to reverse off my drive in my old car as my neighbours park directly opposite my driveway (no dropped curb but it's obvious they are in the way.)
Decided last night while getting used to said car to park on the road outside my drive, all good neighbours weren't home and I assumed they would have common sense to not double park and just park along slightly.
No... they double parked directly opposite mine. Cars were still getting through okay.

Just had a very angry woman screaming at me saying I am blocking the road. I told her I parked there first and that it was the neighbours who have double parked and to knock on their door to move which she just screamed at me.

Am I wrong for parking outside my house when their car wasn't there? They also have a drive but don't use it!

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endofthelinefinally · Yesterday 16:21

I don't know where you live, but my local authority would assume a driveway without an approved dropped kerb had been created without planning permission. (Because of gas pipes under the surface, for example). Perhaps your neighbours are making a point? Mind you, round here you get a ticket if you park across your own drive. However, if the rules are different where you are, all you can do is keep asking them. It sounds as if everyone can just park where they like. You might just have to park a bit further away and give up on the driveway.

Poppinpoppinpopcorn · Yesterday 16:21

Parking on the pavement is not ok. You say a pram or wheelchair could get through but what about the blind or someone partially sighted with a guide dog or a stick I bet you wouldn't like it if they hit your car with the stick while checking the path in front of them. Pavements or for pedestrians not cars.

endofthelinefinally · Yesterday 16:22

Cross posted with loads of other people. It sounds like a free for all.

Pearlstillsinging · Yesterday 16:23

AutisticMumOf2 · Yesterday 16:16

Loads round here reverse out of drives and park on pavements, it's a country village. The dropped kerb isn't my problem that's my landlords fault for not doing it i won't be paying for it. End of the day loads of other cars got through fine and hers was smaller, think she just wanted a argument in all honesty.

Loads of other people doing it doesn't make it right! It just means that loads of other people are doing it wrong.

timtamsarebetterthanpenguins · Yesterday 16:26

You shouldn't be blocking your drive or parking on the pavement. YABU.

AutisticMumOf2 · Yesterday 16:28

Pearlstillsinging · Yesterday 16:23

Loads of other people doing it doesn't make it right! It just means that loads of other people are doing it wrong.

So I should be the only one who parks fully in the road and be sticking out and more likely to have my car bumped? It's not illegal to park on the pavement here I am doing nothing wrong! I had zero issues parking till these neighbours moved in a few months ago since then its been a nightmare. I am entitled to park outside my house if they weren't parked opposite which they wasn't otherwise I would of parked down slightly. All my other neighbours are considerate it just means next doors guests can't park behind there car now (which is outside my house) as I'm parked there which no doubt they'll be annoyed about.

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bridgetreilly · Yesterday 16:30

I don’t think you know what double parking is, OP. I think you are just talking about cars being parked on both sides of the road, right? Which is fine if traffic can get through but not if not. The second car to arrive should have parked elsewhere.

AutisticMumOf2 · Yesterday 16:30

timtamsarebetterthanpenguins · Yesterday 16:26

You shouldn't be blocking your drive or parking on the pavement. YABU.

Well it's only me who parks on my drive so that makes zero sense.

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VoteForCountBinface · Yesterday 16:31

AutisticMumOf2 · Yesterday 16:01

Just to add I was mainly parked on the pavement, they were parked fully on the road.

Where would you like blind or disabled pedestrians to walk? Would you like to see a parent and a double buggy have to go on the road because you have parked on the pavement?

timtamsarebetterthanpenguins · Yesterday 16:31

AutisticMumOf2 · Yesterday 16:30

Well it's only me who parks on my drive so that makes zero sense.

Doesn't matter, you still shouldn't be doing it.

AutisticMumOf2 · Yesterday 16:31

bridgetreilly · Yesterday 16:30

I don’t think you know what double parking is, OP. I think you are just talking about cars being parked on both sides of the road, right? Which is fine if traffic can get through but not if not. The second car to arrive should have parked elsewhere.

Oh ha your right it's not double parking sorry I am not feeling to great today and my brains not working. Yes they are parked directly opposite on the other side of the road so yes they should of moved.

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Seymour5 · Yesterday 16:32

Poppinpoppinpopcorn · Yesterday 16:21

Parking on the pavement is not ok. You say a pram or wheelchair could get through but what about the blind or someone partially sighted with a guide dog or a stick I bet you wouldn't like it if they hit your car with the stick while checking the path in front of them. Pavements or for pedestrians not cars.

I live in an area with narrow roads and lots of terrace housing with no driveways and tiny front gardens that are too small for a car. Everyone parks with two wheels on the pavement, leaving enough room for prams, and my neighbour in an electric wheelchair has no problems.

If we all parked fully on the road, nothing would get through. It's got to be a compromise.

itsgettingweird · Yesterday 16:33

Anyone can park on a public road.

As you noted you don’t actually have a driveway so can work directly outside your house if you aren’t causing an obstruction.

Some places allow parking on pavements however many councils don’t due to the damage it causes - which is the same as driving across a pavement to an unofficial drive!

Next time park and take a photo. Of anyone comes up saying you cased an obstruction show them and just say “how was I causing an obstruction when I parked?”.

Then silence.

or just shut the door in their face!

AutisticMumOf2 · Yesterday 16:34

itsgettingweird · Yesterday 16:33

Anyone can park on a public road.

As you noted you don’t actually have a driveway so can work directly outside your house if you aren’t causing an obstruction.

Some places allow parking on pavements however many councils don’t due to the damage it causes - which is the same as driving across a pavement to an unofficial drive!

Next time park and take a photo. Of anyone comes up saying you cased an obstruction show them and just say “how was I causing an obstruction when I parked?”.

Then silence.

or just shut the door in their face!

Edited

That's a good idea thanks I will do that. Smile

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70isaLimitNotaTarget · Yesterday 16:35

All my neighbours park on the pavement slightly so I was no different to the other cars! Still left room for a wheelchair or buggy.

But then you say you were "mainly parked on the pavement" in a "bigger car" so you were taking up how much of the pavement ?
Unless your pavements are the width of a main road , you're taking up a lot of it if your bigger car was mainly on it .

And if you have no dropped kerb, you have no driveway . You have what was deciribed on MN as "A Patio With Pretention"
It isn't your landlords fault if you continue to park if there's no drive . You need to get them to put things in place to have one installed .

If you have a driveway ( which you will do if your LL sorts the kerb) then you probably wouldn't get a Disabled Parking Space on the road as you;re already accomodated .
And you don;t get one to annoy your neighbours .
That is childish and petty .
They are issued by need

WerewolfOfLoudon · Yesterday 16:38

AutisticMumOf2 · Yesterday 16:09

Yes, it's fine around here. I cannot reverse onto driveway as the neighbours park in such a way that I just can't get onto it backwards! They are literally making it impossible for me to use my drive right now but as it has no dropped curb I can't say anything.

If they are causing an obstruction, contact your council. It's not illegal for them to park opposite your drive but it is for them to cause a dangerous obstruction.

bridgetreilly · Yesterday 16:40

70isaLimitNotaTarget · Yesterday 16:35

All my neighbours park on the pavement slightly so I was no different to the other cars! Still left room for a wheelchair or buggy.

But then you say you were "mainly parked on the pavement" in a "bigger car" so you were taking up how much of the pavement ?
Unless your pavements are the width of a main road , you're taking up a lot of it if your bigger car was mainly on it .

And if you have no dropped kerb, you have no driveway . You have what was deciribed on MN as "A Patio With Pretention"
It isn't your landlords fault if you continue to park if there's no drive . You need to get them to put things in place to have one installed .

If you have a driveway ( which you will do if your LL sorts the kerb) then you probably wouldn't get a Disabled Parking Space on the road as you;re already accomodated .
And you don;t get one to annoy your neighbours .
That is childish and petty .
They are issued by need

Some pavements are really wide. I regularly park fully on one which still leaves plenty of room for wheelchairs and buggies.

bridgetreilly · Yesterday 16:41

AutisticMumOf2 · Yesterday 16:30

Well it's only me who parks on my drive so that makes zero sense.

Yes, but if you have to drive over a pavement to do so, with no dropped kerb, you can’t.

AutisticMumOf2 · Yesterday 16:41

WerewolfOfLoudon · Yesterday 16:38

If they are causing an obstruction, contact your council. It's not illegal for them to park opposite your drive but it is for them to cause a dangerous obstruction.

Thanks I will speak to them about how it's making parking difficult hopefully they will understand and if that fails contact the council. Pretty sure they heard all the shouting in the street anyway as their windows were wide open.

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70isaLimitNotaTarget · Yesterday 16:41

I'm in East London, some roads (ours included) have a 'park on the pavement' rule , there's a white broken line about twice the width of a tyre .
Narrow pavement .
I you need the middle space , reversiing in , getting your wheels in the lines , avoid the vehicle behind/in front and the brick wall.......... fun'n'games

WearyAuldWumman · Yesterday 16:46

AutisticMumOf2 · Yesterday 16:30

Well it's only me who parks on my drive so that makes zero sense.

The website for Fife actually states that it's okay to park across your own (dropped kerb) driveway.

They specified 'own driveway' because we now have a by-law which states that we can't park across dropped kerbs - your own driveway is the exception to the rule. (Handy for me because I need to move my car out of the driveway before I can cut my hedge.)

CinnamonJellyBeans · Yesterday 16:46

Your house does not have a drive.

But they don't own that parking spot. You could park where they park their car, or continue to park half on half off the pavement, if that is the norm for your street.

Poppinpoppinpopcorn · Yesterday 16:47

Another problem with parking on the pavement is that they drive onto it with little regard for people using the pavement and get annoyed when pedestrians don't just jump out of the way for them. Hint if a person is on the pavement don't expect them to move.

kingarthurt · Yesterday 16:50

So you have started parking differently and are expecting your neighbours to change to suit? Just work out how to drive your car properly. There is space for traffic to pass between the 2 cars so surely you can manoeuvre it in said space to park on your drive/not drive?

Hohumbrumbrum · Yesterday 16:51

Poppinpoppinpopcorn · Yesterday 16:47

Another problem with parking on the pavement is that they drive onto it with little regard for people using the pavement and get annoyed when pedestrians don't just jump out of the way for them. Hint if a person is on the pavement don't expect them to move.

I've never seen that happening. It's not crazy taxi or GTA and we are talking about residential streets. 😂.

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