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AIBU to think a mini skirt is not appropriate office wear?

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Andiose · Yesterday 15:46

Afternoon all,
first of all I’d like to state, this isn’t an attack of the woman I’m referencing, I’m genuinely curious and willing to be corrected if I’m wrong.

For context, I’m 42, I have spent most of my professional life in a role which required uniforms, then took years out to raise children and complete a masters degree so I have only been in an office based role for less than one year. I work in a small office and while there are certainly women and young people, there aren’t actually many young women, so this is my first experience of this.

My team has a new employee, she is about 25, and is completing her masters but has been brought in once a week for some training as there will be very little overlap between her joining and her predecessor leaving.
It’s been a few weeks now and I’m genuinely wondering if I have the wrong idea on what appropriate office wear is. One week she wore linen trousers and a nice top, fine that makes sense. But since then she’s worn a skirt which seems to me to be a mini skirt, she is quite tall and has very long legs so it’s hard to tell if it’s intended to be a mini skirt or just appears that way. On one occasion she wore it with sheer brown tights, but on one occasion bare legs, or skin tone tights.

Now I was under the impression this would be seen as immodest in the work place, even if it is, of course that’s not my business and I’m not suggesting it is.

Im simply asking, AIBU to have been under the illusion that a mini skirt with or without tights isn’t appropriate for the work place?

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MrJollyLivesNextDoor · Today 05:20

At the office I worked at in the 80s the women were not allowed to wear trousers. Not customer facing, just weird. Men had to wear shirt and tie.
Smoking was allowed but god forbid a woman in a trouser or <shock> a man without a tie. We did have a tea lady though so wasn’t all bad!

Where I currently work, someone had to be told that gym leggings and sweatshirt were inappropriate for a client meeting!
I’m no prude but I feel that Lycra is completely inappropriate for the office even without client meetings.
She was entitled and lazy to be fair which I guess she also demonstrated in terms of sartorial effort.

Andiose · Today 04:16

k1233 · Today 02:36

Using the pictures, what length is it?

Mini on both, as I said in the opening post.

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landofstories · Today 03:06

@Andiose yes it’s inappropriate, she’s still dressing as if she’s in sixth form / possibly uni. My guess is she doesn’t have money to buy new clothes yet.

OneZanyPoet · Today 02:44

Good god. As a 5 foot zero hobbit I dream of wearing a skirt 5 or 6 inches above the knee and certainly would were I that sort of Demi-goddess. Calm down OP. Unless she’s showing her knickers you shouldn’t have time to even dedicate brain space to this.

k1233 · Today 02:36

Using the pictures, what length is it?

AIBU to think a mini skirt is not appropriate office wear?
AIBU to think a mini skirt is not appropriate office wear?
ImaginationDragon · Today 02:35

Going back some years ago I worked in a very busy city pub with a lot of staff. We all joked that the pub manager would hire any pretty woman. He hired another pretty woman who turned up in a mini skirt to her Saturday night bar shift, and he sent her home to change. She didn't come back. But if it was seen as inappropriate to him in a pub on a Saturday night, it definitely seems inappropriate in an office place

SoBoredOfSelfDoubtHowToGetOut · Today 02:00

Op. You are a prize berk. Or you are AI. Grow up. So pathetic

SallyDraperGetInHere · Today 01:46

If you browse online on Next or wherever, there’s no ‘knee length’ option any more. I’d love to see the skirt suit come back! My first interview suit was from Jigsaw in the 90s, and it was a very smart wool mix mini and jacket. Much easier to style and mix than the midi dresses that are everywhere these days.

Spiffingdarling88 · Today 01:38

The mini skirt was invented in the 60s and many women since then have been wearing them in the office, I find it hard to believe you think its a new phenomenon

Slightyamusedandsilly · Today 01:33

Shloopie · Today 00:13

Whose genitalia was on view, dear?

The way people are making the maddest things up. 'She took her clitoris out and put it beside the communal Digestives. Keith from Accounts was most upset'

I LOLed so much I had a coughing fit at that!!!

If you haven't witnessed very young women wearing skirts so short you can see their arse cheeks (and more) you clearly don't pass a secondary school at kicking out time.

Shloopie · Today 00:13

Slightyamusedandsilly · Today 00:05

I'd hate to see a bloke with boobs like mine.

Genitalia should not be on view in the work place. It's a pretty low bar to set really.

Whose genitalia was on view, dear?

The way people are making the maddest things up. 'She took her clitoris out and put it beside the communal Digestives. Keith from Accounts was most upset'

Slightyamusedandsilly · Today 00:05

Shloopie · Yesterday 23:32

are you a man? this certainly reads like it's been posted by a creepy man 🤮

I'd hate to see a bloke with boobs like mine.

Genitalia should not be on view in the work place. It's a pretty low bar to set really.

ByQuaintAzureWasp · Yesterday 23:59

Just watched Bridgette Jones so thought this post amusing.

Any1ForTennis · Yesterday 23:54

I attended a rare in-work meeting a couple of week ago, normally WFH, and most of the young ones were wearing cropped tops with their bellies on show. Different generations, different standards.

estrogone · Yesterday 23:51

I think the concept of corporate wear is a thing of the past.

I wear jeans/track pants, trainers and sweaters to work. The person in the next cubicle is in a full suit. The dude in open desks opposite wears short running shorts and a singlet + trainers.

A mini skirt wouldn't even raise the tiniest eyebrow. So it might just be you need to recalibrate a bit on norms post covid.

Fwiw I do remember a time when wearing trousers as a woman was frowned on (I am 10 years older than you), so its changed a lot on a short space of time.

MyDarlingRose · Yesterday 23:49

I don’t think anyone in the offices I worked in wore tights in summer. Skirts were generally mid thigh if they were shorter (midi was more common) - is that what you consider mini?

Unless her cheeks are showing or it’s body on tight I wouldn’t say it was unusual unless it’s something like finance or law or other more formal environments. But then every office I’ve worked in people have worn jeans. One wore denim shorts last week.

Shloopie · Yesterday 23:44

'I'm M25, also a virgin, and I'd cry if I saw a woman's kneecaps'

Shloopie · Yesterday 23:43

MyEdgyOpalReader · Yesterday 23:42

None of us apart from OP actually know what she looks like. I'm M25 and if a colleague my age was rocking up to the office flashing her breasts or her underwear I'd find it a bit odd and would feel uncomfortable. I'd also yes, be tempted to look.

fat sweaty Derek

MyEdgyOpalReader · Yesterday 23:42

None of us apart from OP actually know what she looks like. I'm M25 and if a colleague my age was rocking up to the office flashing her breasts or her underwear I'd find it a bit odd and would feel uncomfortable. I'd also yes, be tempted to look.

Shloopie · Yesterday 23:38

sirensinger · Yesterday 23:36

The problem with a short skirt can be that if you are sitting on a chair made of occlusive material you can stick to it or it makes your legs all sweaty.

Also no-one wants to see her knickers/thong when she bends down.

Ugh, the fat sweaty Dereks have definitely found the thread

sirensinger · Yesterday 23:36

Stopthattrain · Yesterday 15:49

You sound a bit puritanical. Is it really a problem as long as her fanny isn’t hanging out?

The problem with a short skirt can be that if you are sitting on a chair made of occlusive material you can stick to it or it makes your legs all sweaty.

Also no-one wants to see her knickers/thong when she bends down.

Shloopie · Yesterday 23:32

Slightyamusedandsilly · Yesterday 23:25

Depends on a couple of things I think.

  1. The general dress code of the place of employment. Some are casual, some a lot more formal. If men are wearing long sleeved shirts and ties for example, a mini skirt is probably not suitable. But if they're in polo tops or t-shirts, a mini skirt would be OK.

  2. Also, to be blunt, how much of her anatomy you can see. In the workplace, a skirt so short that it rides up and shows borderline genital area isn't ever going to be appropriate in an office.

are you a man? this certainly reads like it's been posted by a creepy man 🤮

Slightyamusedandsilly · Yesterday 23:25

Depends on a couple of things I think.

  1. The general dress code of the place of employment. Some are casual, some a lot more formal. If men are wearing long sleeved shirts and ties for example, a mini skirt is probably not suitable. But if they're in polo tops or t-shirts, a mini skirt would be OK.

  2. Also, to be blunt, how much of her anatomy you can see. In the workplace, a skirt so short that it rides up and shows borderline genital area isn't ever going to be appropriate in an office.

Shloopie · Yesterday 23:21

Fidgety31 · Yesterday 22:58

I don’t think youngsters know what dress codes are tbh.
A woman at my work place in her mid 20s works in customer facing - one to one meetings and often wears low cut vest/camisole type tops .
I often wonder if her male Clients feel uncomfortable as her boobs are very much on show.

May God and Holy Mary watch over the poor male clients in their discomfort 🥹🥹🥹

Besidemyselfwithworry · Yesterday 23:14

This is an interesting one;
I work for the nhs in a hospital in offices so no uniform
about a month or so ago and with all this hot weather - a copy of the dress code was
re-emailed out to everyone “reminding” them of the “code of conduct in relation to workwear”
This was sent out after the heatwave encouraged short shorts (not knee length ones!), cropped tops, plastic flip flops and sliders, and very short skirts/dresses and low/ strappy tops
Our deputy director but that although it is very warm, a level of professionalism is still expected and I agree. There are plenty of smart linen/cotton cooler work options.

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