Friends mocking my engagement :(

Congratulations OP! This is lovely.
they are incredibly rude to comment anything like that. Your response is what they should validate and support as your long term friends

ex friends I think

will you tell them how much it wasn’t kind ?

Very mean of them.

Well I guess that saves you the bother of having them as bridesmaids.

I think it sounds perfect!! Very romantic and special to you both. I don’t see the point of over preformed proposals.

Sounds lovely OP, he sounds like a keeper!
I hate those ‘performance proposals’. I’m so glad mine from DH was just unplanned and spontaneous.

Keep your man, dump your friends..........

According to the votes at least 38 posters think the boyfriend should have made an Instagram proposal.

What is wrong with them?

Just enjoy your lovely fiancé and stop thinking about how your friends aren't nice.

What a beautiful, unique, romantic proposal; congratulations OP.

Now, let’s look on the bright side, you can save a fortune on wedding reception catering by not inviting these morons. Save the rest of your wedding planning and big day for your real friends.

You need new friends. A proposal of marriage is exactly that, not an Instagram moment. Your boyfriend chose a place that meant something to you both. Surely that's the whole point??!

Your friend's might very well want grand gestures, lots of people and photographers at their wedding proposals, that's their choice. However, that's not real life is it, it's a performance to share on social media.

Your boyfriend's proposal was sincere and genuine. In my mind, that's what matters, not where it was or what you were wearing!

My husband proposed in my childhood bedroom at my parents house!! He bought a large heart shaped box of chocolates, took the middle chocolate out, and replaced it with the diamond engagement ring. Yes, I was dressed up to go out though as it was St Valentine's Day!

Your friends are stuck up cows. DH and I agreed it was a good time to get married while sat on our sofa (no big proposal) then got married in Vegas with no one there except our daughter. This is what we wanted and I have no interest in big romantic gestures. That does not make a marriage

They might be your oldest friends, but they are definitely not the nicest. Their comments were staggeringly bitchy and unkind.

Your fiance sounds absolutely lovely and thoughtful by the way, and congratulations on your engagement.

Leave your friends to their bullshit drone Dubai proposals and for God’s sake don’t be influenced by them when you’re planning your wedding.
Be happy, both of you ❤️

Hope you have someone else in mind for maid of honour because those two won't do a good job.

Your friends are horrible. My DH proposed to be in my bath robe in our kitchen! After 9 years together. I was surprised and mentioned we were going to New York a few weeks later but he said he would’ve been on edge the whole time

What a thoughtful, romantic proposal! I would seriously question their values and grasp on the world. The only people I've come across who would feel 'sick' being proposed to in their pyjamas are women who think a proposal is something you post on instagram and, I suspect, have shallow relationships. Judgy? Yes.

Congratulations.

Well stuff what they think, as long as you are both happy, that’s all that matters xx

Honestly, I love this op - it's thoughtful and non-performative. I would distance yourself from these people - their values are very different from yours and your fiance. Congratulations!

That is the loveliest proposal ever… so thoughtful. Fuck your ‘friends’! Congratulations OP 😊

Hang on to that man ! And maybe just spring the odd surprise on HIM from time to time. I wish you a long happy future together.

Gosh what a lovely sweet proposal , very thoughtful and a lovely memory.

im afraid I also think you’re friends are jealous. Some people do this, if they are jealous of someone, they mock them, or if they covet something, they put it down,slag it off. It’s a way for them to feel better. And yeah it’s horrible.

How lovely. Be in no doubt about it you are a lucky girl. May he always be so thoughtful. Love each other well and forever. ❤️

Your friends sound shallow and horrible.
He sounds lovely.

They are probably quite jealous.

As married life goes on, friendships change. Bluntly, in a good marriage your friends become loads less important because you have your life partner to do everything and talk about everything with. Good friends become secondary people you enjoy spending time with now and again. Less good friends fall by the wayside as there isn’t enough time to keep up with them once you have kids and a job, and you meet new friends through your kids.

Keep this behaviour well noted, and don’t let them derail or spoil your hen do, wedding day or future marriage.

Congratulations! That’s two off the guest list for the wedding.

Your friends don't sound jealous but they do sound very shallow, they think the fake instagram proposals are how it's supposed to be done. Your DP proposal sounds simple but heartfelt and he obviously wants to marry you very much. I think you have a much better chance of a long and happy marriage than the people who are all for show