Friends mocking my engagement :(

@UpShitsCreek Time to change your friends.

It sounds like your ‘friends’ are money grabbing, materialistic and rude assh*les. That was a lovely, romantic proposal full of meaning for you both. Congratulations 🥰

Your friends are dicks.

Your DH (to be) sounds lovely. A beautiful intimate, romantic proposal that sounds like it was perfect for you. They are simply jealous!

I just wanted to add my voice to everyone else and say it's a lovely, thoughtful and meaningful way to propose to you.

Congratulations! ❤️

Yes huge congratulations from me too! I think what he did was thoughtful and special, and it has created one of your own private couple in jokes that they won't ever get.

May you have many more.

I hope your time being a bride to be and then a wife is wonderful and everything goes right for you.

Just be aware that you are embarking on a journey that people think they have the right to comment on, saying things that reflect where they are and what they think. They have nothing to do with you. You plan the day you want and tailor it to your selves where possible, and don't take what people say to heart. It is your life and your marriage and your journey and your time in the spotlight x

It is so lovely for him to remember where he first said the three little words. I wish I could remember where we exchanged those words. I do remember my proposal. It was in the bath!!! Don’t tell my kids.

Jesus Christ, as my Granny’s used to say “if you can’t say anything nice don’t say anything at all”

Congratulations on your engagement, you have found a lovely sweet man. Now find yourself nicer friends.

Are your friends single, OP? Or unhappily married? I can only assume they're acting out of spite and jealousy.

Are your friends 9 years old?

'I'd be sick if I was proposed to in my pajamas' sounds like something a primary school child would say.

That sounds like a lovely proposal. Your friends are completely unreasonable.
I was also proposed to in my PJs, DH thought it would be lovely to slip the ring on my finger while I slept for me to wake up to while we were away on a hotel break, it did NOT work and I kept waking wondering why he was poking at my hands, I was absolutely delighted when he gave in and proposed, I couldn’t have cared less what either of us were wearing!
SIL on the other hand was raging at her other half’s proposal being in a local park (a lovely park, with meaning to them both) and told him to wait and propose somewhere more romantic 🙈

Huge congratulations on what sounds like a lovely proposal from a man who listens to you and sounds like he understands what you would actually like.

Your friends can't be real, good, friends if they behaved like that.

Congratulations! 🥂

Im so sorry these women you trusted are being so unpleasant. I’m also sorry to say they are not your friends. No one who loves you would be so unkind. Take a break from them both and don’t even think of getting them involved in your wedding. 🌸 The proposal sounds beautiful- focus on happy t8mes with your fiancé

They're dicks.

Don't let them spoil what sounds like a lovely proposal

This absurd idea that a proposal has to be choreographed and set up and consciously 'romantic' - what could BE more romantic than going to that ordinary place that's special only to both of you, and it sounds like it was a genuine and happy surprise for you?

Your friends sound shallow and unimaginative and a bit unclassy, TBH.

What a shitty response. Don’t let it get you down - YOU were pleased, and your fiance (whoop!) sounds like a sweetie too.
i hope they come to their senses and apologise / pop round with some fizz.
have you told them they’ve upset you?

Somebody's dream proposal is somebody else's nightmare.

Maybe your friend are happy with their Kardashian proposal, dressed for Prom and had a team of people taking photos of videos so they could put it all over social media. Having it planned in advance for hair and make-up is a bit sad, but their choice.

Yours was beautiful and so thoughtful.

Your "friends" are bitches. There is no reason or explanation for mocking someone, unless one of them fancied the groom.

They are not your friends...

Start distancing yourself from them and get a new social circle.

I agree

It was a sweet proposal. Congratulations to you both

I hope you won't be asking that miserable pair to be bridesmaids!

he is incredibly happy about it, and keeps pointing out the road where it happened “that’s where I said I love you for the first time and asked you to be my wife”

That's just beautiful. 💐

Surely if they are your best friends they would know that something low key and personal is what you wanted and would be pleased for you??

Thank you, yes agreed

Good to know

Congratulations!

Are you 'friends' engaged/married?

They seem materialistic. Love is love. In a restaurant, in front of loads of people, in the comfort of your own home. What does it matter?

I'd die if I was proposed to in public. I hate attention! As long as you are happy and in love what does it matter!?

Congratulations.

It was poor of them but you know that. I'm sure we all have very different views on what a proposal should be or what we'd want, doesn't mean you shoot another person down in their moment that they were happy with though does it.

Any proposal full stop (or wedding) isn't something that appeals to me personally but I've heard and seen several over the years and only felt happiness and joy for friends, because they are happy and it's exciting. The only occasion I can think of when that wasn't the case was when we didn't like the persons partner because he treated her very badly in general - still stepped up and celebrated though, just had that conversation diplomatically at another time.

Since when did the decision 2 people make that they are going to get married become a performance? Why do anybody else’s thoughts or feelings about how it happens matter?

YOU loved it, OP. That’s all that matters.

Your friends are shallow and judgemental. Sorry you had to find that out over something which is so significant to you.