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Friends mocking my engagement :(

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UpShitsCreek · 08/08/2026 12:45

My fiance proposed to me this week after 3 years together, just a day after our 3 year anniversary!

He had planned to propose in his home country when we visited a few months back but it was very busy seeing all this family (his mum is British before any comments about wanting a UK visa!).

We had a stressful time coming back and I had been prepping for a new job interview. He came home from work around 9, told me to put some shoes on as he wanted to show me something…

He drove me to a road and got out and said “this is the first place I ever said I loved you” and then proposed, with a gorgeous delicate ring!

I was on cloud 9, so happy. I always told him I didn’t like big proposals and I’d been embarrassed if someone saw, so this felt perfect and quite romantic.

Saw my best friends today. Both of them were saying how cheap it was, how it was thoughtless and that they’d be sick if they were proposed to in their pyjamas (like I was), and that he could have done something more romantic. They were laughing about it as well.

It’s made me really really sad. Aibu to think that the proposal was quite thoughtful… the first place he said “I love you” is quite sweet?

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Shufflebumnessie · 09/08/2026 21:14

Congratulations on your engagement! I think that the proposal was very intimate and personal to you as a couple, and it sounds lovely & romantic.
You need new friends!! They sound petty, jealous & superficial. Whatever you do, don't involve them in the wedding at all as they will just ruin that for you too.

PepsiBook · 09/08/2026 21:11

Jealousy I would imagine.
A proposal should be exactly what it was for you - asking someone to marry them. He chose somewhere thoughtful and meaningful.
I'd choose that over Instagram photo perfect rubbish anyday.

Stopthattractor · 09/08/2026 21:08

I think it's lovely. Nothing matters except whether you are happy with it.

August1980 · 09/08/2026 21:04

Congrats OP, don’t mind them. We are all excited for you on here and appreciate his heartfelt and thoughtful proposal. Wish you both all the best…

IJustMight · 09/08/2026 21:03

Congratulations on your engagement

Your primary school friends have grown into shallow arseholes ... keep that in mind as you move forward in your life x

Bringemout · 09/08/2026 21:02

Thats beautiful, to take you to the place where he first felt love for you. I think thats deeply romantic tbh. Your mates are twats.

Augustone · 09/08/2026 20:56

Well that’s two people not being invited to the wedding. Mean girl behaviour. I think the proposal was reallly sweet, thoughtful and genuine.

Leopardprintpyjamas · 09/08/2026 20:55

Your friends sound bitchy (and jealous)

AltitudeCheck · 09/08/2026 20:50

The proposal is a special, personal moment between you two, not an opportunity to showboat! His proposal sounds far more romantic and sincere than some flashy, staged Instagram one. Congratulations ❤️

blackpear · 09/08/2026 20:49

Beautiful proposal.
Your friends need to do better. Try not to let their reaction dim your happiness. They sound very shallow and insensitive.

Majesticalling · 09/08/2026 20:42

He nailed the perfect proposal for you - most of us on here think he nailed it too!

I'd be on cloud 9 as well, OP😍
Cherish the moment and don't let anyone detract from it.

Congratulations to you both🎊

Kalanthe · 09/08/2026 20:41

It was a very sweet proposal and I'm inclined to think that your marriage will last far longer than the marriages of people who proposed under the Eiffel Tower for good instagram pics

LBFseBrom · 09/08/2026 20:38

Cucurella · 08/08/2026 12:47

It was a beautiful proposal. Congratulations! Your friends are horrible.

I agree, I think its lovely, very romantic.f

Holdinguphalfthesky · 09/08/2026 20:38

Sounds like you have a lovely and loving man. I wonder if they have performative rather than genuine men?

Congratulations OP, it sounds a gorgeous proposal and I wish you every happiness in your marriage.

SuchiRolls · 09/08/2026 20:36

What a pair of b*tches! How vacuous they are. I would back off tbh. They don’t know you at all if they think you would receive that with good intentions…but that’s sort of the point, they didn’t have those. Grey rock them. They aren’t worth your time.

muddyford · 09/08/2026 20:32

My late DH proposed halfway through shaving, with foam everywhere. Your friends are obnoxious.

Rightsraptor · 09/08/2026 20:31

Keep the man, ditch the 'friends'.

Dugs2010 · 09/08/2026 20:19

UpShitsCreek · 08/08/2026 12:45

My fiance proposed to me this week after 3 years together, just a day after our 3 year anniversary!

He had planned to propose in his home country when we visited a few months back but it was very busy seeing all this family (his mum is British before any comments about wanting a UK visa!).

We had a stressful time coming back and I had been prepping for a new job interview. He came home from work around 9, told me to put some shoes on as he wanted to show me something…

He drove me to a road and got out and said “this is the first place I ever said I loved you” and then proposed, with a gorgeous delicate ring!

I was on cloud 9, so happy. I always told him I didn’t like big proposals and I’d been embarrassed if someone saw, so this felt perfect and quite romantic.

Saw my best friends today. Both of them were saying how cheap it was, how it was thoughtless and that they’d be sick if they were proposed to in their pyjamas (like I was), and that he could have done something more romantic. They were laughing about it as well.

It’s made me really really sad. Aibu to think that the proposal was quite thoughtful… the first place he said “I love you” is quite sweet?

I think that is such a romantic proposal 💓ignore what they're saying, not very nice at all. Enjoy the time now

AlleycatMarie · 09/08/2026 20:11

That sounds like a beautiful proposal! So thoughtful and romantic.

My DH proposed to me in the kitchen and it was perfect!

I think your friends might be jealous.

Congratulations to you and your fiancé!

PrettyGyal · 09/08/2026 20:05

Such a thoughtful proposal, I love it!
I suspect your friends are jealous, try not to let them get to you.
Congratulations 🎉

CaptainMyCaptain · 09/08/2026 20:04

Don't ask them to be bridesmaids.

k8jr · 09/08/2026 20:01

Sounds like a lovely proposal!…and that you need some new friends!

CaptainMyCaptain · 09/08/2026 20:00

Congratulations. It sounds lovely 😍.

Swiftsmith · 09/08/2026 19:49

It's your proposal, a very personal thing and it made you really happy. It still should. Your fiance knows you well and sounds lovely. Your friends sound like twits.

cantbebothered101 · 09/08/2026 19:45

So much nicer than all the performative proposals you see on Instagram. Congratulations!