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Friends mocking my engagement :(

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UpShitsCreek · Yesterday 12:45

My fiance proposed to me this week after 3 years together, just a day after our 3 year anniversary!

He had planned to propose in his home country when we visited a few months back but it was very busy seeing all this family (his mum is British before any comments about wanting a UK visa!).

We had a stressful time coming back and I had been prepping for a new job interview. He came home from work around 9, told me to put some shoes on as he wanted to show me something…

He drove me to a road and got out and said “this is the first place I ever said I loved you” and then proposed, with a gorgeous delicate ring!

I was on cloud 9, so happy. I always told him I didn’t like big proposals and I’d been embarrassed if someone saw, so this felt perfect and quite romantic.

Saw my best friends today. Both of them were saying how cheap it was, how it was thoughtless and that they’d be sick if they were proposed to in their pyjamas (like I was), and that he could have done something more romantic. They were laughing about it as well.

It’s made me really really sad. Aibu to think that the proposal was quite thoughtful… the first place he said “I love you” is quite sweet?

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RebeccaWh · Yesterday 12:48

It sounds lovely and your friends are being really unkind. I would consider if they really are friends at all. Congratulations on your engagement!

iwishtoo · Yesterday 12:48

I don't think that they are actually your friends....
And congratulations on your engagement, wishing you much happiness together.

jay55 · Yesterday 12:47

And congratulations, it sounded super romantic to me.

HappiestSleeping · Yesterday 12:47

Fuck them. As long as it made you happy, who gives a shit what anyone else thinks. Better he did something he believed you would be happy with than to just make a big show of it for everyone else.

MyNameIsTina · Yesterday 12:47

They're arseholes. Honestly the proposal doesn't even matter - although his was still sweet. All they had to do was say congratulations!

jay55 · Yesterday 12:47

They’re not really friends are they, trying to bring you down at your happiest.

Cucurella · Yesterday 12:47

It was a beautiful proposal. Congratulations! Your friends are horrible.

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