Friends mocking my engagement :(

Please don't invite these 'friends' to your wedding

Sounds like your friends are either jealous or lost sight of how normal people behave. Both in terms of being happy for their friends and what romance really looks like.

Sounds lovely OP…. But stop using ‘quite’ thoughtful and ‘quite’ sweet or you’re equally minimising your proposal

Many congratulations OP! Your fiancé sounds lovely, he took your wishes of not wanting a big proposal into account, and remembered the exact spot he told you he loved you for the first time 🥹and the fact you were in your pyjamas makes it even better 😂 it will be a lovely story to tell any future children.
My own proposal wasn't very romantic ...it was in the car, on the way to go plane spotting 😂😂

Sounds absolutely perfect. They sound jealous perhaps? I don’t know why they’d bring down your special moment otherwise?

That sounds like a meaningful and romantic proposal, congratulations! 🥂 Your friends are either jealous or just arseholes.

I couldn’t have said it better.

Are either of them engaged or married? I am guessing not and this is the green eyed monster.

I think it's sad that your friends appear to have become so swept up in the appearance of the proposal, rather than the meaning.

I did not have a romantic proposal. I'll admit, I did kind of think he'd do it in one of the many lovely outdoor places we visited, but in front of the telly worked just fine. As does the way his love, over 20+ years, manifests itself in acts if service- which suits me down to the ground!

Congratulations OP. I was thinking while reading how beautiful your proposal was and actually extremely thoughtful. He remembered where you were when he first told you he loved you and took you there. That's actually really romantic. ❤️

Not everything needs to be a huge, fake, performative Instagram moment and life is so much better when it's not.

Sounds like some 'friends' are jealous and it's to your advantage that they revealed who they are now because now you don't need to spend money inviting them to your wedding, nor waste the rest of your life being their friend.

They've done you a favour really.

Enjoy your engagement and celebrate it with those who truly love you🥂

My husband proposed erm, on the job, so to speak, lol. I held him to it!
Every time we see a proposal on the tv or hear of one I mumble “and there’s another better than mine” and we laugh. So here’s from me “another better than mine!” Go and hug your gorgeous and sweet man and have a lovely life together, ignore them!

Well I think that's lovely too
Your friends are bollocks

Yours sounds like a proper heartfelt proposal, not an Instagram proposal.

Congratulations, OP.

To me, that was a perfect proposal. He remembered where he first told you he loved you, didn’t care that you were chilling in pyjamas. I bet he just decided that day that he couldn’t wait any longer to ask you and went with it.

Your ‘friends’ aren’t really friends. They’re shallow, ungrateful, and cruel.

I certainly wouldn’t waste my money hosting them at the wedding, or any engagement party.

Your friends sound very immature.

I think that sounds like a lovely proposal but ultimately all that matters is that you are happy with it.

Your friends sound like mean girls.

Years ago a colleague of mine got proposed to the night before having to go on a work trip in their living room, her boyfriend had planned out a proposal, nice dinner out etc for after she got back but he got so excited and just ended up blurting it out. She loved it and we all thought it was cute. 25 years later they are still married.

It sounds like you have got yourself a kind, thoughtful and lovely partner…….take no heed of what your spiteful friends say……love and commitment is not all about materialistic grand gestures, he knows you, he understands you and he evidently loves you! Many congratulations OP, wishing you well for the future 💐🍾

A genuinely loving proposal, rather than a performance.

How refreshing.

He's right. You are right. You're friends are unpleasant

If seeing that specific place is now 'your place' enjoy it!

Have they literally never ever behaved link this before and you are shell shocked? As I would be if my best friends suddenly behaved like this!

Or… a pattern?

I think that is very romantic - he remembered a very significant event in your relationship, he listened to your views on proposals. Proposals should be a surprise, not staged for Insta posts. What matters is what the two of you think and feel, not your "friends".

And it's also a lovely story to tell your children and grandchildren!

Honestly, real friends wouldn't say such unkind and mean-spirited things. Real friends would just say 'how lovely! and congratulations!

What a thoughtful way to propose. Congratulations! 🥂

Your friends, however, are jealous. Jealousy always gets the upper hand, even in friendships as longstanding as yours. They need to apologise.

Please don’t let them bring you down. This is the happiest time for you and it sounds like you have a wonderful fiancé!

99% of MN think your friends are jealous, mean, rude idiots. I suspect the 1% who didn't vote this way think you are unreasonable simply because you are giving them any headspace. I'm sorry these women are your friends and suggest you drop them and spend more time with kind, supportive people (like your lovely fiancé).

are your friends married? what were their proposals like?

Sounds like they might be living too much in instagram and not the real world!