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Friends mocking my engagement :(

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UpShitsCreek · 08/08/2026 12:45

My fiance proposed to me this week after 3 years together, just a day after our 3 year anniversary!

He had planned to propose in his home country when we visited a few months back but it was very busy seeing all this family (his mum is British before any comments about wanting a UK visa!).

We had a stressful time coming back and I had been prepping for a new job interview. He came home from work around 9, told me to put some shoes on as he wanted to show me something…

He drove me to a road and got out and said “this is the first place I ever said I loved you” and then proposed, with a gorgeous delicate ring!

I was on cloud 9, so happy. I always told him I didn’t like big proposals and I’d been embarrassed if someone saw, so this felt perfect and quite romantic.

Saw my best friends today. Both of them were saying how cheap it was, how it was thoughtless and that they’d be sick if they were proposed to in their pyjamas (like I was), and that he could have done something more romantic. They were laughing about it as well.

It’s made me really really sad. Aibu to think that the proposal was quite thoughtful… the first place he said “I love you” is quite sweet?

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mydogisthebest · 08/08/2026 15:42

It was a lovely proposal. Each to their own but I don't like big showy proposals. DH proposed to me sitting on the settee at his parents' house so goodness knows what your so called friends would have thought of that!

SchnitzelAgain · 08/08/2026 15:42

Mygodinheaven they’re horrible. Your fiancé did a great job, and the proposal was hugely romantic. Your so-called friends made me think of the ugly step-sisters in Cinderella.

Cosyblankets · 08/08/2026 15:41

He clearly knows you better than they do.

5128gap · 08/08/2026 15:38

You have a lovely fiancé and horrible friends.

FashionVixen · 08/08/2026 15:38

Congratulations, OP! Wishing you both every happiness together.

Do not ask those bitches to your wedding.

Poorbloodycat · 08/08/2026 15:38

I think that's actually the most romantic proposal that I've ever heard of. As for your " friends" jealousy makes people act in a really ugly way. Congratulations!

LilWoosmum82 · 08/08/2026 15:36

UpShitsCreek · 08/08/2026 12:45

My fiance proposed to me this week after 3 years together, just a day after our 3 year anniversary!

He had planned to propose in his home country when we visited a few months back but it was very busy seeing all this family (his mum is British before any comments about wanting a UK visa!).

We had a stressful time coming back and I had been prepping for a new job interview. He came home from work around 9, told me to put some shoes on as he wanted to show me something…

He drove me to a road and got out and said “this is the first place I ever said I loved you” and then proposed, with a gorgeous delicate ring!

I was on cloud 9, so happy. I always told him I didn’t like big proposals and I’d been embarrassed if someone saw, so this felt perfect and quite romantic.

Saw my best friends today. Both of them were saying how cheap it was, how it was thoughtless and that they’d be sick if they were proposed to in their pyjamas (like I was), and that he could have done something more romantic. They were laughing about it as well.

It’s made me really really sad. Aibu to think that the proposal was quite thoughtful… the first place he said “I love you” is quite sweet?

Do you know what i think, he knows you and he gave you what you like. I think that's beautiful and thoughtful. Your friends, well they don't appear to know you as well as your fiance. And friends come and go. Xx congratulations xx

Dumbledora8 · 08/08/2026 15:36

hope they aren't your 'friends' anymore

Hankunamatata · 08/08/2026 15:36

The saying goes

'With friends like that you dont need enemies'

ShodAndShadySenators · 08/08/2026 15:35

Classic sour grapes. Fiancé is a keeper, friends... maybe not! They do sound jealous

Moveoverdarlin · 08/08/2026 15:34

Out of interest are they married? Or single?

Longtimelurker1980 · 08/08/2026 15:34

UpShitsCreek · 08/08/2026 12:45

My fiance proposed to me this week after 3 years together, just a day after our 3 year anniversary!

He had planned to propose in his home country when we visited a few months back but it was very busy seeing all this family (his mum is British before any comments about wanting a UK visa!).

We had a stressful time coming back and I had been prepping for a new job interview. He came home from work around 9, told me to put some shoes on as he wanted to show me something…

He drove me to a road and got out and said “this is the first place I ever said I loved you” and then proposed, with a gorgeous delicate ring!

I was on cloud 9, so happy. I always told him I didn’t like big proposals and I’d been embarrassed if someone saw, so this felt perfect and quite romantic.

Saw my best friends today. Both of them were saying how cheap it was, how it was thoughtless and that they’d be sick if they were proposed to in their pyjamas (like I was), and that he could have done something more romantic. They were laughing about it as well.

It’s made me really really sad. Aibu to think that the proposal was quite thoughtful… the first place he said “I love you” is quite sweet?

His way would be right up my alley. Something with meaning rather than show. They don’t sound like v nice people.

Jardenalia · 08/08/2026 15:34

What a lovely, thoughtful, genuine proposal OP! He sounds wonderful.

Ditch the shit friends though…

Uricon2 · 08/08/2026 15:32

DH proposed at midnight on NYE and had memorised Matthew's famous speech (it was shown a few days early)

"Lady Mary Crawley, will you do me the honour of becoming my wife?"

Yes, he memorised it so well he seemed to think he was getting engaged to LMC. It was hilarious😂

Dahliasrule · 08/08/2026 15:32

I think that is a very romantic proposal. Well done BF. Best wishes to both of you.

Gymnopedie · 08/08/2026 15:32

Let me guess - they live their lives for the 'gram. If it's not big and glamourous on SM it doesn't count.

Bestfootforward11 · 08/08/2026 15:31

Horrible and jealous people. I’d seriously reconsider whether it’s worth having them in your life if they cannot share the happy moments in your life without them trying to dull their shine.

Goditsmemargaret · 08/08/2026 15:28

They are jealous, petty, spiteful people.

Potatoespotaarrrrtos · 08/08/2026 15:27

Huge congratulations!

It wasn’t just a sweet proposal it was thoughtful and very real! I love it, what a wonderful story.

They’d be ex friends for me. This was a huge and wonderful moment for you and whatever their thoughts they should have kept it to themselves!

Purplevioletblu · 08/08/2026 15:27

That's so sweet and romantic, don't listen to your unkind friends! They should be congratulating you, not bringing it down. They sound immature.

godmum56 · 08/08/2026 15:26

why would it make you sad? deffo get new friends, ones who are not shallow dickheads

SwirlingAroundSleep · 08/08/2026 15:25

your friends don’t know what true love is if they think it’s a showy ceremony to propose rather than something personal and romantic like you had. My soon to be husband proposed at a gig, but to be honest we’d already booked the wedding (we own a house and have kids so just planned a wedding) so it was more of him giving me a ring (which I’d picked) than a real proposal. I love him to pieces and don’t need anything showy, nor do you and that’s all that counts.

Dandeliontea123 · 08/08/2026 15:23

Your friends are immature and shallow. With this kind of attitude they shouldn’t be invited to your wedding.
Congratulations to you both and I hope you have many years of happiness.

Kimmers4334 · 08/08/2026 15:23

Are you sure that these women are your friends? They sound materialistic and a bit bullying?? Are they quite young? I think the proposal is very sweet and very romantic. Definitely not thoughtless at all, marriage is about love not money!

crazymommaclub · 08/08/2026 15:23

If they’re your friends, who needs enemies! Your fiancé sounds lovely and thoughtful. Make sure you make them your bridesmaids and pick them something truly awful to wear!

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