AIBU to refuse to cut short our holiday for childcare?

No I wasnt ok with that …. As previously said above if you read the posts. So “wow” back at ya.

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Well she’s expecting them to go home from their holiday because she forgot to book childcare after he gave her money to book it, rather than her take a day off because of her own error on her time with the children she’s expecting everyone to accommodate her… so yeh she probably is a crazy ex

I think you're talking shit

Yet you were OK with the elder 2 going to Disney with their father and without the younger 2 last year? Wow.

And you're OK with the 2 elder ones going on holiday to Spain with their mum and her partner without the younger 2 - even though they're siblings? Wow again.

So your DH paid for childcare during her time with DC and she failed to book it, kept the money and now expects you to cut your holiday short and fly home to look after DC? She sounds totally deluded. Ignore, ignore, ignore.

Oh and ignore all the bleating about holidays and anything unrelated to your
OP.

Does that mean she should've also stopped her husband from taking his older kids away without the kids they share? Or is it ok for dad to have a holiday with only his first two whilst OP is seen as the wicked stepmother for wanting a holiday with just her kids?

Of course she did. She's the crazy ex.
My XP had crazy exes, then he had an extra crazy ex - me.

The ex sounds bitter and a real pain in the ass.
I totally believe that she had affairs and the child had to be tested.
I had (had!) a best friend years ago that had loads of affairs. She stopped an affair when she got married, she got pregnant with her husband, picked up the affair whilst she was pregnant (and the man knew), and only stopped the affair as she bled after a rough sex session so she was scared. She had the first baby, second baby quite quick and picked up the affair again when her second baby was about 2. All the same man, but she also slept with others. It happens!
Also was raging when her husband moved on quite quickly even though he found out about numerous affairs. She would moan to me about who he was with, and I’d say well he’d still be with you if you hadn’t cheated on him!

Why? Because a woman couldn’t possibly do that? We’ve been told their relationship ended because she cheated on him yet he’s still getting crap because he had a relationship after her?

And @MeganM3 why isn’t their mother stepping up then? She will have to sort it. She knows they are away. It was up to her to book child care, and she hasn’t. It’s not up to him to always step up. As the thread-she had an affair, she moved away, she doesn’t book things after asking money to pay for them… at some point you have to ask about motive.

I’m guessing there’s more to this story - only 2 years between your oldest and your youngest dsd op? Seems off you don’t have them with you at Disney. 10 days a month is 1/3, enough to fit in a holiday. Your dp is “helping out” or “doing childcare” they are his dc and if his ex is that disordered he needs to consider having majority custody for the kids sake

OP pay no attention to responses like these.
You don't owe an explanation to your family's dynamics .
Some people will always 'enjoy' sticking the knife in and making assumptions.

Did she give you the money back for the child care she didn’t book and you then stepped up and did?

I don’t think your responsibility as a parent is paused just because you are on holiday. When you are a parent you need to be able to cope with emergency situations or changes of plan. So it isn’t ideal, be HE as their father may need to come home to ensure that HIS CHILDREN are minded.

Nah, bet she didn’t

Different ages?

I would understand if his older two were 16 and 18

but they’re not. They are 8 and 6!!!

You could also question why some women with such young children have an affair with another man?….. like OPs DH ex did 🤷‍♀️

Switch off your phones and enjoy your holiday.

Your DH has got four kids with two different women and two of them are just two years apart. He has to expect a logistical nightmare when it comes to childcare during the summer holidays.

Yes it’s a bit much to leave the holiday but he needs to step-up when he gets back. You can’t have a two year with one woman, then get another woman pregnant and expect the summer holidays to be plain sailing. It’s going to be like this every summer.

A lot of MN like to just have a go at men for whatever reason they can, that I have noticed.

But I would bet im right

And “projecting”? Let me guess… you pepper most of your posts with “triggering” and “narcissist?

The op claims that he prefers to have a few holidays JUST with his kids with the OP and not his other two.

Either he is a shit dad

or the OP is lying

Yep, unfortunately I realised what you may have been getting at as I was typing out my initial response and hit send before I meant to !! My bad. I think my reply still stands though - his first thought being that his needs come first. I don’t necessarily think OP was a homewrecker, as one poster so charmingly put it, but the timelines between the children of the first and second relationships do seem very tight.

And why are women drawn to men who have two such incredibly young children also??

I agree, that is very stupid behaviour.