AIBU to refuse to cut short our holiday for childcare?

Or she is in Disneyland Paris distracted from the post by having a nice time with her children

@Coconutter24 , I've no idea if she is or not but I suspect she is watching the replies with a big bucket of popcorn.

I missed the age gaps. Some people seem to enjoy complicated and unnecessarily drama ridden relationships 🙄 .

YANBU, OP.

I see no issue with not taking all, on any, children on every holiday either.
For whatever reason she’s trying to disrupt your holiday and/or get more money out of you.

You don’t have to block her, but perhaps you can mute her and periodically check in, in case of an actual emergency.

So what ? She’s a first time poster. What’s the point of MN if we’re going to doubt the veracity of every OP ?

Funny how the dad is getting stuck for not taking his 2 eldest this year.

But not for leaving his 2 youngest at home when he took them last year.

And the OP is getting stick for her DH not taking them this year not being recognised for parenting a baby and toddler alone last what do her DSC got a holiday with their dad to Disney.

Just turn your phones off. She has taken money for childcare she didn’t boom and now wants you to spend more to cut your holiday short.

When you get home talk to the mum about having the children resident with you as she’s struggling with organising them and they can go to her for visits.

Im sure once she’ll suddenly start to manage.

So OP is a first time poster? Everyone has to start with one post. I’ve been on MN a while and never made a thread.
It’s also not unusual, it happens quite a lot but for some reason you want the man to be the bad guy

Why is he wrong ? Given that his ex and her partner have no obligation to take the younger two on holiday with them (and clearly don’t) even though they are half siblings to their own kids, what makes OP and her DH obligated to take all four every single time ? If anything it’s OP kids who are losing out on holidays when it actually comes down to it. Her step kids are getting the best of both worlds.

As I’ve said a hundred times no! He was wrong then, he’s wrong now.

From what OP has said it certainly started before she became pregnant otherwise there wouldn’t have been the need for a paternity test.

Literally! I couldn't pay my 17 year old to go on a Disney trip with a 4 year old.
Dad and stepmother are doing just fine. Dad had a special trip that was focused on the older children, and will have a holiday with all his children later.
It's no-one's fault the mother is incapable of arranging childcare, which the man has also paid for. It's no-one's fault her mother is unwell while he's away.
She's going to have to figure out this adulting with children business.

It would be unusual but not impossible, but the story doesn't add up and there are no other posts from the OP other than on this thread.

Why? He paid for childcare for them, on time that she was planned to have them. So she drops the ball and he’s obliged to pick up the pieces every time? Different if one of the kids had an accident or were seriously unwell but she just didn’t organise herself, she didn’t even need to find the money to pay for it.

It is at the likes of Disney where a 1yr old and an yr old will want to do vastly different things (for lastyrs trip). It's a lot of money to spend as a family to end up with kids pissed off half the time.

Indeed..a normal sibling gap, but within families with the same mum and dad…just 2 years between the dad’s youngest and eldest with different women is just yikes, and says everything we need to know here.

I always thought Disney Paris was the type of place you went to for a few nights only? When are you due back?

So if he couldn’t handle 4 at the same time, he shouldn’t have had 4

I expect there will be ...

They often have affairs with younger, single women.

Of course women have affairs too but not usually with very small children.

Can’t imagine many eight year olds being OK with what a two and four year old want to do on holiday.

And the Misandrist of the Year award goes to...

Men have affairs. No shit Sherlock. But to do so they need someone else to have the affair with. Most of the time that will be a woman. Ergo women have affairs too. QED.

And who's to say the affair started during Covid? It may have started before and she was just waiting until she'd had her husband's baby to leave.

The affair began before she became pregnant, hence the need for the paternity test to establish that OP’s DH is actually the father.

“His ex cheated from before she was pregnant with their youngest. He didn’t even know until testing was done if it was his child or not it was an awful situation.”

It is. There are six years between the youngest and the oldest. Think about what your average two year old can do developmentally and your average eight year old.

I have a five year old and a three year old and even that small age gap can sometimes feel quite overwhelming. And four children is a lot for anybody.

So what you’re saying is that both sets of parents should be taking all the children away with them when they go on holiday ?