AIBU to ban a guest over dismissing a severe nut allergy?

How do you overlook something like that? Did she not realise, or what?! 😕

@bagpuss90

How did it go? Did your friend still come?

She really needs to dump him!!

He wasn’t brave enough to put that message in the group chat though was he? Prick!!

Great work, OP!! You’ve done everyone else a favour! 👏🏻

Maybe that will give your friend something to think about. Keep an eye on whether she then stops seeing you without him or not.

Enjoy your evening without knobhead (Unbelieveable!!)

@bagpuss90 your friends DP sounds like my cousin.
Eldest niece’s then husband has a severe nut allergy. Family gathering planned, we all contributed food. Told family not to bring anything with nuts. Cousin turns up with an almond cake 🤦‍♀️ She worked in schools so really should have known better. Fortunately nothing happened but I was so cross with her.

Well done for uninivting him and maybe send him a link to Natasha’s foundation or Amy May Shead.

Brillant so glad you uninvited him i didnt read the reply before answering x

I'd say if you cant keep your basic comments or thoughts to yourself don't bother coming and while sat at home alone educate yourself on nut allergies that people die from this..
Don't know how you have kept your mouth shut.

Message back, saying just to clarify, anaphylaxia is a potentially fatal allergic reaction, it's not a phobia, I hope this clears up any misapprehension you have about the condition, and I want you to understand how absolutely serious it is, and that you are categorically forbidden to bring anything containing nuts. Otherwise stay away. Hopefully he'll feel like an idiot and bow out.

He sounds like a right prick! To private message his girlfriend’s friend something like that is just so odd!!

Out of interest did your friend still come?

What an ignoramous

well done for cancelling him

I would uninvite him. I wouldn't trust him, he thinks the allergy is totally fabricated. In the UK the law states that individuals have a basic responsibility not to cause foreseeable harm to others, through reckless or negligent actions. Therefore, because you have told this utter tosser you have banned all foods with nuts, due to a life threatening medical condition & he chooses to ignore you, his defiance creates a severe legal risk to him. In other words, if he ignored your request and your ds did have a reaction, he would be locked up and questioned by the police , with a strong possibility of being charged

Not unreasonable at all. It's literally a matter of life and death for your poor son's DP!
Uninvite the moron, or lie and tell him it's cancelled if you don't want to have a fight today 😂
Can you get hold of a suitable NHS information leaflet to give them for future reference or something that might help them understand (if they can be reasoned with.)
Some people genuinely do not take life threatening allergies seriously and that's a recipe for disaster (pun intended!)

what was his response to you uninviting him, OP?

As someone who also has a life threatening nut allergy, thank you for being so thoughtful and creating a safe space for your child’s partner.

I am utterly terrified by the response of the person who messaged you that and would probably not eat a thing at the party if they were present. Please tell your child’s partner for their own safety

this reminds me of when my bf had the shits in the big tescos

Just seen your update OP that you'd already uninvited! I was just so angry I couldn't wait to read everything before posting! Hope you have a lovely time without him!

This is just vile. As if people can choose whether to have allergies or not! This has made me so angry.
Absolutely uninvite - this way you're standing up for the person with the allergy and drawing a clear line in the sand that this sort of attitude won't be tolerated in your home.

Well that'll teach me to reply without reading all the replies. Nice one you. Just hoping your friend reconsiders his position in her life now, and not just at your party. 🤞🏻

It takes a particularly stupid person to not understand the difference between a deadly allergy and a phobia. But it takes a complete bell end to laugh about it and suggest they get over it.

You have to tell him he's not welcome. Your friend, who he's the partner of, might be at a point of thinking she wants out of the relationship but hasn't got the confidence to end things as she's doubting herself. You making it known he's not welcome might help her see that other people think he's a knob too, and she'd be doing the right thing if she got shut.

Don’t risk him being there . “ l was alarmed at your views on nut allergy and assure you that it is deadly. No hard feelings as you are entitled to your opinion but l’d prefer you didn’t come as l want to concentrate on keeping my child safe”

Good on you OP. He sounds an eejit. Uninvited absolutely justified. Hope you had a great day and your friend managed to come too.

I’d like to invite the moron into intensive care to see what happens when someone with allergy is exposed to nuts. It’s no laughing matter and he would be horrified at the outcome. It’s a life threatening anaphylaxis. It’s not a spider. FFS.

I keep on getting "will no-one think of the spiders?" when I see his absurd message.

That could potentially be a life and death situation. Avoid him at all costs. Sounds a prick anyway