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AIBU to want one lie-in on my husband's days off?

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Ano4829172278 · 07/08/2026 12:41

is it unreasonable to want one long lie on husbands days off? He works really long hours sometimes 16hrs a day and he has both long lies till noon, I’ve asked his second day off to have a long like would be till 9am max as my body doesn’t sleep longer but he said I can have a day time nap instead, when having a nap during day just makes me more tired the next day as don’t sleep till later, baby wakes 2/3 a night still and we co sleep so I get some sort of sleep, I get he works hard but feel like I’m running on empty as I do every early morning and all the night wakings and feeds

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Quitelikeit · 07/08/2026 15:00

I assume this man doesn’t work 7 days a week

Therefore he is a pure selfish asshole for not letting you have a lie in one day each week!

It’s not just your baby is it?

Tell him you are so tired you are thinking of checking into a hotel for the night so he understands how you feel!

I don’t know how people tolerate men like this

SausageRoll2020 · 07/08/2026 14:56

Ano4829172278 · 07/08/2026 12:59

He is usually 2am after a shift so only fair he gets the long lie and then on work days get up at 10am
i go bed at 9, after I’ve got other child to be then up for day at 5am

So you both get the same amount of hours in bed, 8 each.
And he has to actually go to work, you might not like napping during the day but you do have it as an option. He doesn't.

Sounds like you are both knackered and caught in the argumentative "who's more tired" loop.

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 07/08/2026 13:21

He stays in bed until noon on his days off? When does he actually spend any time with his children?

OrangeSlices998 · 07/08/2026 13:01

Both of you getting to rest seems fairest. Major ick if he can’t even manage that!

Ano4829172278 · 07/08/2026 12:59

Ano4829172278 · 07/08/2026 12:59

He is usually 2am after a shift so only fair he gets the long lie and then on work days get up at 10am
i go bed at 9, after I’ve got other child to be then up for day at 5am

First long lie

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TheVeryAngryBanana · 07/08/2026 12:59

If he gets both the lie-ins, he can do the nights too. If you try booting him or of bed to settle the baby, he might change his mind. You could also propose that he had a nap later in the day

Ano4829172278 · 07/08/2026 12:59

SausageRoll2020 · 07/08/2026 12:57

Can you tell us the times you both normally go to bed and get up? Would be easier to vote then

He is usually 2am after a shift so only fair he gets the long lie and then on work days get up at 10am
i go bed at 9, after I’ve got other child to be then up for day at 5am

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Sunbeam18 · 07/08/2026 12:58

That would be a major ick for me having someone lying in bed till noon all weekend

SausageRoll2020 · 07/08/2026 12:57

Can you tell us the times you both normally go to bed and get up? Would be easier to vote then