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AIBU to feel hurt after friend mocked my celebrity crush?

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HumbleHun · 06/08/2026 23:20

Hi MN, second time trying a thread so I hope it goes better this time. So a close friend has really annoyed me earlier this afternoon. I was with 5 of my friends from my village having lunch with a few glasses of wine. As usual the conversation started to get a bit silly towards the end. Someone started asking the girls who their celebrity crush was. Had the usual Hugh Grant, Benedict Cumber batch but when it came to me I felt awkward and blurted out Martin Clunes. I didn't want to be judged and say someone younger than me or someone out of my league so the first man that came to mind was him.
I think he's reasonably attractive and talented but the friend I feel closest too went into a fit of giggles and kept bringing it up for the rest of the afternoon.
A few hours later she put a picture of Martin in the church group chat and my DH noticed I was upset so I had to tell him.
He found it amusing and doesn't seem to care but I feel betrayed and hurt that my close friend is mocking me even after she knew I was embarrassed at lunch.
She's usually so nice and caring but iv seen a nasty side today but my adult daughter said it's just banter and to let it go.
I feel like messaging her and cancelling weekend plans.
IABU?

OP posts:
WheresThatCatGoneNow · 09/08/2026 03:54

HumbleHun · 09/08/2026 00:53

That is wonderful I think.. it's nice to think that there is someone for everyone and that everybody has an admirer or 2.

You sound lovely HumbleHun.

HumbleHun · 09/08/2026 00:53

Darragon · 08/08/2026 13:48

You want embarrassing crushes that no one will ‘get’? Mine is Jeremy Clarkson. 🤭 He’s only 1 year younger than my mum.

That is wonderful I think.. it's nice to think that there is someone for everyone and that everybody has an admirer or 2.

OP posts:
Yikes101 · 08/08/2026 17:31

HumbleHun · 07/08/2026 18:34

Well thanks to the wonderful advice on this thread I met my friend for coffee and we ended up having a real giggle about my prudishness and my taste in men. Many will not understand but I was brainwashed by my parents that girls should not lust after men or discuss anything sexual so IV always found any talk of men awkward.. my friend knows this and this is her way of normalising it for me. I think it has worked as I'm not ashamed to say it now.. Martin Clunes is a sexy man but if Jude Bellingham showed up id ditch Martin in a heartbeat. Thankyou everyone who replied, sorry I couldn't reply to you all ❤️

Welcome to the club, knew I’d win you over 😛

101Alsatians · 08/08/2026 15:11

Awww OP bless you.You wanna bang who you wanna bang...own it! They should have picked up on your embarrassed cues though...you don't need to know someone well to tell if they're uncomfortable IMO.

Mrcollinswave · 08/08/2026 15:05

HumbleHun · 06/08/2026 23:34

I think he's good looking and I love him in doc Martin but I'm not extroverted with personal things like this so I went with a safe option. There are men that make my knees tremble but if be very uncomfortable revealing that as they are decades younger

Don't feel embarrassed about fancying hot younger men OP. God knows men always fancy younger women and don't seem to be embarrassed by it!
I only fancy younger men 🤣

Chocolateistheanswer2026 · 08/08/2026 15:03

IWasTangoed · 07/08/2026 00:03

Considering Mr Tumble came up as a popular crush on a thread about celebrity crushes a while back, I'd say Martin Clunes is nothing to be embarrassed about!

OMG, that has stunned me as he seriously gives me the creeps!

WheresThatCatGoneNow · 08/08/2026 14:59

Colin Murray (current Countdown presenter, Radio 5 Live etc)

Just comes across as having such a kind personality, as well as being gorgeous 🔥🔥

And, oh yes, Alex James from Blur.
Such a beautiful man, with a devastating smile.

ToadRage · 08/08/2026 14:44

You are overreacting a little. I wasn't bothered when my friend said my celebrity crush was ugly, but if she kept bringing it up i might tell her to just let it go.

Thanksforyourlackofthought · 08/08/2026 14:27

Darragon · 08/08/2026 13:49

OMG yes Anthony Wiggle! 💖💖💖💖 Good with kids AND he can sing.

He’s a keeper! Had loads of health issues but still kept Wiggling!

Darragon · 08/08/2026 13:49

Thanksforyourlackofthought · 08/08/2026 10:30

Archie, the inventor for me. And I still like Miles Jupp now.
and whilst we’re on the subject, Anthony was always my favourite wiggle.
But as I’ve also said up thread, Martin Clunes does it for me also.

OMG yes Anthony Wiggle! 💖💖💖💖 Good with kids AND he can sing.

Darragon · 08/08/2026 13:48

You want embarrassing crushes that no one will ‘get’? Mine is Jeremy Clarkson. 🤭 He’s only 1 year younger than my mum.

Itsthewoluff · 08/08/2026 10:36

It’s obligatory to mock each others celebrity crushes for close friends - and the worst one will take the brunt of all the jokes.
I wouldn’t do it for an acquaintance though, so you should be reassured that this friend feels comfortable and close to you.

Thanksforyourlackofthought · 08/08/2026 10:30

ilovepixie · 08/08/2026 01:55

i also have a soft spot for PC Plum!

Archie, the inventor for me. And I still like Miles Jupp now.
and whilst we’re on the subject, Anthony was always my favourite wiggle.
But as I’ve also said up thread, Martin Clunes does it for me also.

Loulou4022 · 08/08/2026 10:17

Mine was Martin Shaw when he was in Inspector George Gently! 🥵 He must be 30 years older than me!!

TheThirteenthFairy · 08/08/2026 09:54

Shloopie · 06/08/2026 23:26

'I didn't want to be judged and say someone younger than me or someone out of my league so the first man that came to mind was him.'

This is where you went wrong. In the world of celeb crushes you can go out of your stratosphere, never mind your league!

This is true. I am 147 and the only 'celebrity' I'm interested in is Dev Patel. When he was younger.

Daftypants · 08/08/2026 09:22

Oh I’m sorry but I’m laughing out loud at this , your friends are just gently poking fun .
I’d be singing the song on “ Come fly with me “ Matt Lucas and David Walliams as Japanese school girls waiting for Martin Clunes at the airport 🤣
” Martin Clunes. Martin Clunes ding ding ding a ling Martin Clunes “
And yes I do like Martin Clunes

TamarindCottage · 08/08/2026 06:34

DontTeaseMyDog · 07/08/2026 10:45

One of my best friends crush is Johnny Vegas, I said, he always looks like he needs a good wash - she clapped back instantly - ''Errrrrrr isn't yours johnny depp in pirates of the carribean?!''

Yes ma'am, well played, let's call it quits 😃

I was in a John Lewis queue next to Johnny Vegas aka Michael Pennington) and struck up a conversation. Please tell your friend he was humble, friendly and smelled divine

concertinacornflake · 08/08/2026 06:23

A few hours later she put a picture of Martin in the church group chat and my DH noticed I was upset so I had to tell him. Taking it to WhatsApp is not ok, I would be cautious with her after that.

'Banter' is just a cover word for shitty treatment, the WhatsApp picture involving other people via a group chat was shitty behaviour.

BurnoutGP · 08/08/2026 06:18

Are you all 12?

maxslice · 08/08/2026 04:23

Nothing wrong with Martin Clunes. No, he isn’t classically handsome. But he has a wonderful smile and in real life apparently is quite warm and funny. Very talented. No shame in having a crush on him. I know your friends think that they’re just being jokey. They aren’t really trying to hurt you. Still, it’s time for them to stop. Do not cancel going to the weekend. If you take it lightly and stop reacting, they’ll move on to other things.

NormasArse · 08/08/2026 01:59

This is so funny- Martin Clunes is my celebrity crush too!! I love his voice- he loves dogs and horses… what’s not to like??

He’s bloody lovely!

ilovepixie · 08/08/2026 01:55

IWasTangoed · 07/08/2026 00:03

Considering Mr Tumble came up as a popular crush on a thread about celebrity crushes a while back, I'd say Martin Clunes is nothing to be embarrassed about!

i also have a soft spot for PC Plum!

MySneakyLion · 08/08/2026 01:35

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 07/08/2026 10:35

Oh I promise you that you didn't.
It was a great thread and should have been in Classics.

Can you link to it? Sounds like a fun read!

Maray1967 · 08/08/2026 01:20

HumbleHun · 07/08/2026 21:57

Maybe you could turn him if you met him Maray 😍

If only …!!

Suusue · 07/08/2026 22:54

I really like him.too. I would not be offended tho!