Am I cooking shit or being stingy??

I'm gobsmacked at their rudeness.

Good grief. What an ungrateful lot, and sarcastically passive aggressive into the bargain. As for your DH he was a massive help with the "weird diets" comment. Thanks a bunch I'd be saying. Most people invited on a free holiday would be falling over themselves to contribute something and would certainly not complain about food being not only thrown in but cooked for them! You're a better woman than me not to have chucked their dinner over them by now.

They are completely horrible. Even from the comment about yogurt or porridge I thought that was awful and they could fuck off home. Then it got worse!!!

Give it up 🤣 hosting is obviously on this posters mind....

Even if they’d done their food shop.. could they not have brought their loaf of bread and cereals from home?! If they didn’t have even £50 spare I think they should have just declined. Fair enough can’t contribute £1k+ but not even a loaf of bread?! £50 would have covered breakfasts, toasties for lunch and a meal or two for all.

I don't know who has been cast in the worst role: Lady Bountiful or The Poor Relations. The teenager was probably never going to be able to grin and bear it, and the men are clearly embarrassed and resentful.
The only thing that might help future relations is a long, long break between the families after this. Time to build up an income and recover some self respect.

I think your food choices and portions are fine considering you've offered to share, but I'd take it as a big lesson learned never to offer to holiday with them again as they sound rude and entitled, I'd hate that will be much more relaxing for you next time without them there and all their cheeky comments putting your kind efforts down. Hope you can figure out a way to get through the remaining time there.

So sorry for you, like me you obviously choose healthy options for your family and cook from scratch, which of course saves money and calories and suits your own medical dietary requirements. Your son and husband obviously enjoy and appreciate your cooking and it's good to hear how much you enjoy doing it. It was very generous of you and your husband to include your sister's family in your holiday plans and obviously their hurtful comments and criticisms will be very upsetting for you. My only conclusion is that their family eat a completely different kind of diet and amounts of food to yours which is absolutely their choice and decision to do, but in no way should they be judging your choices, especially since you are both preparing it and funding it all. Young teens and children are usually very picky when faced with different food choices, so I wouldn't take their comments personally. However, I suggest an option would be to sit down alone with your sister (who has already said they cannot afford to make food shopping trips during this "free holiday") and ask her how together you can rectify the situation, so everyone is happy. Family relationships and dynamics are so important but sadly some people will take you for granted and not show appreciation or consideration of your feelings, and sometimes it is what it is and you just have to accept it for the greater good. Wishing you all the best.

Who do the 8 year old DS and 14 year old daughter belong to as its unclear?

Your sister and her family are extremely rude but I suspect their behaviour isn’t such a shock to you. Your H joining in says a lot about your family dynamic. However, you are cooking for other people, did you not gauge what their food preferences were? I hate porridge and I hate mushrooms a would have struggled with your offerings. In addition, DD who is a skinny mini eats twice as much as I do and I’m twenty kilo’s heavier.

In your shoes I would stop cooking for them.

If someone invited me and my family on holiday I would expect to contribute to the food bill, what a cheek . I would be grateful for any meals , not critical . OP , I would buy my son and myself a beautiful steak or some salmon if not a vegetarian and cook just for the two of you . Your DH and other family can go and buy some doughnuts again. Your DH sounds like a dick too, he can do the rest of the shopping , meal planning and cooking and you can refuse to eat it. . Do not cook for any of them for the rest of the holiday .

Sending Much Love To You
I can't believe they're being so ungrateful, rude & ignorant, especially when you're being so compassionate, kind, caring & immensely generous -
I feel so upset for you to be experiencing such disrespect
They don't deserve your good natured generosity, patience & hospitality
You so deserve so much more on all levels

If that was my sister they would all be on the next flight home. Has your Bil got no shame? He cant provide for his family and he dares to comment on the food you cooked on their free holiday.

Oh OP
I have the RAGE on your behalf! So rude.
What do they eat at home?!

Whilst they sound rude and ungrateful, the portion size is tiny. My family of 4 would have a 500g pack of pasta between us and I’d probably use a pack of mince per 4 and a garlic bread per 2 people! We are all slim and active most days I eat around 2000 calories and my husband and 12 yo twins probably 3000! Where are the calories coming from!

I honestly can’t imagine being invited on a free holiday and being so incredibly rude, entitled and whiny! I’d be telling her to take her rude husband and kids to pack up and go home so that you can enjoy YOUR holiday! How anyone can say there’s anything wrong with what you’re offering beggars belief. The cheeky fuckery of it!!

Yes I agree. They’re clearly ill mannered arseholes but equally you expect to indulge a bit on holiday surely? Counting portion sizes and calories sounds a bit zealous and might be a clue as to why DH got in a sly dig.

ALL parties - including the men - should be chipping in and cooking. Poor role modelling for the kids to see yet another woman do all the cooking on a family holiday. And no, helping your son with ‘baking’ a cake doesn’t count.

Well, quite. You have done nothing wrong at all OP, the opposite in fact! You have shown much grace and kindness, it’s a shame they haven’t returned the favour.

Oh fuck off

Pasta is absolute fine to serve to guests.

They are being rude and ungrateful, nothing wrong with what you are cooking but if I were you, I wouldn’t be cooking for anyone anymore except myself.

We go away with groups/family often and always have a chat with a vague plan before hand about meals and who is contributing what. I suggest you do this. Eg dear sister, I was thinking of making a paella tonight, would that work for you lot? Oh you don't like mussels? Okay, how about chicken instead? Peas okay? Compromise and find some meals that suit everyone.

I mean, I love pasta but on holiday? I'd be wanting to go out for a meal, not just eat a meal I eat constantly at home.

I’m afraid I’d tell them to go home.

Well, the OP’s sister is welcome to go out for a meal if she wants to 🤷‍♀️

Your son sounds lovely. Next time, just take him and ditch the rest!