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To ask her to STOP blowing your stupid fkn vape in my direction.

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DallazMajor · 06/08/2026 11:22

AIBU to ask my friend to stop vaping at inappropriate times.

We go on holidays together and she’s always surrounded by a cloud of vape smoke. (It’s like she’s just coming through the fucking reveal door on “Stars in their Eyes”

Vaping as soon as she wakes up (in bed) We share a twin room. Plus vaping in the room generally.
Vaping whilst we are dining in restaurants in-between courses.
Vaping just every fucking where and just blowing it into my face.

It stinks. Like sickly smells such as candy floss or bubble gum.

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SerenaCat93 · 09/08/2026 09:14

Elieza · 08/08/2026 10:46

its vile. absolutely vile.

the other issue is that the machine does not create smoke. it comes out as smoke only AFTER it’s been inside the persons mouth and lungs.

so when it blows in your face and you smell the candy sickly sweet smell ….you know it’s been inside someone. sometimes a stranger walking by.

🤢 🤢 🤢

Don't be ridiculous. All the air you breathe has been inside someone else, you just can't see it without the visual marker.

x2boys · 09/08/2026 09:09

DallazMajor · 08/08/2026 23:45

Don’t be ridiculous.

My point was you are not goung to stop her vaping and even if she does it on the balcony or whatever it will still smell so you either accept it
Or find a more ideal holiday companion.

Longsight2019 · 09/08/2026 03:43

Is she aware that she’s causing you to feel angered by her ridiculous classless habit?

I don’t seem to have many vapers in my group. But, when I went to a wedding recently with some old friends, lots do there. We are talking about what you describe. Just incessant use and no regard for vape direction on the exhale. Gross.

It would impact my friendship because it’s so mindless. Not to mention a hugely costly habit that simply robs people of spare income and probably their health.

like smokers, they’re in denial.

estrogone · 09/08/2026 03:18

For those thay say vaping is better than smoking.

Ask my 21 yo. He vaped and ended up needing a gum graft. A fucking hard lesson to learn.

Vaping should be illegal. OP - just be honest with your friend, tell her gently but firmly that she cannot vape in your home, shared accommodation etc. If she is a good friend and decent human being I am sure she will give a bit back.

FieryA · 09/08/2026 03:06

DallazMajor · 08/08/2026 23:45

Don’t be ridiculous.

It's actually a valid comment and not ridiculous at all. Your friend is clearly inconsiderate, if she is literally vaping in your face all day. Have you asked her to stop?

madnessitellyou · 09/08/2026 03:02

There is an attitude among some people that vaping is acceptable everywhere. I see so many people vaping their way round supermarkets, on trains and buses, anywhere really.

It’s absolutely disgusting and I’ve zero time for people with such a lack of courtesy that they think everyone wants to breathe in their revolting fumes.

I think I’d be down at reception and asking for another room at least. And tell your friend way.

SquirrelGG · 09/08/2026 01:26

My friend vapes, which I would rather he did than smoke, but he doesn't blow the fumes everywhere. I travelled for an hour with him in his car recently and only knew he was vaping if I happened to glance at him, otherwise I wouldn't have had a clue.

I agree that you and your friend don't sound like ideal travelling companions - her for blowing her vape fumes all over you, and you for your OTT reaction.

VivienneDelacroix · 09/08/2026 01:05

It's horrible, of course you're not being unreasonable.
However, your Stars In Their Eyes comment really made me laugh. Perhaps you could constantly shout "Tonight Matthew I'm going to be...Cher/Madonna/Yoko Ono/Kylie/Lady Gaga/Janis Joplin/Amy Winehouse/Adele/Lulu..." every time she starts puffing. Maybe that'll make her realise how annoying it is.

Stinkybooks · 09/08/2026 00:59

DallazMajor · 08/08/2026 23:45

Don’t be ridiculous.

@x2boys is right. You are not ideal holiday companions or even just friends really. You dont like the stink of vaping. She is happy to continue doing so regardless of how you feel about it.
However much else you've got in common and enjoy spending time together, her vaping habit isnt compatible with your dislike of it. Its gross anyway. Spending a holiday passively breathing in someone elses toxic fumes doesnt sound like fun or at all healthy.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 09/08/2026 00:54

Could you pinch it while she's asleep .

"Have you seen my vape Dallaz ? "

"Oh , no -sorry (not sorry) , no clue" <Innocent Look>

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 09/08/2026 00:50

Elieza · 08/08/2026 10:46

its vile. absolutely vile.

the other issue is that the machine does not create smoke. it comes out as smoke only AFTER it’s been inside the persons mouth and lungs.

so when it blows in your face and you smell the candy sickly sweet smell ….you know it’s been inside someone. sometimes a stranger walking by.

🤢 🤢 🤢

No!
I love the smell of a Strawberry Vape ( I;ve never smoked or vaped myself) , I actually followed a bloke who was vaping just to get his 2nd Hand Vapours . (Not in a weird stalker way , just a respectable distance ) .

Now I know just how 2nd hand this is , I am quitting !

Envy <Not Envy

CountessBinface · 09/08/2026 00:48

So tell her. And stop going on holiday with her FGS!

IStillHearTheWaves · 09/08/2026 00:37

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What's really awful is that these awful 'flavours' are blatantly aimed at teens to get them hooked.

MdmBovary · 09/08/2026 00:36

Elieza · 08/08/2026 10:46

its vile. absolutely vile.

the other issue is that the machine does not create smoke. it comes out as smoke only AFTER it’s been inside the persons mouth and lungs.

so when it blows in your face and you smell the candy sickly sweet smell ….you know it’s been inside someone. sometimes a stranger walking by.

🤢 🤢 🤢

Like a sweet-smelling fart Grin

Besidemyselfwithworry · 09/08/2026 00:34

DallazMajor · 08/08/2026 23:45

Don’t be ridiculous.

Well you don’t
I wouldn’t tolerate this and you clearly aren’t happy @DallazMajor otherwise you wouldn’t have started this thread

gamerchick · 09/08/2026 00:33

Sometimeswinning · 08/08/2026 23:56

It Is far better than a cigarette to be fair. That’s the joy of vaping. It can be done anywhere!

Is it?

It's constant. Everyone holds them constantly and sucks on them constantly like a dummy. They all do the same dance if it isn't in their hand. 'stand up. Pat part twirl, pat part, scan the room'

It's bloody weird. Put it down for a bit.

NoWordForFluffy · 09/08/2026 00:29

Sometimeswinning · 08/08/2026 23:56

It Is far better than a cigarette to be fair. That’s the joy of vaping. It can be done anywhere!

It shouldn't be. Vaping is often banned in the same places as smoking is. People flouting that doesn't mean that it's allowed to do it everywhere.

flowersplease · 09/08/2026 00:25

Elieza · 08/08/2026 10:46

its vile. absolutely vile.

the other issue is that the machine does not create smoke. it comes out as smoke only AFTER it’s been inside the persons mouth and lungs.

so when it blows in your face and you smell the candy sickly sweet smell ….you know it’s been inside someone. sometimes a stranger walking by.

🤢 🤢 🤢

I vape, respectfully unlike this individual, and I have never thought of it like this. Oddly intimate and gross.

I only vape in smoking areas and my garden though so I’m only sharing air with other smokers/vapers and pigeons.

MrsOni · 09/08/2026 00:21

YANBU. I'd rather people smoked than use those stupid things.

They smell fucking horrible, you look fucking stupid using them and they are environmentally horrible.

Nearly50omg · 09/08/2026 00:20

I’d be throwing her vapes away if she has them in the shared room each and every time!

Sometimeswinning · 08/08/2026 23:56

Mumdiva99 · 08/08/2026 10:47

Yuk a vape is as disgusting as a cigarette. Surely she can refrain from vaping in the apartment and at the dinner table.

It Is far better than a cigarette to be fair. That’s the joy of vaping. It can be done anywhere!

Gassylady · 08/08/2026 23:50

How about blowing it back at her with a handheld fan? Even better tell her it is disgusting and you will no longer be going on holiday with her if she doesn’t stop it

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DallazMajor · 08/08/2026 23:47

Elieza · 08/08/2026 10:46

its vile. absolutely vile.

the other issue is that the machine does not create smoke. it comes out as smoke only AFTER it’s been inside the persons mouth and lungs.

so when it blows in your face and you smell the candy sickly sweet smell ….you know it’s been inside someone. sometimes a stranger walking by.

🤢 🤢 🤢

BOAK

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DallazMajor · 08/08/2026 23:46

Whatifitallgoesright · 08/08/2026 10:49

She should be going outside to smoke it as if it was a normal fag. In-between courses is horrible. Hasn't staff ever told her to take it outside?

No one seems to bat an eyelid.

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