so, first of all I’m expecting a slating but honestly I’m feeling exasperated right now.
heres the story. My DH is one of 6 siblings, all now aged 60-72. The 2 youngest live in the family home ( which was all their parents home) and the other 4 are all married with adult children and GC.
The youngest (let’s call her K) was always coddled by her parents and never had to do much for herself. She now has a lot of health problems, including kidney disease, depression, osteoarthritis and osteoporosis. She walks with the aid of a ‘trolley’ type thing.
she never goes anywhere, rarely sees anyone (other than her brother who she lives with…they don’t get on)
Her siblings rarely sees her because she’s downright cantankerous, never stops talking and expects everyone to do everything for her when they do see her. She doesn’t drive so if she’s invited to their houses they all have to do round trips for her but she rarely stays with them more than 2 days.
apart from us all her other siblings live within about an hour of her.
However, me and DH live 8 hours away. My DH insists on inviting her every years because ‘she’s lonely’ she will get the coach to us. Her brother drops her at coach station, sees her on coach then my DH picks her up at this end and vice versa.
So she arrived on Sunday gone, it’s been hell for me. She doesn’t want to go anywhere or do anything. She talks non stop, will sharp tell me if the meal I’m making doesn’t suit her. Moans about anyone and everyone. Every conversation is turned back to her. She barely moves a muscle and we run around after her like blue arsed flies.
i liken the days like being in jail and have even been making excuses to pop out for an hour just to get some breathing space.
I don’t drink much but I’ve had to have a drink every night this week to cope.
Anyway DH was getting up early this morning to take her to coach station. When he came downstairs I could hear a commotion. She was crying in pain…I went down. She said her back was in spasms and she couldn’t move. DH called ambulance, I got her back pain killers.
by the time ambulance arrived she seemed a bit better but they have taken her to hospital to get checked out. As of right now they are waiting for an X-ray.
Im guessing there is no way she is going home today or even possibly tomorrow.
the thing is I don’t feel guilty, I feel tired and fed up and want her to go home. It’s been a hellish week whilst she’s here and I want my life and home back.
is there anyone who can please understand or am I just a dreadful person?