Letting newborn cry for a little while - dealing with other children?

Came here to check a twin parent had been on.

Sounds like any given Thursday to me.

Sing to or speak to your baby. Let them hear your voice. Tell them you're right there. It's for your benefit too, but they get the calm vibes as a result.

Don't be ridiculous. Nothing is going to happen to them for a few minutes.

Babies can move their arms and legs in carrier. The bigger concern are babies spending hours in ‘containers’ like car seats and bouncers-that stops their physical development.

Give over

Dh worked away for long periods

And yes shower daily as I have basic levels of hygiene while breastfeeding.

A few mins is fine. Babies cry. Your mental health is more important.

I had twins and an 18 month old. I didn’t have a choice. Sometimes I’d have to let not just one newborn cry, but two! What was I supposed to do? Leave an 18 month old unattended in the bath? Your baby will be fine.

A few mins yes, where necessary but 10 mins is too long. Shes barely been outside your body.

Gina Ford is cruel. We are mammals, it’s natural to have our babies physically attached to us.

My best advice on this is to buy a stretchy wrap and wear that over just your nursing bra when at home. I lived like this in the summer last year and it saved me going mad. Leave baby for a couple of minutes won’t traumatise them. If you are struggling then please reach out to the HV they can provide help. You are doing a great job and remember a rubbish parent wouldn’t worry about this sort of thing xx

Yes it's fine for a few minutes when you need to. DD got put down when her older brother needed a poo (he would only need me for a few minutes, she might cluster feed for an hour or more). I was pleasantly surprised when she didn't cry every time!

You feel better if you shower and you need to look after yourself

the human race has survived. I remember my dgm telling me about how she left my dm to cry upstairs and it upset her but it was just what you did at that time & dm is now 86.

I didn’t do that but each generation parents differently.

Why shouldn't she shower FFS. She their mother not their slave. Should she not have a poo either

For my mental sake, and for baby who gets aggy after being in carrier for too long - I really do not want to wear her hours during the day

Don't babies want to move around sometimes - wave their arms, kick their legs - rather than be confined all the time?

No wonder some mums feel so stressed! It does not harm a baby to cry for a short while while mum attends to other things. Babies are part of families where they cannot be the centre of attention all the time. Of course newborns need to have their needs met as speedily as possible but quite quickly they cotton on to the fact that someone comes along.
Mothers can tell when crying is serious distress .... it is not hard to tell. And babies get distracted quite quickly.
Family life is rough and tumble, give and take and babies learn to slot in very quickly.

Firstly, you didn’t have to shower every day, and secondly, surely you had a partner doing his fair share?

Well I had to shower everyday and so once more than one dc - the baby was in the cot and other dc in their room behind gate while I showered.

So yours never cried in the car?

Empathy for the newborn baby. Having had a couple, the idea of leaving them to cry for ten minutes because it wasn’t convenient to pick them up is astonishing.

It's totally crazy. Yes, you should comfort your baby when they cry, but there are times when this just isn't practical (and I would include the need for a mother to have a daily shower). It doesn't mean you're running a Romanian orphanage.

What do these people do who don’t let their child cry for more than 2 minutes if you’re driving on the motorway and still have a while to get to the next junction? Or just can’t pull over?

This is absolute madness - what about showering? Shaving? Toilet? washing hair? being a single parent in general and trying to do dangerous/tricky jobs?

My 3 year old (twice over) did too, but surely sometimes you had to leave the baby to, for example:

• Use the toilet.
• Assist older child toileting (or change nappy if your 2yo was still in nappies).
• Clean up/bath/shower older child.
• Attend to older child when they were unwell - which happened pretty frequently to my kids as preschoolers. They would often need their temperatures taking, medication given, comfort, sick cleaning up, etc.
• Help older child with bits of dressing.
• Brush older children's teeth.
• Put elder children to bed with a cuddle.

I'm sure there were loads of other things too.

Baby crying in a bouncer or Moses basket right next to you as you talk to them is ok. I remember tying laces for my toddler (why didn’t he have Velcro shoes!) and my baby crying right next to me. Or another time different baby in his pram next to me in the kitchen as I was throwing pasta on a plate for the older two. He cried as I shushed and comforted him.. as did his older brothers.
Baby wrap seems the most obvious solution though?

Very outdated advice gina ford.

Yeah think DD2 used the sling more but that was as my car broke down and DD1 needed raking to places on a bus. Certainly never used indoors.