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AIBU to seek help after taking items from school lost property?

65 replies

Sevs88 · 04/08/2026 22:51

This is really hard to say, but I need some reassurance because I’m not sure what to do anymore. I have always really struggled with impulse control and suspect I’m undiagnosed with something on top of my OCD. But recently Ive found myself stealing clothes from DDs schools lost property which is bad enough. But to add to my torment, I’m selling them on Vinted. We don’t need the money as DH owns a successful business, but I just can’t help myself each time the box is outside reception and I’m in the vicinity. I just get such a buzz from knowing I’m helping to recycle but feel guilty for stealing. Is it really unreasonable- like if the parents wanted those things back surely they would just claim them not leave them there, also it’s not my fault f I can’t help myself? I wish I could but I can’t! Please be kind it feels like a weights lifted already.

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CountessBinface · 05/08/2026 21:18

If any of this is true, you are a bad person.

Matildatoldsuchdreadfullies · 05/08/2026 21:24

I’m impressed you found anything worth stealing. In any lost property box I saw (ex-primary teacher), there are a wide variety of singleton gloves/socks, six sweaters with chewed sleeves, a lunchbox (left with half eaten sandwiches for a term), and a couple of completely random items, e.g. k-pop demon hunters scarf. Not really likely to make money on Vinted.

Watchoutfortheslowaraf · 05/08/2026 21:27

Diagnoses are not an excuse for stealing clothes and then selling them to make a profit. You are choosing to do this which makes you a thief. Don’t go blaming it on having ocd or something else- face up to the choices you have made and make better ones from now on.

fashionqueen0123 · 05/08/2026 21:28

Recycling?! That would be asking the school what items can go to a clothing bank or charity. Things that have maybe been there for months etc

Not nicking things which people may be looking for and putting them on vinted to make a profit! Thats outright theft.

This has zero to do with OCD either.

canklesmctacotits · 05/08/2026 21:28

Of course it's your fault 😂

You're a thief. At least own it!

Redflagsabounded · 05/08/2026 21:36

What everyone else said plus

How will it feel when you are caught, OP. And eventually, you will be. You might be criminally charged, you might not. At the very least you will be marked as the school thief with school staff, who will watch you carefully when you're on the premises, will not let you get involved with any fundraising events, will nudge each other and look at you. How long before a parent at the school who has to buy from Vinted twigs that you seem to have a lot of random uniform to sell? Or sees their child's stolen items for sale? You'll be crucified among the parents.

You need help urgently. Stop attempting to excuse the inexcusable. Think about a child with too little uniform and a parent scraping by and unable to replace it. That child being bullied because they are wearing the same grubby sweatshirt all week. It's not victimless.

How long before you get an 'impulse' to shoplift? Or steal from family/friends. You'll be in deep shit then.

Nearly50omg · 05/08/2026 21:38

you are a THIEF!!! This isn’t an illness or a “oh I can’t help it!” Scenario you are doing this knowingly!!

LateMumma · 05/08/2026 21:41

BMW58 · 05/08/2026 12:10

This can't be real!

Absolutely this

ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 05/08/2026 21:41

Watchoutfortheslowaraf · 05/08/2026 21:27

Diagnoses are not an excuse for stealing clothes and then selling them to make a profit. You are choosing to do this which makes you a thief. Don’t go blaming it on having ocd or something else- face up to the choices you have made and make better ones from now on.

This, fed up with the “hey everyone, come celebrate me for my super honesty with my shitty behaviour!! But i have a gotcha for it so can never be expected to have responsibility! Yay!!”

cupfinalchaos · 05/08/2026 22:03

I cannot understand how you can be bothered to do this or would even want to. Are you bored?

Iydrd · 05/08/2026 22:12

OP I hope you are Ok. Hopefully as harsh as they are, the comments the pps are making will help
to reframe what you have been doing and get you to stop.

HopefulYankee · 05/08/2026 22:23

So you are not only stealing from children but you are also making a profit by selling it on Vinted.

tooloololoo · 05/08/2026 22:32

That’s seriously fucked

Netcurtainnelly · 05/08/2026 22:33

Matildatoldsuchdreadfullies · 05/08/2026 21:24

I’m impressed you found anything worth stealing. In any lost property box I saw (ex-primary teacher), there are a wide variety of singleton gloves/socks, six sweaters with chewed sleeves, a lunchbox (left with half eaten sandwiches for a term), and a couple of completely random items, e.g. k-pop demon hunters scarf. Not really likely to make money on Vinted.

Edited

Exactly. Probably a wind up.

Mayflower282 · 05/08/2026 22:39

I knew someone like this and it escalated, they are now in prison for stealing money from their employer. Get help asap.

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