okay so I’ve been married for ten years and have two children. About a month ago we seperated. Mainly because I withdrew due to some awful things he said to me (about me being fat and ugly, and him needing to think about other women to have sex with me) and after a few months of withdrawal (no affection or sex) he wanted to move out.
i spoke with him today about both working individually to be better people for ourselves and to hopefully be emotionally safe partners for the other and getting to a point where we could be a family again.
he told me that hook ups were fine but if I met someone could I tell him out of respect.
i said tbh I would like to be exclusive in this period of figuring out if we can work out enough to be with each-other to be emotionally safe partners.
he said he wasn’t sure he could be exclusive and he would let me know.
its been 12 hours and nothing.
aibu or this is a red flag right?