What sort of family would you not want to marry into?

A Zionist, pro Netanyahu family

Cold, uninterested, unwelcoming, not interested in spending time with me or my children, no fun, not good to talk to.

I like an involved, caring and interested wider family.

luckily I totally realised this before i got married and when I was dating I used to take parents and siblings into account. I once finished a relationship with a guy as he told me he hated his sister. Dodgy family dynamics were not for me.

happily, my DH’s family have turned out to be just as marvellous as I thought they would be.

Sex people.

Horse people.

One that doesn't cook.

One which lives in each other's pockets, all live close and every occasion is a family drama

Where a mil and sil who I can only describe as emotionally incestous with there Son / Brother. Mind you the Brothers seems equally incestous back with there sister / mother.

Basic racist

Was expecting it much sooner!

That's the worst one by a country mile🤣🤣

The Royal family.

I knew someone would say this early on. You havel literally described my family 😂

My XH came from a very dysfunctional family and really struggled with mine. He lived with us and they basically treated him like a son, he couldnt cope with the fact they would buy him gifts he had always wanted (we weren't rich in any way, I dont mean massively expensive stuff) whereas his mum would find the cheapest version of something similar to something he may like. His family were nasty and selfish and treated him appallingly. I do get it from his point of you but its sad as he did want to be part of a family but it was too overwhelming for him.

I am not sure I would mind being part of a criminal family, they are always really close and it looks fun (as long as we didnt murder or hurt people 😂 so not sure what sort of crimes we'd commit)

I would love to have a bigger family, more siblings and nieces/nephews. There are 10 of us who do a lot together in the immediate family. When I was young I spent a lot of time with my cousins and extended family, I absolutely loved it, there would be 20 of us for sunday afternoon buffet at my Aunties and we'd have massive family parties. Sadly my Auntie died young and the family seemed to fall apart after that. I see my cousins now and then but its not the same.

One where the mother has only ever been a house wife and does everything round the house, even when her DH is retired, and the kids have never been made to lift a finger.

Hear hear. I'm a rabid leftie but my dad's a conservative and a great dad and I wouldn't change him.

JHound · Today 18:10
I will say though - I would maybe struggle to be with somebody from a very posh / upper class family

What would your reaction be if someone said on this thread ‘I would struggle to be with someone from a very working class family?
I think you’d accuse them of being a snob.

🤣🤣🤣

I know how you feel. I always thought I was OK from a normal family, both parents professional (dad a doctor and mum a scientist, but both doctor and scientist from working class background) until I was invited to my university friend's wedding, she was marrying into the richest and poshest family in one county, and I had no idea. When we were separated into 'bride' and 'groom' halves in the Church, it was like that Scumbags and Poshos University Challenge. We just looked so different from the other half, not just dresses, but even physically we were bigger, clumsier, and many of us did not wear hats. Such a divide it was, I have never felt like that before. They were perfectly normal people at the reception afterwards, not condescending or patronising or anything, but I can't quite describe the feeling. I came across a different class that day and it really felt weird.

One where the Fil comes round every day
But then you aren't going to know that upfront
A current thread.

The type that enter your house without knocking.
The type that expect you to have children and all be close cousins together

The type that live within a few streets of each other.

The dynamic between my family and DH’s is like this but it’s pure comedy. After all these years they rub along really well with minimal judgement.

Oh and what I call ‘meat people’…

those who can’t deal with vegetarians and bang on about bacon being delicious

A Muslim one

A lot of the above plus

livestock farmers
hunting, shooting, fishing people
who are cruel to children and/or pets
people who hate nature/hiking
petrolheads

A family with high levels of mental health issues, autism or generational trauma due to abuse, alcoholism etc.

Overly materialistic - their identity hinges on their range rover and indetikit new build house.

Cookie cutter type families who have a very narrow and fixed idea of how life should look.

Uninterested and low effort - aren’t bothered by birthdays, don’t celebrate milestones, etc.

Detached and unsociable.

Overbearing and controlling family. Equally though, an unsupportive partner who refuses to accept there is a problem with how his family might be behaving. It’s often said on here that “you have a husband problem” which in my experience is often true.