I can't stand my new home

I couldn't live like that either Op.

Moving from a friendly village into a house in a town where you are over looked on all side with no garden must be very hard. I would hate it. But I guess you do what seems best for your family.

I completely understand. I've just turned down a move to a spacious flat with a sea view - pretty much on the front. This was a lifelong dream of mine. However I'd be giving up my garden in my small terraced house. I can't do it. The boundaries on 2 sides are Hawthorn hedges, quite large and well established. The birds are amazing - finches, bluetits, robins, sparrows, blummin crows and pigeons... But I couldn't not have them.

I'm not helping am I? But I understand.

Have a look at bird feeders, bird boxes, bug hotels - anything to attract wildlife.

I had one of those bee hotels (?) I can't remember. Had it for years, nothing. Then 1 year a little leaf cutter bee would fly back and forth with its perfectly cut leaf to pop in and seal off the eggs she had laid. Rinse and repeat for her.
It doesn't take much. Do get your plants potted and outside, bird table or box...
Good luck! Give it a couple of summers...

Your imagination is clearly very limited.

Not related to the house per se but you should start trusting yourself and stop relying on other people to tell you how you feel. You have to tell your DP you’re desperately unhappy in this house and want to start the process of moving as and when tenancy ends/money allows. Stop asking for other peoples opinions as the only relevant opinions are yours and your DPs. But ultimately if you’re that unhappy then he should be happy to move somewhere new that you can both happy with

You can have a beautiful, mature and verdant garden just using pots.
Get as many as you can and loads of compost and plant food. Then you can start building up a collection of perrennials that will come back each year. It's a bit late fit summer bedding but you can get plants for all seasons. And herbs, vegetables.

I really feel for you, @WannabeWriter1988. Before we moved to the UK, I was adament that I didn't want to live in the south, and certainly not the southeast. Yet here we are and I hate it even more than I imagined. Both of us are used to wide open spaces and the traffic, noise, living on top of each other feeling (nevermind the vaping!) is driving me mad. Thank goodness it's only a rental...

OK, so you are the person who overruled your own preferences, ultimately, by deciding other people's opinions outweighed your own. Why? Is this something you do a lot?

OK, that’s interesting as I was expecting you to say that he had forced you further away from yours. Did you grow up in the area where you now live? Your family sound quite mean and dismissive of you, do you actually want to be closer to them? Did you feel more freedom when they were further away?

It sounds like a lovely house in a poor position. You'll probably find the colder months lovely.

I'd be putting up a pegoda with real or fake trellis and trees in half whiskey barrels.

You should not have agreed to live there and need to look into moving if you're still unhappy in the future but make sure you have an idea of where rather than just complaining about your current house. Can you actually find an area you can afford and like and is good for work /school/family.

Get some blinds/blackout curtains or find somewhere else to rent.

How long are you tied in for? Did you insist on a break clause? I’d give it a few months, but the lack of space would make me go stir crazy.

I had zero connection to my current house for months, I felt quite sad, but we’ve ended up here for over 20 years. I think it was a lot to do with having escaped an aggressive druggy neighbour who made our life hell and we bought a tiny 2 up 2 down and stayed for a year. It was blissful, silent, lovely neighbours, but when we saw this house, it just made sense. 🤷‍♀️

It sounds like others are minimising your feelings and opinions. That is the problem.
Please don't allow others to do this. They've told you you are silly and selfish. For having an opinion. Find your inner strength, and make a plan to find somewhere to live that YOU like. Not your family. YOU.

Absolutely this. Trust your own judgement, and advocate for your own wishes. Nobody else has to live in this house. No one else needs to have an opinion on what it's like to live there. My mother married into a house she absolutely hated, and still hates, and has now lived there for almost sixty years.

Your family thinking you are silly is a bit weird. À collusion against you having a mind and feelings of your own? Did you join in with the self - discounting when you agreed to move there?

Time to get a credible voice, for yourself to hear, as well as those around you.

Are you now closer to your family, or his?

Respectfully, why did you put in an offer on a house you hated from the moment you saw it? Are you in an abusive relationship?

What do you mean, no sunshine? That would be a deal breaker for me, possibly even a relationship ender. You can't live where you are genuinely depressed and for your partner to expect it is unreasonable.

Have you moved into a prison?
You are sounding a bit melodramatic about it, as I simply can’t imagine everything you are describing!