I can't stand my new home

Ehat do you mean minimum term? Mortgage? 2 year fix? Because you can leave rental any time with appropriate notice now

I completely understand what you mean. We moved to be nearer family, found a nice house but in an area I want sure about. Once we’d made an offer I sort of got swept along with the move, looking back I can see I wasn’t sure even then. From the minute we moved in I absolutely hated the whole area, I actually had a bit of a break down as it was a bit of a final straw moment. I tried so hard to make the house my own, but ultimately it was the area I hated. We took some time to work out what it actually was that we wanted, and sold a year later. We’re now building a house in an area I really researched, and am much better.
Im sure many people don’t understand and think we’re mad but I don’t care, life is too short to be miserable.

brilliant. Maybe do those things anyway while you are stuck there for a another while and then assess how you feel when the term is up?

Is it rented from a private landlord or a housing association, OP?

if that is all you are looking for then no, you are allowed to feel how you feel and if that is affecting your mental health you are right to suggest moving once the term is up. Your family are saying you are selfish as they probably missed you and are desperate for you to stay close by. Its up to you what you do with that.

I did this once. Moved to a new house having lived in the countryside. Stayed for 2 years. However it does take a while to settle in. In my current house it felt for the first year that I was living in someone elses house. Absolutely love it now. Green up the garden. Planters with trellis to clothe the fences. Small water feature for the sound and wildlife. Bird feeders. Blinds inside, maybe vertical? for privacy. Make it work.

its an option lol. Maybe she needs life as she mentions there are no spiders the size of house bricks and seems upset by it...

I would look at properties a few miles away, in a more rural location. You can still be near your family. No need to live in the same city.

A pet??? Is that a serious suggestion???

That sounds really difficult OP and I hope you are able to move soon.

While a few nice potted plants can make a place look nicer, they are not really going to address the crowded in feeling or the noise.

Transform it, completely. It can be done. Bench, plants and trees in pots, colour. Make the most. Fresh plants and flowers indoors. Candles and fairy lights where ever you can. Get a pet lol. Anything to add life to surroundings.

I see. I think you’ve made the mistake of asking for others opinions on something that is a subjective choice. They aren’t you and so can’t say if something won’t work for you as an individual. Many people also don’t want to speak badly of a property it looks like you will buy as then they’ve slammed the house you live in.

Make a plan to get out. You need a different lifestyle. I did too so I live in an urban area but next to a bird sanctuary so I have nature. If it takes 6m-12m you’ll be ok as an end date to it will make you more comfortable and able to cope.

It sounds horrific. Move out as soon as possible. Your husband may well like it there but is it worth your mental distress and unhappiness? Tell him you made a mistake, you should not have listened to others' opinions when you yourself had such a visceral reaction to the house and really did not want it. You can only apologise and explain, and then you can both move out. Honestly, if your DH refuses, leave by yourself. No sun and no living things? My idea of hell on earth.

No spiders? Where do I sign up for this slice of heaven?

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Have you bought the house, OP or is it rented?

Are you renting or have you bought this house?

Few plants will sadly not make it any better....

I get what you mean, I saw some newer builds like that and just couldn't do it.

Moving will be loss now, won't it. But I would start making a plan and not doubting myself next time

You can do a lot with containers. Some plants especially like shade, eg hostas which are hardy and provide greenery (mine also have flowers for a few weeks in summer which bees love).

Set up a bird table and bath too (or big plant saucers which can act as shallow baths - put pebbles in one too to attract small insects to drink). Once birds know there is a reliable source of food and water they will be regular visitors - your little patch will be an oasis in the concrete jungle!

The fact you are posting on here means I think you need to move. Sod what the partner thinks or is ignoring

keep in mind that the people (family) who said you are being silly might have a vested interest in keeping you there. What does your partner think? And why did you move?

I would feel the same, I live near woods and there's lots of trees in the streets where we live, we've thought about moving to other parts of the city and the lack of greenery puts me off.

I don't understand why you can't move. Stay in the area but find a house better located, they can't all be as awful as the one you describe.

I do appreciate how you feel though. I rented for 10mths - the location was actually very good but the house was situated in a grey depressing cul-de-sac, the house itself had no soul, and even if you decorated or renovated it, it would still have no soul. It was just a square grey box.

I actually enjoyed our time there as the house was big in a tourist area and we had loads and loads of visitors, but I never viewed it as home, I only saw it as a temporary stop gap.