My in-laws want to celebrate Christmas early (28th/29th of November) due to them going away throughout December.
They brought this up last weekend & we tentatively agreed, however it’s now clear that we all misunderstood what “celebrate” meant.
They are wanting to replicate Christmas Day, my issue is we have very young children, who very much believe in Father Christmas, therefore I don’t want two Christmases confusing them & our second actually real Christmas having the shine taken off.
I offered a compromise of them coming over for the weekend, helping the children decorate the tree, we’ll go to the Pantomime (they start mid November here) then we’ll give them their gifts & have a curry, they really want to give the children & us our gifts & recreate Christmas morning.
As to not drip feed, some context points
DH thinks we should let them replicate Christmas.
They're cruising the first three weeks of December then having Christmas week in Canada, this has been planned & booked for 2 years, its for their 50th wedding anniversary.
We don’t always spend Christmas Day together so we’re not breaking any traditions.
They are lovely people & don’t usually ask much of us, so the guilty side of me is feeling bad
My DH checked that the reason they are being so insistent about early gifts isn’t because they’re are for things before Christmas i.e concert tickets etc, they’re not planning anything like that
So am I being unreasonable & we should just let them completely replicate Christmas or am I not being unreasonable & my compromise seems fair.