Not to want to wash my hair over a sink with a bloody sieve?!

Tbf I have long thick hair and the drain cover is completely blocked with a fistful of hair after I wash it. If I let it go down the drain it would definitely have an impact.

I would either improvise a drain cover for the shower, or ask if they have a trug to fill with deep water and use that instead of the sink.

I'd ditch the ironing

You could maybe wash your hair over the side of the bath and into that big bucket? Use a jug to tip it over your head, filling from the bath tap beside you. I've done this before and it works.

Erm just do it anyway!

Wash your hair in the shower anyway and remove any hairs in the drain. One shampoo is not going to block the plumbing. Just don’t tell her.

i lose alot of hair when I wash it because it's curly and doesn't shed daily with hair brushing. i carry a silicone drain protector and use to catch the hair. simple solution

Just say ok and then wash your hair in the shower like normal. How will they ever know.

I don’t think you should flout their rules and risk upsetting them. It’s not such a big deal.

It’s not. You’ve not met my mum ,she’s like this on all topics. If anything is probably more than £1 she will have to consider if it’s worth that.

so water gets saved and as a child rarely allowed to wash, food gets bought reduced and as a child there wasn’t enough most of the time, as a child I had to wear clothes probably two sizes too small all bought second hand or given to us.

she doesn’t have the internet never has or a mobile phone. I live away now and the only way I have to contact her is on her landline or write a letter. some people of the older post war era are like this.

My mum only allowed me to wash my hair once a fortnight. Seriously embarrassing when I was 13 and at secondary school with grease down to my shoulders.

Presumably she isn’t going to stand in the bathroom and supervise you when you have your shower. Just wash it anyway. It’s not going to block the drain and she’s not going to know.

OP, when asked just say that you don’t want to go next year. If pushed tell them it is because you don’t like washing your hair with a sieve or showering in a bucket.

Very odd, just wash as normal they'll never know. I also wouldn't want to stand in dirty water while showering. I'd ditch the bucket also and just partially fill it after the shower to make it look like you used it. Just a little bit of soap.

I would just wash my hair in the shower as normal, making sure that there's no hair in the plug hole afterwards. They're not going to be standing over you in the bathroom,so how will they know otherwise?

Some older people won’t use showers to wash their hair. My DA is a very youthful 84, still runs her own business, very independent with a very busy social life. She has 2 showers in her house and showers daily, but on the evenings she washes her hair, she does that over the sink! She says she can’t wash her hair in the shower!
Any older Mumsnetters who can explain the fear/distrust/insecurity about hairwashing in the shower?

What family isn't annoying, we don't love them for that they'll leave us in their wills, what a sad way to look at a relationship.

We're a bit tree-huggery and do the bucket thing, but I'd never inflict it on guests! That's madness. The garden doesn't care about a bit of hair either

I take it that your DA won’t be watching you have a shower. So take her rules with a pinch of salt and wash your hair as you normally would. Be sure to scoop out your strands of hair from the plug hole.

Quite!

Sink unblockers don't work for me, never have. Even the commercial ones from a specialist supplier. I've just learned to live with slow draining water

This reminds me of Japanese horror films like Ring where supernatural ladies with long black hair clog up plug holes in terrifying ways. Perhaps they’ve been watching too much stuff like this.

Am I the only one who now desperately needs an update to hair wash gate? OP what did you do did you flout their rules? Did you manage to use the bucket without giving yourself concussion?

Don't some people have some daft ideas!

Cant believe the amount of people telling you to just put up with greasy hair, i hate that feeling its so uncomfortable.

OP just wash it like a normal person. Tell them you probably wont be back next summer- say youve no holidays from work, tell them the kids have summer camps, or tell them the truth that you cant really abide by their rules as it makes you uncomfortable.

Hahaha, dh showed me the grim hair/fluff residue in our shower and he's right, it's grim.

Whilst this is a savage workaround, I'd be tempted to comply if it's a short visit. Not sure I'd love doing hair over a sieve though. I'd probably go to the gym or local swimming pool.

For a longer stay, look into solutions - you can but very cheap hair catchers for plugs on amazon. We've got one. Once id seen how much hair, lint and stuff it caught, I would not be without one.