Argh! So stressed, worried I am going to damage my DD emotionally :(

You are being amazing! My suggestion is lists! Write down everything you can think of that you need to do either on one list or several. Star anything that is important (redundancy claim - shocking that you have to apply for it - surely it should be done by your employer or the insolvency practitioner).
cross off anything you do, add to it as you remember more to do. Mark the jobs your daughter can help with (and let her cross them off when complete)
Definitely reach out to your daughters friends parents, one might bring her child round and help you pack as the kids play! What’s your moving date? We can be on a countdown with you x

Bloody hell Op, there's absolutely no surprise you are stressed, that's far too much for one person to manage, but of course you have no choice. Make a list if you haven't already and keep chipping away at it. Tell Dd you are having a special school holiday where anything goes for her, she can sleep late, watch tv, eat rubbish, anything that lets you get done what needs to be done, in the safe and sure knowledge that it's only short term and this too shall pass. Good luck and plenty of it

Are you in the UK? Because this sounds nothing like any psychology/IAPT services I know. It would cost a lot less if it services did work like this.

Propranolol might take the edge off your anxiety , ask your doctor

I agree. Best of luck OP x

Yes, in a very under-resourced borough where the secondary care service I work in has a 4-year wait but IAPT's is a few weeks, and some of the local surgeries have mental health practitioners as I described. I worked in an IAPT with a supportive counselling offer in another borough previously.

That's good to know some boroughs/GPs can offer it so quickly. Fingers crossed yours is one of them OP.

Get yourself to the doctor. This is not sustainable.

If you are a coffee drinker, get some mushroom coffee, if not, get the hot chocolate version eg. Spacegoods
It's not cheap but works out at less than £1 a day (on offer) and can help you feel both calm and focused. It really helped me when i started.a new teaching job i was terrified about. Put a relaxation podcast on or some free meditation on your phone before you go to bed to help you relax. Stick it on the credit card until the new job money comes through. You probably already know but the library is usually a pretty good place for free activities in summer holidays. Near us there is a church holiday club for a week that works out at £1 a day for 5 mornings, see if there is something like that nearby, perhaps some play dates with her old friends before you move to give you a bit more time. Maybe get her to help with some of the packing, sending her to get certain items, hopefully it will wear her out a bit quicker. Train her up to help you with some of the little things, making drinks, putting sandwiches together, she'd probably love to feel grown up by helping you and kids can be surprisingly capable when given the chance. My parents had us making coffee in the morning at that age, I wouldn't recommend anything too technical though eg. Fried breakfasts!

This time will pass, just be kind to yourselves. It will get easier.

Change is discombobulating, and you have a lot going on. Not quite the relaxing summer you’d hoped for, but it sounds like you’ve done a lot of the organisation already, which is amazing. DD will be fine, it’s amazing what kids can deal with and it sounds to me like you’re role modelling some kick-ass adulting. Give her plenty of hugs, tell her you love her, and find some cheap things to do together. When mine were little we used to go on random train rides to places not too far away, they loved being on a train and just going to a different park somewhere and maybe getting an ice cream was an adventure. You’ve got this, and soon things will settle down again. Just got to ride the last bit of the storm. You’ll manage it because you’ll have to (sounds obvious but it’s something I’ve been very aware of as a single parent over the years).

Have you looked at the price of getting the movers to pack vs not? Because there was far less in it than I thought and even if money if tight if it saves you an entire summer of stress it might be worth it? I know there’s sorting to do if you don’t want to move with a load of stuff you don’t need but I just thought I’d plant the seed.

Be kind to yourself. Make sure you acknowledge when you have unkind to her and apologise to her. I had a shouty mum who got cross when she was stressed. She always apologised and tried to explain. We have a great relationship and I don’t know what I’d do without her.

can any of your work friends have you dd for a few hours? Or can you have a play date so she is entertained without it having to be you.

Proethazine for sleep, if you're struggling. It's available otc and the dose for sleep is 40-40mg. Gamechanger.

Look online how to regulate your nervous sysyem.

Keep putting one foot in front of the other. Action is my number one thing for reducing stress and anxiety, see also writing lists.

Reframe this as a super new adventure, which it is.

Let all the unnecessary shit fall away.

Ask for help where possible and outsource.

You are doing fucking amazingly and i am proud of you. We women, particularly single parents carry so fucking much, we're bloody amazing.

Everything is going to work out better than you ever imagined. In 6 months you will be settled and this will all just be a memory.

Our children are not damaged by seeing natural, proportional emotions from us. Be open and honest with her that you have a lot going on, but you are both safe and embarking on a whole new life chapter.

It's all going to be fine 😊.

SP. Promethazine

OP I just wanted to add my support. We were in the same boat last year and I made the hard decision to leave the country and teach internationally for the free tuition, accommodation and childcare. My head was exploding with packing, sorting passports and visas etc but now we have done a year I think everything has settled and the kids are happier. I kept DC6 in the loop and he understands why we had to move etc, he has actually settled better here than at his old school. I really feel for you and wanted to share that there is definitely light at the end of this tunnel. 💐

I would say, re promethazine. It can be amazing for sleep but don't start off at 40mg. I reckon 10-12 is easily sufficient to get me through and otherwise I'm super groggy the next day. I try not to take it more than a few days in a row otherwise I get rebound insomnia.

Yes, this is a good idea.

Also look at local charitable trusts. Often the only criteria is that you have to live in a particular area.

You may not feel comfortable applying but you have been hit with difficult circumstances and, if you fit the criteria, this is literally what the trust is designed to do. You can always pay the money back when you are settled, if you feel you must.

My two (now 15 and 17) have lived through a house fire, the divorce of myself and their dad, a massive career move for me (went back to uni and did a masters degree in nursing) and my bipolar diagnosis. Plus my sons autism diagnosis, me working nights to get by when at uni so less energy in the daytimes and of course, many of us forget… Covid and my two are doing well. Stress might not be ideal but it teaches them resilience and the art of solving dilemmas. This is a “season” in your life and not forever forever.

I would definitely look into how much extra to get removal company to pack - it wasn't much extra, and you just go out and they pack! Worth it if you're on the brink...

She's 6. Young children are very resilient - she will be fine. I think it would be a different story if she was 16.

Ah op your dd will look back on this period of change and remember a mum who worked hard, who always did the best she could, and who toughed it out during difficult circumstances 💐. That’s a great life lesson!

It’s easy to say rather than do, but if you can try and prioritise sleep, and get to bed as early as possible, and give yourself some time to wind down, you will feel overall so much better 💐

I have been a similar situation (a few times!) and you will get through this. I would write a big do list. What is causing the most stress? Start with these at the top. Uniform- can you order online and tick that offer? Sit down and complete school forms. Ask friends for help, packing and sorting.

You will look back and wonder how you coped but you will. I have moved and changed jobs with young children on my own, they are very resilient. Remove any guilt, you have no choice as your/dds school has closed and you have done brilliantly to get a new job.

For your new school I would focus on moving for the moment and then allocate a day get on top of new schemes of work etc closer to Sept start date.

I know money is tight but is there a cheap sorts club you can book her in for? This would give you a day or so to do some jobs or get organised or have some time to process.

it sounds very cliche but you must be kind to yourself, I have also been in exam marking hell and it takes it toll. Late nights and the concentration are hard work.

also get rid of as much stuff as you can- Vinted, FB marketplace etc and a carboot sale if a friend can take you or you dad?

I will try and think of some more tips …

it’s not easy being in education at the moment and getting a new job is tough despite what is in the news about lack of teachers. Things will settle and you will both flourish.

all the best- you got this!!

Another one backing medication. You don’t have to stay on it but if it helps get you through a difficult period then it’s worth it.
You sound amazing but you need to look after yourself in order to look after your daughter.
Wishing you and your daughter all the best in your new house and job/school x

Do you know any teenagers wanting to boost their CV who would come and help entertain her?

I have to say that the fact that you're self aware enough to know all this is a sign you're probably doing okay regards your daughter. She's dealing with her own grief, but you are setting a fantastically good example for her about resilience in tough times.

My feeling is you need to prioritise your own wellbeing. No wonder you have a short fuse. Can you get any respite or time to simply step back? If you're religious, maybe they have options like prayer retreats, or if not, councils and mental health services often do cheap or free sessions in things like meditation / wellbeing.

I wish you well, it sounds like you're an amazing mum. 👏 This too shall pass. 🙏