Moody part-time DP and his right to his “chilled days”

If you are really fed up with your job get a job as a supply teacher. Seems easy enough with lots of rest days. Also - you can do better than him.

He sounds like a right lazy arse OP, no way would I put up with this whilst working full time. 🙄

You are shouldering the whole load. He is not your partner, he’s a total liability. Your life would be easier, more peaceful and tidier without him. Get rid.

On what basis do you live together: is it your place, and he moved in? Expenses: shared equally?

All those single women out there must read this chain eating popcorn.

Single: all your money, spend on what you like, you clean and cook perfectly. Got your own friends to socialise with who are loyal to you.

You run your home super efficiently. See your family when you want. Your place looks clean, full of stuff you’ve bought you like.

No having to compromise your life for some lazy ungrateful lump. No partner telling you what to do, or stealing your money or cheating on you. No loading the machine with someone else’s stinking clothes or picking dirty underpants off the floor.

Spend all your time doing exactly as you please, on your terms.

Absolute Bliss!

I'd be going on that holiday solo. Fuck that shit.

dont ignore this red flag. I experienced something very similar to this and now I’m going through a really difficult divorce. If it’s like this now it will get much much worse after you’ve had children. He is also incredibly immature and no ability to self reflect. You can’t be in a relationship with someone like this.

There's no way he can earn enough to support himself as a part time supply teacher, so I'm assuming you're putting in way more financially than he is? He sounds lazy, rude and entitled and you'd be well rid of him. He can see what it's like to work full time and run a house when he actually has to support himself and not rely on you to bankroll him and be his housekeeper.

What a lazy, lazy man. With a terrible temper too. He deserves to be dumped.

LTB he is useless and selfish

Please, if you wouldn’t mind, tell us a bit more about the background of your relationship?
How long have you been together, doesn’t sound like they’re are children involved.
Has it always been this way, regarding work? I.e. you being full time, him being part time?
How does the split of bills work?
How do you feel about that split? What are you gaining being with him, over being single?
Sorry for all the questions - just trying to understand the dynamics.
Him jumping out of bed and being defensive doesn’t sound like a nice place to be.

Sounds like my ex husband, gaslighting and abusive when he was asked to do anything that contributed to keeping the house clean/tidy. I was expected to run myself into the ground doing everything and he was entitled to take his holiday without a care in the world. Disgusting behaviour and disrespectful. If you don’t have kids with this person, please leave, this won’t work long term.

Why are you with this lazy, entitled, moody CF?

I can't imagine he brings much to your life op!

My guess is he feels entitled to sex when he wants it.

You deserve much better.

Yes, him

100% agree with this. He probably wouldn’t have the option to work part time if he didn’t have a partner. Having someone steady who is working full time is enabling him to ‘opt out’ of usual responsibilities. Breaking it off now might be difficult but it’s a case of ‘suffer now or suffer later’

I'm struggling to see where the partnership aspect comes in.

Sounds like a big imbalance between the two
of you. I assume that you wouldn’t have enough household income to cover your bills and mortgage etc if you went PT too OP?

As others have asked, who owns the property? If it’s you, then I’d be inclined to tell him to buck up his ideas or leave. Or just to leave.

He’s an adult baby, do you need anymore red flags ?

How can you possibly respect or even want this SLUB (selfish lazy useless b@stard). I doubt that this man child will change and you deserve so much more. Get your ducks in a row and plan for the future you deserve without this waste of space!

He is a lazy bastard there is no way in hell id be with a man like this..you deserve better.
And slamming doors like a child ffs do you really have to stay with him and calls himself a teacher he sounds like a total prick .
Get rid.

This. What’s the point of him?

Get rid. This is no partner.

Sometimes, yes. Gaming is my hobby

But do you spend all day gaming at the expense of basic household chores? Shopping? Cooking? Leaving the house in a mess? And expecting your dp to accept this when she is run ragged?

As others have said, a holiday from work is not a holiday from life. There is still general life admin to be done.
I’d love to know why he thinks he’s so special that he deserves a woman to run around after him. What a brass neck this guy has.