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Did she just not want it?

89 replies

lloydgrossmanbol · 11/07/2026 17:36

I bought my mum a handheld fan for her face during this heatwave. Has a thyroid issue so finds it hard to regulate temp.

I bought it for her and she said it didn't work. I asked her to send a video and she didn't.

I got it to return to Amazon and it works fine.

She's one of those weird people who says no to everything. I also bought her a sun umbrella which she used but she said not to at the start. We were outside today which is why I wanted to make sure she was as cool as possible - she also doesn't help herself with water, fans, hats, sun creams etc

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thejelliclecats · 11/07/2026 18:24

She's a grown adult. She can buy her own fan.

Hadalifeonce · 11/07/2026 18:22

Even my mother's doctor said to me once. 'You can lead a horse to water.........'

Rituelec · 11/07/2026 18:20

I offered my mum a spare air con unit. Brand new. She said no. She'd rather moan

Naurrr · 11/07/2026 18:20

Leave her to it, no adult needs pandered to.

ThirdStorm · 11/07/2026 18:18

I got my mum a Fan last year, just convinced her to use it today and she loves it. No idea why she hasn’t previously! 🤣

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 11/07/2026 18:11

lloydgrossmanbol · 11/07/2026 18:10

I didn't fancy a trip to a and e with her

You don’t need to. Just wave as you close the ambulance door.

If people don’t want help then there’s nothing you can do.

deeahgwitch · 11/07/2026 18:11

JohnnieFedora · 11/07/2026 18:09

Just let her be and then tell her to STFU if she ever complains about being too hot.

👏🏻

NormasArse · 11/07/2026 18:11

I also have a thyroid issue- I’ll take your fan!

lloydgrossmanbol · 11/07/2026 18:11

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 11/07/2026 18:10

She doesn’t want your help.

Leave her be.

Yeah and I don't want a heat exhausted elderly parent with me....

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lloydgrossmanbol · 11/07/2026 18:10

JohnnieFedora · 11/07/2026 18:09

Just let her be and then tell her to STFU if she ever complains about being too hot.

I didn't fancy a trip to a and e with her

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TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 11/07/2026 18:10

She doesn’t want your help.

Leave her be.

JohnnieFedora · 11/07/2026 18:09

Just let her be and then tell her to STFU if she ever complains about being too hot.

chipsandpeas · 11/07/2026 18:08

stop buying her things

lloydgrossmanbol · 11/07/2026 18:06

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