Shall I go out on my own tonight

It was last night people and the op has scarpered.

I'm 54 . I wouldn't be sat in a hotel room rather than go out either.

And was the same 2 years ago when my kids were younger

I’m going to assume you are either young or you don’t have children. Because I can’t think of anything BETTER than being in a hotel room on my own😂

Honestly if you’re comfortable going out on your own to a club then I say go for it and enjoy yourself! Whose cares.

I’ll never forget going out for a night out 10ish years ago. My friend said his mum was going out that night too we might bump into her. We did bump into her and she was having a blast! On her own. Her friend had let her down and she wanted to go out so she did. She was 50 at the time, looked stunning and was having a great time. I found that really inspirational. I don’t think many people would find it weird.

op, please go.. a few years ago I was walking for a week with my fiancé- no husband. He got called back to work urgently and I decided to stay in France. (For the 4 remaining days) I skied in the morning sometimes with an instructor or on my own then had lunch went back to hotel to either spa or sleep! At dinner time, I got dressed, took a book and went for dinner! It was one of my most memorable holidays ever! I never lacked for company or drinks (funny enough) I met and chatted to loads of people (nothing romantic) but even got on to the dance floor on the last night by myself. Defo in my memory book of all the things I had down in my youth… just go..for you. Don’t text the love interest. His affections are otherwise engaged elsewhere go for yourself. You will make friends… worst case if you don’t feel confident you can just go back to the hotel. But do go, have fun and be safe!

OP go!

Firstly the bloke can go fuck himself. You've done things wrong so dont even let it entertain your head.

Go! When i was young and single and no kids i often sat at home after friends cancelled. One day I was like nope im going and did it.
It feels a bit weird at first but after a few drinks and some dancing you honestly dont even realise youre alone.

Go to the hotel, put on some music have a few drinks and go to the club and enjoy yourself.

Just make sure someone knows where you're going and let them know youre at the hotel safe at the end of the night for safety.

I would 100% go to the hotel and maybe to a nice bar/dinner but, i would avoid the club to go dancing as the guy you are interested in is there and it would look a bit weird to go there on your own and dance whilst you know he is there with his friends and he had informed you that he has a girlfriend. Do you have anyone who could come in place of your friend?

Presumably now you know he's a dick, youll be having nothing to do with him. So he's no longer relevent in any way to your life and choices. What he thinks, what his friends thinks are of no importance. Besides, if he approaches and you cut him, it'll be obvious to him and his mates that you're not there because you're interested in him.

Maybe your friend has blown out cos she is worried she will be third wheel to you and this bloke.

X

If she goes… she’ll get her comeuppance tonight

event; but I'd be lying if I said he wasn't an influence on my decision to go on my own. Nothing can develop from this connection though, & nothing will. He feels it too, we've discussed it last month.
Is it going to look like I'm going so that I can chase him? Will I look like a pain in the ass hanger on, a spare part?

yep, as many of us guess…. That is why you’re back tonight

and in answer to your question…. Yes and Yes

Op has disappeared now she’s been outed for her other thread. Not sure what’s she wants people to say?!

What a find!! That is so the op!!

interestingly though Neither of us are single.

ew @Jammydodger70 you should be ashamed of yourself.
Although… given he sounds he was trying to put you off coming tonight - I reckon you’re about to make a giant t*t of yourself if you do go tonight

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5542229-should-i-carry-on-going-to-these-nights-out?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=share

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What other thread?!

I wonder if the op is getting herself all dressed up as we carry on posting? If so, and the op does have the intention of seeking him out (despite proclamations claiming otherwise), I think she’s about to make a huge fool of herself

Well I mean if the other thread is her and it does look like it is and that’s why she’s scarpered she’s on here pleading innocence and complaining he’s a liar when she herself is in a relationship and cheating. Or trying to.

Perfectly possible if it’s a Northern Soul night, which is my hunch - everyone dances individually and it’s somewhat of a competition, so doesn’t attract people who wouldn’t be comfortable with all eyes on them. The idea is very much to be watched. It’s quite thrilling, sweaty and visceral, and the dancers can be incredibly talented. Worth looking up if you’ve never seen it.

It's only batshit if you haven't read the OP's other thread to be fair.

It was linked somewhere on this one but not sure if it's still there.

It’s absolutely batshit isn’t it?

I’d dump him. But the responsibility for his poor behaviour would be his alone and not the ‘random woman’.

I feel like I'm in some sort of parallel universe where people are reading different threads... that or someone has searched other threads or think they know the OP in real life.

It's just bloody WEIRD how people are responding.

She has no interest in this man! She doesn't want to be trapped in the hotel room but she's feeling slightly and humanly insecure about going to the club on your own.

Do you know what OP, I replied earlier saying weigh it all up and consider how you'd feel when you were there but now I'm fucking angry that people think women should accommodate other people's shit behaviour and prejudices.

I really really hope you go and I hope you have an absolute ball.

I think you’re trying to convince yourself that you want to go to dance, when actually you’re hoping to meet up with this man and have a night of passion with a conveniently booked hotel room…

I think you're completely overthinking the part about going to a club on your own and enjoying some dancing. Just go if you want to. But the part about hooking up with a man already in a relationship and being kissed is ick. Would you like some random girl to hook up with your DP if you had one? I would worry about this man and not about anyone's reactions in a club.

It was a seedy snog a month ago.

Hes probably forgotten about it.

and I’m a bit intrigued that despite being told a month ago that he’d be at the club this specific night you chose to return that specific night rather than… oh I don’t know next Saturday? As you’d surely have been worried about appearing stalkerish even with your friend? But hey… you did.