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New neighbour has asked us to stop construction until daughter has finished exams update.

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Grammarninja · 09/06/2026 18:50

So, the last thread filled up so quickly, I barely got a chance to reply to most people. I really wasn't expecting that but I was reassured by the vast majority of replies.
I always like to see a follow up so I'll post this for anyone who's interested.
Anyway, the neighbours turned down our offer of the office space for now but did say the may take us up on it in the coming weeks.
We now have issues on the other side as neighbour there has claimed that knocking our garden wall did damage to his conservatory window. Thankfully, our builders took photos of said conservatory before they knocked the wall as they've clearly been around the block a few times and cracks were there before.
Pretty sure we'll be social pariahs by the time we move in. Such a pity!
I will, of course, be delivering presents to both sets of neighbours in recognition of the hardship they're facing at the moment.

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Heretodayonly · 09/06/2026 21:38

Happyjoe · 09/06/2026 20:19

A week? No.
The original thread I think was asking them to wait 3 weeks until the exams over.

Why should anyone? It would've cost them £30k to put it back, as well as a nightmare of getting all the builders back again.
They offered noise cancelling headphones and use of an office.

Would the neighbours say the same if utilities started digging up outside their home?!! No. It's just unfortunate timing but ultimately, they are not responsible for their neighbours exams.

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I totally agree!

Kuga26 · 09/06/2026 21:32

What bee is in your bonnet @Scrumptiousy, to keep getting every post deleted?

Eddielizzard · 09/06/2026 20:38

You've bent over backwards to be accommodating. If I were your neighbour I would have been happy with what you've offered. Sadly, my neighbour isn't nearly as lovely as you... grrrrr

mumofoneAloneandwell · 09/06/2026 20:37

Thanks for the update! You've done all you can, like you said just small presents after the works are done x

Happyjoe · 09/06/2026 20:19

Heretodayonly · 09/06/2026 19:45

  1. we don't know if it's GCSEs, a levels or degree exams.
  2. different exam boards will have different finish dates.
  3. clearly they won't be over in a week if the neighbour says they may take the office offer up in the coming weeks.

A week? No.
The original thread I think was asking them to wait 3 weeks until the exams over.

Why should anyone? It would've cost them £30k to put it back, as well as a nightmare of getting all the builders back again.
They offered noise cancelling headphones and use of an office.

Would the neighbours say the same if utilities started digging up outside their home?!! No. It's just unfortunate timing but ultimately, they are not responsible for their neighbours exams.

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 09/06/2026 20:08

She said it’s the Leaving Certificate (Ireland).

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she didn’t in her original thread, everyone else said GCSEs a lot, but she posted it was about leaving cert and didn’t mention GCSEs.

Scrumptiousy · 09/06/2026 19:58

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AlohaRose · 09/06/2026 19:52

From memory the OP is in Ireland and the exams are leaving cert not A levels. I have a nephew currently doing those exams and he doesn’t finish until about 22nd June although it does depend on subjects. Most of the big ones – English, Irish, maths are out of the way now.

Crrt · 09/06/2026 19:48

It’s the leavers cert op mentioned in previous thread, 2 weeks ish left of them.

Batties · 09/06/2026 19:47

Grammarninja · 09/06/2026 19:18

Exactly this! Thank you x

Exams finish on Monday or Tuesday next week, so I’m not sure why they’re asking for 3 weeks.

Heretodayonly · 09/06/2026 19:45

Happyjoe · 09/06/2026 19:40

If read the previous thread, or above, they couldn't, builders booked. Would've cost them 30k to hold off.

  1. we don't know if it's GCSEs, a levels or degree exams.
  2. different exam boards will have different finish dates.
  3. clearly they won't be over in a week if the neighbour says they may take the office offer up in the coming weeks.
Happyjoe · 09/06/2026 19:40

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If read the previous thread, or above, they couldn't, builders booked. Would've cost them 30k to hold off.

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Tableforjoan · 09/06/2026 19:22

Sounds like your about to have a right tone of it with your joint neighbour as well.

Westpoint · 09/06/2026 19:18

Thank for the update OP - it's a rare thing oftentimes!

It sounds like the first lot of neighbours have conceded their's was a bit of an unreasonable request and have rightly backed down. Hopefully that will be it from them.

As for the 2nd lot, well done to your builders for taking 'before' photos! There's always one chancer isn't there??!

I hope the rest of the project goes without too much further stress for you, at least not from your neighbours.

Grammarninja · 09/06/2026 19:18

5foot5 · 09/06/2026 19:16

I think I remember the first thread and, IIRC, the neighbours asked for the work to be delayed for about 3 weeks, or maybe it was more, and the OP calculated this would have cost them £30k!!!

I believe her DH had offered the use of an office nearby for her to study in.

Exactly this! Thank you x

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Grammarninja · 09/06/2026 19:16

BeSunnyLion · 09/06/2026 19:13

Check the time stamps on the photos of the builder he could be lying about the damage being there, it could also be he made it worse. A home with sour neighbours isn't nice to live in no matter how fabulous.

The wall is fully up when original photo is taken.

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I think I remember the first thread and, IIRC, the neighbours asked for the work to be delayed for about 3 weeks, or maybe it was more, and the OP calculated this would have cost them £30k!!!

I believe her DH had offered the use of an office nearby for her to study in.

Poppy2520 · 09/06/2026 19:14

Poppy2520 · 09/06/2026 19:13

Ow you got me... No I mean the previous thread relating to one, whoops 👍

Sorry, *this was missed out 🤷🏻‍♀️

Poppy2520 · 09/06/2026 19:13

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 09/06/2026 19:11

Well you’ve only just come across this thread because it was only posted 14 minutes before you commented 😆.

Ow you got me... No I mean the previous thread relating to one, whoops 👍

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