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Welp i yelled so angerly at my 6 year old yesterday

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lalabugirl · 13/02/2025 00:27

I know she is not stupid, but sometimes i kinda feel she is a bit, and i can’t understand always why she does these stuff when she knows what she is doing is bad and will get scolded for it. Well yesterday i lost it.. (i use corn stratch powder under my breast bcs lot sweat..) anyways i had a 500ml bottle of it and it was pretty full, and even if i told my kid 3 times to go to sleep because she ends up having the lights on to read and that ends up she needs to go to the toilet bcs she is not sleeping or trying to. So after i told her to go back up to sleep very firmly, i thought she was sleeping until i smelled something very familiar down the living room, and omg i lost it… powder EVERYWHERE the whole stairs where covered in powder and the second floor and the attic stairs and my bed was litteraly a powder party.. the whole bottle was empty.. its not the first time she throws stuff down stairs last time it was sunscreen but it wasn’t as bad as the powder. I litteraly just don’t understand why she does it!

She is not 2-3-4 years old but soon 7! I litteraly lost it by screaming in anger «goo the F to sleep!» she was crying after that i think she got scared i have never used my voice like that before but i just lost it. Because there was litteraly no reason for her to go crazy with that powder and toss it everywhere, it was insane, powder everywhere, like i just didn’t deep clean that for 2 days ago😭 and know smell and powder everywhere.. i have punished her by no tv and no screen time. I did tell her that sneaking into moms bedrom and take stuff without asking is not ok, and it will get punishment. What else could i have done?

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Goldenbear · 13/02/2025 11:59

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I thought I wrote, 'rubbish' why are you quoting 'such nonsense' when I didn't post that.

Goldenbear · 13/02/2025 12:01

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Why do you spell clown and crusty with a K?

Simplynotsimple · 13/02/2025 12:03

Oh, and Google is an excellent resource for synonyms @Quiinkong . Instead of repeating ‘emotional intelligence’, which is starting to lose all meaning, perhaps try ‘alternative perspectives’, ‘lack of empathy’, ‘not showing awareness of differentials in social factors’. It adds flavour to what you’re saying without seeming you are just out to insult people.

Goldenbear · 13/02/2025 12:05

Quiinkong · 13/02/2025 11:58

And here you are again, trying to convince others with your high emotional intelligence that your opinion is the only correct one. You're just here showing yourself up and not really a great example as a parent either. You need to listen to what others are saying. Not all upbringings are the same or are you too emotionally intelligent to realise that? I can live with the fact that others aren't going to have the same opinions as myself because that's what makes us humans but it seems you're still far out there

How are you demonstrating, "I can live with the fact that others aren't going to have the same opinions as myself", when you literally name called me and belittled me for having an opinion based upon experience you don't agree with?

Quiinkong · 13/02/2025 12:12

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Quiinkong · 13/02/2025 12:13

Goldenbear · 13/02/2025 11:59

I thought I wrote, 'rubbish' why are you quoting 'such nonsense' when I didn't post that.

Potato potatoe, rubbish is even worse

Quiinkong · 13/02/2025 12:14

Goldenbear · 13/02/2025 12:01

Why do you spell clown and crusty with a K?

Same reason krusty is spelt with a k

Quiinkong · 13/02/2025 12:15

Simplynotsimple · 13/02/2025 12:03

Oh, and Google is an excellent resource for synonyms @Quiinkong . Instead of repeating ‘emotional intelligence’, which is starting to lose all meaning, perhaps try ‘alternative perspectives’, ‘lack of empathy’, ‘not showing awareness of differentials in social factors’. It adds flavour to what you’re saying without seeming you are just out to insult people.

Sorry, i like being predictable. Find your own source of joy elsewhere

Simplynotsimple · 13/02/2025 12:15

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I will do that, as soon as I decode whatever it is you said means. Hope your day improves from here 🙂.

TerrysCIockworkOrange · 13/02/2025 12:15

All these ‘natural consequences only’ 🙄
Sure, swearing is worth apologising for but doing something that they know is naughty - sorry but anger IS a ‘natural consequence’ and it’s actually vital that kids learn this within the safety of their family, and not have to wait until they piss someone else off and have zero coping mechanisms at all.

WhateverEh · 13/02/2025 12:16

You can be boundaried and have strict rules without shouting swear words. Being calm doesn’t equate with being a walk over. Better she learns about the relative natural consequences of poor behaviour, developing understanding/reflection skills will best help with the transition into adulthood.

A better more relevant punishment would be getting her to clean up the mess and pay/collect a replacement.

Quiinkong · 13/02/2025 12:16

Goldenbear · 13/02/2025 12:05

How are you demonstrating, "I can live with the fact that others aren't going to have the same opinions as myself", when you literally name called me and belittled me for having an opinion based upon experience you don't agree with?

Again, maybe if you hadn't called my opinion such rubbish, we wouldn't be here right now. For every action, there is a reaction. Make sure to add that to your parental lessons

Goldenbear · 13/02/2025 12:16

Quiinkong · 13/02/2025 12:14

Same reason krusty is spelt with a k

It's spelt with a C.

Quiinkong · 13/02/2025 12:18

Simplynotsimple · 13/02/2025 12:15

I will do that, as soon as I decode whatever it is you said means. Hope your day improves from here 🙂.

It truly has improved. I am realising there are all sorts of human beings on MN and your balls has to be bigger than theirs if you want to survive the keyboard warriors.

Goldenbear · 13/02/2025 12:18

Quiinkong · 13/02/2025 12:16

Again, maybe if you hadn't called my opinion such rubbish, we wouldn't be here right now. For every action, there is a reaction. Make sure to add that to your parental lessons

Ok mate!

Simplynotsimple · 13/02/2025 12:19

Goldenbear · 13/02/2025 12:16

It's spelt with a C.

I believe that poster is referring to Krusty the Clown from The Simpsons. So Krusty makes sense (though not as an insult particularly) but not Klown, as they spell that the usual way.

Simplynotsimple · 13/02/2025 12:20

Quiinkong · 13/02/2025 12:18

It truly has improved. I am realising there are all sorts of human beings on MN and your balls has to be bigger than theirs if you want to survive the keyboard warriors.

I think you’ll find that there’s very few ‘balls’ to be found on Mumsnet, so if you are the owner of a pair I suspect they win by default.

Quiinkong · 13/02/2025 12:20

Goldenbear · 13/02/2025 12:16

It's spelt with a C.

I can see you didn't watch any cartoons as a child or as an adult, it's ok though. Would you like me to recommend one to you? Or are you too emotionally intelligent to stoop to my level? Actually, you already proved you aren't, so I'll just recommend it anyway. Watch "the simpsons" (older episodes though) might help you understand my use of k instead of c

Dramatic · 13/02/2025 12:20

I have lost my temper at my kids in much the same way, I'm sure most people have. I think a momentary loss of temper in a situation like that is perfectly understandable and quite a reasonable response. If I've ever scared them I have apologised though and explained that I didn't want to scare them. She will still understand she's done wrong even if you apologise.

Quiinkong · 13/02/2025 12:21

Simplynotsimple · 13/02/2025 12:20

I think you’ll find that there’s very few ‘balls’ to be found on Mumsnet, so if you are the owner of a pair I suspect they win by default.

Stop it, you're making me blush...actually, I'm not capable of blushing, ignore me

Simplynotsimple · 13/02/2025 12:22

Quiinkong · 13/02/2025 12:21

Stop it, you're making me blush...actually, I'm not capable of blushing, ignore me

Oh I’m trying, believe me.

Goldenbear · 13/02/2025 12:22

Simplynotsimple · 13/02/2025 12:19

I believe that poster is referring to Krusty the Clown from The Simpsons. So Krusty makes sense (though not as an insult particularly) but not Klown, as they spell that the usual way.

Oh, of course. The Simpsons, very funny satire. It's probably because I don't connect the two as I don't think he's a hippy character is he, which I assume is what the poster is deriding me for.

Quiinkong · 13/02/2025 12:22

Simplynotsimple · 13/02/2025 12:19

I believe that poster is referring to Krusty the Clown from The Simpsons. So Krusty makes sense (though not as an insult particularly) but not Klown, as they spell that the usual way.

If krusty can be spelt with a k, so can klown...everything has to be explained huh

Quiinkong · 13/02/2025 12:24

Goldenbear · 13/02/2025 12:22

Oh, of course. The Simpsons, very funny satire. It's probably because I don't connect the two as I don't think he's a hippy character is he, which I assume is what the poster is deriding me for.

No no, i wasn't comparing you to him, i just said what i said. You don't have a size 15 feet , do you?

loropianalover · 13/02/2025 12:24

You lot are worse than the child!

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