Non-binary colleague using disabled toilet

Im the least progressive person i know.lol but this is a non issue. If a man with a dilly comes in the fillys bathroom then i will kick up a stink.lol

They are non binary. Whether you agree or not to that identification is irrelevant. They go to the gender neutral accessible toilet as that seems their best option. How weird people care.

Oh FFS, leave them be... They aren't harming anyone (and before I get jumped on, I'm disabled).

It may be if its due to MH

This person is just trying to go for a wee causing the least distress possible to the very critical world around them and you reported them to your manager?

I agree. With a disabled parent and knowing the struggles they could have if they couldn't get to a toilet in a timely fashion, I hated having to use the disabled toilet to change a baby when I became a mother. If only it was just about a bit of frustration at having to wait.

I'd had a childhood of my parent finding the only accessible toilet (if there was one) being used as a store storecupboard and so on. Then things seemed to have been changing for the better for a while, but now I feel it's going backwards again.

If they really think they have no sex then they are mentally ill and I'd have no issue with them using the disabled toilet.

I'm on crutches after a spinal cord injury and I have Crohn's disease - I can't wait for a toilet, so your point is? Not all disabilities are the same, you know.

Disabled/accessible toilets are the reason that I can leave my house and participate in life outside. I'm very grateful to have them.

You're not being unreasonable for questioning or objecting to this, and I think it's good if people are sticking up for people who are disabled, but you shouldn't have said anything to your manager. It just came across like you were trying to prevent them from doing something for your own satisfaction, rather that it coming from a genuine position of concern or care.

They are freely available. The system is so abused now it’s pointless. Anyone can go on Amazon and buy one

Unless they're spending hours in there I literally can't see the problem. If normal toilet use is causing a genuine problem for disabled customers then your workplace doesn't have enough facilities for everyone to use. The toilet is already multi-functional (accessible + baby change). Sounds like you're the one generating the attention OP, not your colleague.

Why are you poking your nose in who cares if they use the disabled loo

Lol don't say this to your manager OP, or you'll get into trouble.

But if there's another disabled person in the accessible toilet then a disabled person just has to wait. I've a disability and I've often come across another person in the loo. My need isn't greater than theirs and I just have to wait

Not a wind up at all.

Of course I understand this.

There are plenty of public places now where the only toilet available is an accessible toilet to save space.

Are you seriously suggesting that no one without a disability should therefore be able to use that public toilet? Or if there's a queue down the corridor in a public place for the ladies' loo, that no one should be using an accessible toilet to cut the queue down just in case someone with a disability shows up to use the accessible toilet?

Accessible toilets cannot be the exclusive preserve of people with disabilities, I'm afraid. It's just not practical given the shit provision of public loos in this country. This means sometimes, yes, people with disabilities might have to wait.

^^this

Thats what I said.
But obviously the intention was never for the bathrooms to be a free-for-all. I don’t know how so many people are trying to justify using bathrooms for those with disabilities.

I'm autistic and have had mental health issues in the past. Still wouldn't use a disabled loo unless it's one with a baby changing unit in it and I need to change my baby! So why do someone's gender feels trump someone's actual need to use a disabled loo?

Edit: I thought we weren't supposed to say gender feels were linked to mental health issues anymore anyway? Transphobe!

Use the toilet appropriate to their sex. Everyone who identifies as ‘non binary’ is either make or female.

Non binary isnt a sex. They are still male or female. Humans cannot identify out of their sex.

I them being in a single occupancy room where they will not encounter anyone of either gender but that has a picture of something on the door that distresses them, I'd say they have MH issue so using the disabled toilets is probably the best option for them.

It's madness. It's attention seeking and one day they'll look back on it and cringe. But just let them get on with it. Complaining about it just feeds into the ridiculousness.

I’m not really sure why you feel this is any of your business? Why don’t you just focus on doing your job instead of trying to drag up something that’s long been settled by the general public.

OP you still haven't explained what your actual problem is and how it affects you

If all toilets are individual then why not just make them all for everyone, except the disabled one?

I'll be glad when this "non-binary" nonsense goes out of fashion. These people are ridiculous.