School made malicious & false report to police

People saying the police would never say this, I had a similar experience (nothing to do with a school though) where the police told me almost the same thing.

I came home one day to find the police lurking in the main hallway and they had broken my door down to my flat. It turned out a minor (very minor!) leak had developed into the property downstairs and they had overreacted and called the police. It was a bank holiday so the letting agent offices were closed (although I've no idea why they automatically called the police instead of the out of hours number).

The police looked sheepish and said, well, we have to do this when we're told there's a threat to life, apparently they thought you were being attacked. I said, how funny that they could hear sounds like that from a clearly empty flat! in a joking way and they said that sometimes people exaggerate and say the right words to try force the police to come straight out.

A while later I obtained the 999 transcript. Handler said, 'we can't come out just for a leak, and we won't force entry as there's no threat to life' - it was at that point the caller fabricated hearing 'banging and crashing and screaming' and saying how worried they were. Clearly 'trigger words'!

So it does happen. I have no idea why a school would do this unless either they have something against OP or they wanted to shock her into somehow 'sorting' her DD's attendance.

There surely must be a back story for the school to be so concerned.

Police school liaison is for ongoing problems, not for reports of concerns for safety/or not having contact with a child.

The school liaison would have directed them to log an incident with police 101/999

If a teacher had dragged my child into school, I would have lost my shit. For one, I would have demanded that they let go of my child immediately and reported them for laying their hands on them.

The school sounds absolutely disgusting, and yes, you definitely need to report this. You can not send a child into school in that state, fearing school every day. It is setting them up for future mental health issues. A new school needs to be found that will suit your child's individual needs. Maybe homeschooling, if you can.

My daughter was having issues with friends at school and was really worried about going in each day. It was making her dread school. She was crying each morning. I kept her off and told the school straight that I would not send my child into an environment that negatively affected her. Report me if you wish. No one tells me how to parent my child or demand they be in school. Thankfully, they were great, and went out of their way to help put things in place. But if things hadn't changed, I would have removed her from the school.

I believe you.

I lived in a small town which had 2 primary schools; the 'posh' one that all the materialistic mums wanted their kids to go to, and the 'ordinary' one near me, which my son went to.

The posh school was fine if you fitted in. But if a child had a disability, or was not white and middle class, the school allowed the other kids to bully them, and the school itself bullied the parents.

Those children inevitably ended up transferring to the school nearest me, which was a lovely school and was very helpful with my son's difficulties - as they were with any child who needed extra assistance. It was a really happy school and that's important because unhappy kids cannot learn.

So definitely get her out of there, OP. A new start will do her the world of good.

police officers will see it was recorded as malicious.

Police will see this call was recorded as malicious, which is useful information to have. I don't think OP is suggesting that she's now got a get out of jail free card for any future police involvement, but certainly the police can and should be approaching future calls with an open mind, now that a history has been recorded - once.

You need legal advice and quickly. The contract for your childs education is between you and the education authority, the school merely delivers it. You need to speak to someone at county who supports deaf and hard of hearing children. Theyll advise you how to proceed here. Perhaps they don't know how to support her in school so they are seeing your journey with her as troublesome. Go to your clinical support at paediatrics with her hearing and explain her plight at school. They will definitely want to help you both at home and at school. Once the hearing aids are present all of her behaviours will diminish in time. They'll help you and the school. The school need to be careful that they are not discrinating against your child with a disability. That is illegal and can constitute a hate crime. But mostly liaison from paediatrics will help your child. Stay strong and keep a detailed diary of everything that happens with comms from the phone, letters and direct contact with the school; Depending upon what county say you may have help from them too. Thank goodness the police officer was so professional. Keep her informed of all developments. Because you may need her later on. The best case scenario is to have everyone working together to help your child. I think that will happen when you have all the above ducks lined up. Just keep telling yourself that you're on the way to all the support you need and spend lots of quality time with your little girl. You're her safe space. Good luck and keep us updated.

I remember your last thread, it is time to move her from that school for your own and your daughters sake.

I can absolutely believe that a police officer could say something so unprofessional, but in these circumstances I am glad they did. OP has enough to think about without worrying about police involvement.

You shouldn't have to OP, but it's probably best that you homeschool your daughter until she has her hearing aids and you have found her a better school. I wouldn't be surprised if school have planned it this way to make you leave or drag your daughter in.

I'm complex disabled (and grew up in a time where disabled right where REALLY not great) and I have an autistic DS, one with complex disabilities and one under investigation for autism.

I'm massively outspoken across mumsnet on disabled rights which you can easily check. Assuming I'm ignorant of disability (which is absoloutly nothing to do with this which is OP saying the police have decided all this insanely personal offense against the school and will block future safeguarding concerns) is literally hilarious.

Whatever the real version of this story is, schools are absolutely correct to report any concerns to the police. Just because a parent messages a school saying child has x appointment or has x illness does not mean it's true, and the school are absolutely correct to flag any concerns.

Schools are advocates for children whose carers are not treating them correctly and they absolutely need to take whatever steps necessary to fulfil this duty. If more schools took the action that this school took, there may be fewer cases of horrific events happening to children.

If the police genuinely did visit the OPs house and accept what they saw there at face value without any further investigating, I would see that as negligent on the part of the police.

Frankly schools have more than enough to do as it is without making false reports to police. Clearly something has gone on to make school staff concerned.

DH is a headteacher at a free school and says a 999 call would only be made in absolutely exceptional circumstances.

I dont necessarily agree with that, schools are not allowed to harass parents into leaving. That's unfair. If the vendetta is real then that needs rooting out first. Who ever is at the bottom of that needs to be identified. It's unprofessional. You can approach a governer of the school and ask them to help too. They will help you to get to the bottom of it Im sure.

You haven't done anything wrong so sort this out first then, if you want to leave when everything is in place and the record is set straight go then. You don't want them sending adverse reports about you to a new school, they'll currently be recording everything from their point of view and that's not fair. Stand your ground and then make a decision on what to do next.

I would personally deregister your child from the school until you find somewhere else for her to attend make it clear on the email this is with immediate effect,moving forward when finding a new school express your worries sounding you child explain her needs and work with the new school.
I would also make a formal complaint in writing, non of this is acceptable your child isn't safe , get a copy of the police report and send a copy with your complaint so they get a better understanding of the malicious behavior from the school. Op you are also entitled to request via email a copy of the complaints and concerns you have had with the school regarding your daughter.

Why?

Its tricky because now there are safeguarding concerns documented they will no doubt block home schooling

No, I meant why are the police negligent? They investigated and found the school to be harassing the parents. There was proof in the comms record that this was so. Thats a waste of police time. Deaf children need advocacy in the school environment, she wasn't getting it. A teacher has potentially assaulted said child, what would you do about that? The school are not supporting this family.

A teacher has potentially assaulted said child, what would you do about that?

OP should've reported it there and then. My OH is a primary school teacher and you just cannot put your hands on a child like that. If the teacher did drag her DD as OP is claiming, she would've been suspended pending an investigation. There presumably would've been witnesses too if it was at morning drop-off.

Dont agree that homeschooling is the answer. Her socialisation with others is important. I'd leave her in untill you've spoken to county. She'll ve more isolated than ever if she's taken out.

Are you saying that the mum of a kid in intensive care has to make sure she remembers to ring the school every day at 8:45? Bonkers!

Frequency of contact should depend on the nature of the illness just like it would for an adult. You wouldn't expect the NOK to someone in a coma to ring their work daily to say 'still on life support' so it's ridiculous that anyone would expect that with a child.

It's just common sense really. Thankfully my children's school is sensible about this - is a child is of fire 2 days because of a vomit, they don't need a phone call on the second day as it's a waste of time. Same for the first few days of chickenpox.

You need to look at other schools and consider Home Educating in the meantime if you can. There is a great Elective Home Educating facebook group that gives guidance on what is needed to EHE.