Secondary school does not allow D.Martens

It might suprise you to hear that I'm taking about defiance when referencing bad behaviour.

DMs are boots. Boots are not allowed at the school. What school does about bullying etc is a separate issue.

What evidence do you have that the OP’s DD isa good student? All Ian see is repeated refusal to follow a simple rule and threats of violence.

DMs aren’t all boots. This has been discussed endlessly if the OP would buy DM shoes there wouldn’t be an issue.

OP says she has had no other behavior problems at school, and there’s no evidence she’s lying unless we’re using the Mumsnet theory of logic, whereby any information that supports our viewpoint is true, while anything that contradicts it is a lie.

It is natural that an 11 year old frustrated by unchecked bullying would make an isolated comment about kicking a bully. That does not mean that they were the real problem all along. It means they are frustrated that the adults charged with safeguarding them can’t be bothered to do it.

It’s interesting how often schools will allow bullying to continue for months or years, and only take action against the victim when they respond. It’s almost like the “good” students are seen as low-hanging fruit that schools can crack down on to give the superficial appearance of order, whereas “bad” students are less attractive targets because they are harder to manage, and less likely to have parents that “support the school.”

The more you write @KillerTomato7 , the less I think you are a teacher or know anything about schools at all.

The height on the ankle is the pretty much the same for DMs and kickers

That is a lie and you know it.

She could wear trousers and then no one would know. You could have just bought her shoes - as I'm 100% certain the uniform policy would have stated No Boots - but you didn't.

Look, I agree with you that shoes or boots don't matter a jot when it comes to learning. But for what reason are you encouraging your daughter to be told off every single day rather than just resolving the situation? Even if you move schools, she's unlikely to be allowed to wear boots.

The more you write, the more I wonder if you are from this planet at all.

See, this is the kind of nonsense I’m talking about.

Killertomato is here! The teacher's friend. The voice of reason and font of all knowledge on the pettiness and general awfulness of schools.

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Is it? Are people and children with disabilities unable to be bullies then? Unable to be unpleasant?

I’m surprised it took you so long to get here, when this poor school needed someone ti blindly defend it. Honestly, it’s fair to say that I have supported a school’s position far more often than you have ever admitted fault.

I genuinely don’t understand who you think is impressed by your “We can do no wrong! Thou shalt support the school!” act. No one is being won over by the sheer force of your arrogance. Unless you’re not trying to persuade people and are just using the criticism to fuel a martyr complex.

if so, get down off your cross. We need the wood.

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Brilliant 👏

Dress code at a work place of mine included no DMs

@LazyArsedMagician OP did buy her DD shoes. But lets her DD wear boots instead. When the policy clearly says shoes, not boots.

@corporategreen just get her to wear shoes to school. That part of the problem is then solved.

When DD's feet grow then get her DM shoes if you really want her to wear DMs and if they are in the rules.

Focus on the bigger things...

My sister wore DMs at school. She coloured the stitching in black though because we had to have plain black shoes.

Not surprised they have an issue with them if she says they are good for kicking bullies though.