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To just NOT GET THIS?!

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Monstersare · 27/11/2024 13:36

this is a local company and this is their ‘Black Friday’ advert. WTF is it on about?!!! I’d hate to think the worst of them as they do lots of local events but…

To just NOT GET THIS?!
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Dreamingofdreaming · 28/11/2024 01:18

user942557 · 28/11/2024 00:13

Sticking my neck out here but a white working class boy living in a tower block in East London can hardly be described as privileged

He's white. He's privilege. Research. It's not my job to educate you.

https://committees.parliament.uk/committee/203/education-committee/news/156024/forgotten-white-workingclass-pupils-let-down-by-decades-of-neglect-mps-say/

Are they? Really?

user942557 · 28/11/2024 01:50

@Dreamingofdreaming Yes. I don't need to read an article to understand that a white person has privilege.

Dreamingofdreaming · 28/11/2024 01:55

user942557 · 28/11/2024 01:50

@Dreamingofdreaming Yes. I don't need to read an article to understand that a white person has privilege.

It's not just an article it's a study carried out by government into how society has failed white working class boys and why they underperform across the board compared to their peers from other ethnic groups. Read it, or not. To use your own words; It's not my place to educate you.

Garlicpest · 28/11/2024 01:58

Well, I'm not impressed. And make no apology for sharing this "Haha, can't take a joke about massive black porn actors, you humourless puritans" bullshit along with his £5 offer.

To just NOT GET THIS?!
Dreamingofdreaming · 28/11/2024 02:02

Garlicpest · 28/11/2024 01:58

Well, I'm not impressed. And make no apology for sharing this "Haha, can't take a joke about massive black porn actors, you humourless puritans" bullshit along with his £5 offer.

Wow, does he want a viable business at the end of all this?

user942557 · 28/11/2024 02:38

@Dreamingofdreaming Does it state in said study that working class white boys are disadvantaged due to their race?

user942557 · 28/11/2024 02:45

No wonder black people are still ostracised when white people still can't understand white privilege as a concept. What a sad state of affairs.

RuminationStation · 28/11/2024 06:27

There is some evidence there that White, economically disadvantaged boys are doing less well educationally than most, bar the Irish traveller community.

However, that doesn’t mean that people of colour are not still experiencing systemic racism.

It shows up in lots of ways. May be it is no longer the case that it shows up in educational achievement, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist or that people’s skin tone doesn’t create a layer of privilege or disadvantage in many ways.

White boys who claim free school meals are underperforming educationally in the U.K. according to that report.
People of colour still experience systemic and direct racism in the U.K.

Both things can be true.
Both things are wrong.
Both things need to change.

Educational attainment is just one lens.

Racism is rife. The ad was racist.

RuminationStation · 28/11/2024 06:36

user942557 · 28/11/2024 02:38

@Dreamingofdreaming Does it state in said study that working class white boys are disadvantaged due to their race?

No it doesn’t from my quick read of it.

It’s not a race issue.

I didn’t check the methodology or potential biases but on the face of it, it looks like there is some evidence that white boys who claim free school meals are underperforming educationally when compared to all bar the Irish traveller community.

It isn’t a race issue because it’s just white boys (not white girls), it’s just white boys claiming free school meals (so not white boys who don’t claim free school meals).

So no, the disadvantage is certainly not to do with having white skin. It’s socio-economic disadvantage, rather than an innate visible difference that links in to historical othering, subjugation and oppression.

It is wrong, of course, and needs tackling, all children should have the same opportunity to reach their potential regardless, but it’s not a race issue.

RuminationStation · 28/11/2024 06:49

user942557 · 28/11/2024 02:45

No wonder black people are still ostracised when white people still can't understand white privilege as a concept. What a sad state of affairs.

I know, but in fairness, unless someone tells you, you don’t know how you are treated differently because you are white.

I’ve had to educate myself and have attended anti racism talks and workshops. Listened to my friends with different heritages. I’m not sure what started me on that path but I can imagine a life where I could have remained oblivious.

Some of it’s quite subtle. Especially micro aggressions.

So I can forgive white people if they don’t notice their skin tone privilege. I don’t think about mine day to day. But I understand it’s there. What I can’t forgive is denying it exists when it’s pointed out rather than being curious and learning more. No excuse.

Fgfgfg · 28/11/2024 06:50

user942557 · 28/11/2024 00:16

@Fgfgfg Do you have any examples?

It's not my job to educate you.

user942557 · 28/11/2024 08:19

Absolutely @RuminationStation

user942557 · 28/11/2024 08:20

@RuminationStation Re white privilege. My issue is they are coming onto a thread and claiming it doesn't exist. If they were unaware then the posts on here should prompt them to think and research, instead they're just talking over us.

LoobyDoop2 · 28/11/2024 08:29

So at first glance it’s racist, and then when you understand the context of the meme it’s misogynistic as well. Triffic.

Dreamingofdreaming · 28/11/2024 08:32

Both things can be true.
Both things are wrong.
Both things need to change.

Absolutely this. I think everyone's arguing 2 sides of the same coin here. And educational attainment has a huge knock on effect to the rest of their lives and their health, life expectancy etc.

user942557 · 28/11/2024 08:37

Dreamingofdreaming · 28/11/2024 08:32

Both things can be true.
Both things are wrong.
Both things need to change.

Absolutely this. I think everyone's arguing 2 sides of the same coin here. And educational attainment has a huge knock on effect to the rest of their lives and their health, life expectancy etc.

Because you're not accepting that white people are privileged.

Dreamingofdreaming · 28/11/2024 08:48

user942557 · 28/11/2024 08:37

Because you're not accepting that white people are privileged.

I am. You're not reading what I'm saying. My point was relating to the absolute refusal that white working class boys are disadvantaged.

user942557 · 28/11/2024 08:56

@Dreamingofdreaming

user942557
Sticking my neck out here but a white working class boy living in a tower block in East London can hardly be described as privileged

He's white. He's privilege. Research. It's not my job to educate you.

https://committees.parliament.uk/committee/203/education-committee/news/156024/forgotten-white-workingclass-pupils-let-down-by-decades-of-neglect-mps-say/

Are they? Really?

You literally said exactky that ^^

Dreamingofdreaming · 28/11/2024 08:58

user942557 · 28/11/2024 08:56

@Dreamingofdreaming

user942557
Sticking my neck out here but a white working class boy living in a tower block in East London can hardly be described as privileged

He's white. He's privilege. Research. It's not my job to educate you.

https://committees.parliament.uk/committee/203/education-committee/news/156024/forgotten-white-workingclass-pupils-let-down-by-decades-of-neglect-mps-say/

Are they? Really?

You literally said exactky that ^^

You're being deliberately obtuse. If you read that study and see a culture of privilege that says more about you than me.

user942557 · 28/11/2024 08:59

@Dreamingofdreaming You aren't accepting that white people are privileged. That's the crux of it. Own it. L

Fluufer · 28/11/2024 09:18

Dreamingofdreaming · 28/11/2024 08:58

You're being deliberately obtuse. If you read that study and see a culture of privilege that says more about you than me.

Edited

White working class boys may face specific disadvantages, but they still have white privilege. White people always have white privilege, irrespective of other disadvantages they may face. It's really not a hard concept to grasp.

Dreamingofdreaming · 28/11/2024 09:18

user942557 · 28/11/2024 08:59

@Dreamingofdreaming You aren't accepting that white people are privileged. That's the crux of it. Own it. L

I am accepting of it, I can be accepting of that and still see and call out disadvantage when it's present.

RuminationStation · 28/11/2024 09:40

user942557 · 28/11/2024 08:20

@RuminationStation Re white privilege. My issue is they are coming onto a thread and claiming it doesn't exist. If they were unaware then the posts on here should prompt them to think and research, instead they're just talking over us.

I agree. See the last point in my reply.

user942557 · 28/11/2024 15:44

@Dreamingofdreaming Great! Then your response is irrelevant and unnecessary.

Dreamingofdreaming · 28/11/2024 16:01

user942557 · 28/11/2024 15:44

@Dreamingofdreaming Great! Then your response is irrelevant and unnecessary.

Who are you to determine that?